Midyear Wake-Up Call | Part 2

Midyear Wake-Up Call | Part 2

Share your midlife reinvention story with us HERE [https://stephanie197.typeform.com/to/BOdLYgvb]. You have a plan for how to succeed in the second half of the year, how to “get back on track.” And a plan, it turns out, is the most sophisticated way to actually stand still while feeling like you're moving. This is Part 2 of a special two-part midyear series on Good Life Project. In Part 1, Jonathan led a different kind of honest check-in, setting down the scorecard version of taking stock and actually looking at the one part of life that has been running quietly low. This episode is the moving part. It’s about taking action and building momentum, without waiting for a plan. In this episode, you'll explore: * Why plans fail, and why the reason is not the one you've been told. The flaw isn't you. It's how plans are built. * The difference between a plan and a move, and why only one of them has ever actually changed a life. * Seven elements that make a move more likely to survive a bad week, including Peter Gollwitzer's research on implementation intentions. * The four traps that turn a move back into a plan, and how to recognize them before they happen. * Why the middle of the year is one of the most powerful fresh start landmarks available, and almost nobody uses it. * A five-step sequence you'll work through before this episode ends, leaving with a specific move already made, not planned. This episode is for anyone who has spent the first half of this year meaning to do something and hasn't yet. Not because you lacked motivation, but because you were waiting for the right conditions that were never going to arrive. They don't have to. You just have to make one move. Episode Transcript [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/jonathan-fields-midyear-momentum-fresh-start-intention-to-action] If you LOVED this episode, you can find the 1-page worksheet HERE. [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/ws2026/] Next week, I'm sitting down with an old friend, Jessica Ortner, to explore something that most people have never tried, that looks a little ridiculous at first, and that turns out to have a surprisingly serious body of research behind it. It's called tapping. We're not going to sell it, and we're not going to dismiss it. We're going to give it a genuinely honest look: what the science does and doesn't support, who it's actually for, and then Jessica is going to guide me through a real session, live, on the episode that you can follow along with in real time. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don't miss it. Check out our offerings & partners:  * Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel [https://jonathanfields.substack.com/about] * Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Midyear Wake-Up Call | Part 1

You can hit every goal you set in January and still be running on empty in the parts of your life the list never thought to measure. That's not a failure story. That's a design flaw in the instrument most of us reach for at the midpoint of the year. Jonathan Fields has spent 14 years exploring what it takes to build a life that genuinely feels like yours. In this solo episode, he gets personal about a stretch that looked, by every external measure, like one of the best runs he'd had in years. A major work transition, real momentum in business, and every morning from 7:30 to 9, writing the first draft of his first novel. A genuinely good season. And one that was quietly drawing down on something no scorecard ever caught. What you'll explore in this conversation: * Why grading yourself against January goals in July is the least useful thing you can do at the midpoint of the year, and what to reach for instead * The three Good Life Buckets framework (Vitality, Connection, Contribution) as a practical audit tool, not an abstract idea * Two ways a bucket drains that most driven, successful people never see coming: the leak and the missing refill * Why the most dangerous bucket is often not the one that aches, but the one filling and draining at the same time * Three reckoning questions that surface something more honest than any goal list you've ever written * Why so many of us would rather stay tired and certain than rested and unsure, and what it actually costs us This is Part 1 of a two-part series. Part 2 arrives in a few days with the specific actions to take for your mid-year wake-up call. Episode Transcript [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/midyear-bucket-audit-jonathan-fields] Next week, we're coming back for part 2 of this series with Jonathan to talk about what to actually do once you've named the bucket, and why you don't need a plan for the second half of your year. You need a move. One small, real, repeatable move. And we're going to figure it out together in real time before that episode is over. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don't miss it. Check out our offerings & partners:  * Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel [https://jonathanfields.substack.com/about] * Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Healing Family Estrangement: What To Say, And What Never to Say.

Between 10 and 15 percent of mothers and 1 in 4 fathers are currently estranged from a child. If those numbers feel shocking, the harder truth might be this: most of the moves parents instinctively make once estrangement begins are the exact moves that keep the door shut. Dr. Joshua Coleman has spent more than four decades as a practicing psychologist and is a Senior Fellow with the Council on Contemporary Families. His own daughter once cut off contact with him. That experience, and everything he has learned since, shaped his work helping families find their way back to each other. He is one of the most trusted voices in the country on family estrangement and reconciliation. In this conversation, you will explore: * Why estrangement rates are at historically high levels and what massive cultural shifts are driving them * The five defensive moves parents make that almost always make things worse, including why fighting for fairness is the most damaging trap of all * What a genuinely healing apology actually sounds like, and why most apologies miss the mark entirely * Why radical acceptance and hope are not opposites, and how to hold both at the same time * How the principles of repair transfer to sibling estrangements and to grandparents cut off from grandchildren If someone you love has pulled away and you cannot figure out why, or if you are the one who has needed distance and are wondering what repair could look like, this is the conversation for it. You can find Joshua at: Website [https://drjoshuacoleman.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/dr.josh.coleman/] | Family Troubles Substack [https://joshuacolemanphd.substack.com/] | Episode Transcript [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/family-estrangement-repair-joshua-coleman] Next week, I am going solo, actually for the entire week, for a two-part midyear summer series about really taking a fresh look at where we are right now. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don't miss it. Check out our offerings & partners:  * Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel [https://jonathanfields.substack.com/about] * Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

The Caregiving Conversation Everyone Postpones Until It's Too Late.

Here is something most people never see coming: the hardest part of caring for an aging parent is not the logistics. It is the grief. The grief for who your parent used to be, for the life you thought you would be living by now, and for the version of yourself that is quietly disappearing inside a role you never planned to fill. Couple that with being there for kids, even adult kids, and it can feel like a lot. Candace Dellacona is a New York City estate attorney known as "a family's lawyer," advising families, athletes, and entertainers on estate planning, asset protection, and the full arc of what it takes to navigate a family through its most vulnerable seasons. Not just the logistics, but also the many, more nuanced shifts in identity, relationships, and responsibilities. She is also a member of the sandwich generation herself, which is what led her to launch The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide podcast [https://pod.link/1687970739]. She brings both the legal expertise and the lived experience to this conversation. What you will explore in this conversation: * Why the sandwich generation is far broader than you think, and why it applies to you even if your parents are healthy right now, or your kids are grown * The four shifts that happen inside you during a caregiving season, identity, ownership, grief, and loneliness, and why we almost never talk about them * Why the conversations about aging, death, and documents are almost always saved for the worst possible moment, and how to have them earlier in a way that actually feels like love * The three-person team that can change everything, and what each one actually does * The unexpected beauty that enters the equation in a caregiving season, the reconciliation, the closeness, the chance to usher someone you love through If you have a parent who is still healthy and you have never had a real conversation about what happens if that changes, this one is for you. You can find Candace at: Website [https://www.sandwichgenerationlaw.com/] | The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide Podcast [https://pod.link/1687970739] | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/candacedellacona/] | Episode Transcript [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/sandwich-generation-caregiving-midlife-candace-dellacona] Next week, I am sitting down with Dr. Joshua Coleman, a psychologist who has spent years studying something that is reshaping American families in ways most of us have not fully reckoned with: family estrangement. Why it is rising, what is actually driving it, and what to do if you are on either side of it. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you do not miss it. Check out our offerings & partners:  * Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel [https://jonathanfields.substack.com/about] * Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

When You Can't Stop Thinking About Something, Here's What To Do. | Donna Jackson Nakazawa

There is something your brain is spinning right now, that you may never have been given a name for or a way out of. The thought you keep replaying. The conversation you keep recasting. The reel that loads up again and again without resolution, making you feel worse each time and no closer to clarity. That is rumination. And according to the neuroscience, it is the single greatest pre-diagnostic factor for depression and anxiety we have identified, and we are all doing it more than we ever have. Donna Jackson Nakazawa is an award-winning science writer whose work sits at the intersection of neurobiology, emotion, and mental health. Her new book, Mind Drama [https://amzn.to/4e9aLuP], is the most rigorous and humane investigation of rumination yet written: what it is, why your brain does it, what it is actually trying to tell you, and how to use a specific neurobiologically grounded framework to loosen its grip. In this conversation, you will explore: * Why rumination is a survival response gone rogue, and why knowing that changes how you relate to your own spinning thoughts * What a brain scan of Donna's own ruminating mind revealed, and what those red swirls in the default mode network actually mean for your daily life * Why midlife may be the season when old ruminative patterns return with the most force, and what that signal is asking you to hear * The research showing that women ruminate at significantly higher rates than men, why this is, and what the neuroscience says about the acting-in pattern and its link to depression * The MIST framework: a four-step neurobiological practice for naming the mental movies, emotions, and somatic sensations underneath your rumination so the brain can actually let go * Why rumination is never random, always circling the question of whether you matter to the people who matter most to you If you have ever told yourself to stop thinking about something and found you could not, this conversation is for you. You can find Donna at: Healing Together Substack [https://donnajacksonnakazawa.substack.com/] | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/donnajacksonnakazawa] | Episode Transcript [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/rumination-default-mode-network-thought-spiraling-donna-jackson-nakazawa] Next week, we are sitting down with Candace Dellacona, a trust and estates attorney who is also personally in this season, to talk about the caregiving years, and what it costs you when you are pulled in every direction at once, not just logistically but in terms of who you are and who you thought you would be by now. If you are caring for an aging parent, a younger dependent, or both at the same time, this one was made for you. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts, so you do not miss any upcoming episodes. Check out our offerings & partners:  * Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel [https://jonathanfields.substack.com/about] * Visit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes [https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.