Ep. 132 - The Trap of Being the "Nice Guy"

Ep. 135 - Emotional Courage – The Way Through

What if the reason you keep going back to the same struggle isn’t a lack of discipline—but a lack of emotional courage? You can’t heal what you won’t face. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what emotional courage actually looks like for a man—how it begins with honesty, moves into the light, and leads toward real healing. If you’ve been stuck in cycles you can’t seem to break, this conversation will challenge you to take one simple, but powerful step toward freedom. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Ep. 134 - The Battle We Avoid

Most men don’t struggle with courage—they struggle with emotional courage. We’ll face pressure, responsibility, and external challenges without hesitation. But when it comes to what’s happening inside—pain, shame, and unresolved wounds—we tend to avoid it, bury it, or numb it. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why even the strongest men struggle to face their inner world, and the hidden cost of continuing to avoid it. You’ll hear a powerful story from rehab that reframes what true courage really looks like—and why ignoring what’s beneath the surface will eventually impact every area of your life. Get a copy of Steve's new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again." It is now available on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.   I am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Ep. 133 - Loving With Boundaries as a Beloved Son

What if the most loving thing you could do… is say no? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down how to love with clarity, boundaries, and identity—without losing yourself in the process or feeling like you’re being unkind. Because real love isn’t about managing people’s emotions—it’s about being grounded enough to tell the truth and stay present. And this message ties directly into my new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again." [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]is now available on Amazon. I’m giving all proceeds during this 3-day public launch that ends today to Fathers in the Field, [https://www.fathersinthefield.com/about-us/fathers-in-the-field-mission/] helping mentor boys who don’t have a father in the home. So grab a copy, pass one along to another man, and if it speaks to you, I’d be incredibly grateful if you’d take a minute to leave a review on Amazon—it really helps get this message into more hands.

Ep. 132 - The Trap of Being the "Nice Guy"

Most men think being “nice” equals being loving.  But what if it’s actually fear—fear of conflict, fear of rejection, fear of not being liked? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we expose the hidden trap of people pleasing—and how trying to keep everyone happy is quietly costing you your identity, your peace, and your relationships. And we connect it to something bigger. My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]is now available on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]—and for the first 72 hours, June 1 through June 3, I’m donating all proceeds to Fathers in the Field [https://www.fathersinthefield.com/about-us/fathers-in-the-field-mission/], a national ministry mentoring boys without fathers to help them avoid their own father eclipse. So grab a copy for yourself—and maybe one for another man—and if it impacts you, leaving a quick review on Amazon would mean more than you know.  Be blessed. I am Your Beloved" [https://open.spotify.com/track/3wNS3dTyxxEQQdfDz3yFeK?si=29c40f7f60ad4b7c]  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Ep. 131 - Why Men Shut It Down: The Cost of Living Disconnected

You weren’t born disconnected. You learned it. And what started as protection… became your way of life. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack why men shut down emotionally…how it impacts every relationship in your life… and how to begin reconnecting to the part of you that’s been buried for years. Plus—my new book "The Father Eclipse" [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1]is now available on Amazon. [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1] And for the next 72 hours, every dollar from book sales is being donated to Fathers in the Field [https://www.fathersinthefield.com/about-us/fathers-in-the-field-mission/]—a ministry mentoring boys without fathers to help them avoid a father eclipse. Thank you for following this podcast, rating it and adding your comment about how it's impacted you.  By doing that you are helping scatter seed.  Share it with another guy  and share as the Spirit leads.  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together! Also - if you need to process?  Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking [http://www.bringingkingdom.org/booking]