EP 19: How BDSM Helped Me Stop Caring What People Think (The Lesson Wasn’t About Sex)

EP 19: How BDSM Helped Me Stop Caring What People Think (The Lesson Wasn’t About Sex)

Everyone assumes this episode is about sex. It isn’t. This is one of the most personal stories I’ve ever shared. For years, I lived for other people’s approval. I was the shy girl who was terrified of disappointing everyone around her. One criticism could ruin my week. I believed I wasn’t smart enough, attractive enough, or good enough. Then life took me down a path I never expected. Ironically, the confidence I had spent my entire life searching for came from one of the most misunderstood communities in the world. This episode isn’t about convincing anyone to embrace BDSM. It’s about people-pleasing. It’s about shame. It’s about judgment. It’s about exposure therapy, confidence, self-worth, and discovering that criticism only has the power we give it. I also open up about my struggles with depression, my faith, growing up feeling “not enough,” my years in the adult industry, and the moment I finally realized that my worth is not determined by other people’s opinions. If you’ve ever worried about being judged… If you’ve ever struggled to speak up for yourself… If you’ve ever felt trapped trying to make everyone else happy… I recorded this episode for you. Because freedom begins the moment you stop asking the world for permission to be yourself. #PeoplePleasing #SelfAcceptance #Confidence #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealth #HealingJourney #FaithAndGrace #BDSM #Podcast #ChristyLove

EP 18: Phil Donlon, The Chicago Fire Star You Don’t Really Know | In Bed with Christy Love

Everyone knows him from Chicago Fire, but there’s so much more to his story. I sat down with Phil Donlon to talk about the moments that shaped him, the struggles behind the success, and the lessons that changed his life. This is the conversation beyond the TV screen.

Ep 17: I Never Believed In Myself

For most of my life, I hid behind stronger people. First it was my mom. Then it was my husband. I told myself I was easygoing, supportive, and laid back. But the truth was much harder to admit: I was terrified of responsibility because responsibility meant I could fail. In this deeply personal episode, I share the childhood moment that planted the seed of self-doubt, how I spent years avoiding decisions, what happened when my husband was sentenced to 30 years in prison, and the depression that left me praying, “God, please help me get out of bed.” From starting a wedding photography business with zero experience, to forgetting the code to my lockbox during a season of overwhelming stress, to stepping onto a comedy stage terrified of bombing, this episode is about the fear of not being enough and the surprising truth I discovered about confidence. Because confidence isn’t never feeling scared. It’s moving forward anyway. If you’ve ever questioned yourself, doubted your abilities, struggled with responsibility, battled insecurity, or wondered if you’re capable of more than you’re currently living, this episode is for you. Maybe you don’t need more confidence. Maybe you need proof. And maybe you’ve been stronger than you think all along. #InBedWithChristyLove #SelfWorth #PersonalGrowth #Confidence #MentalHealth #OvercomingFear #Resilience #FaithJourney #SelfDiscovery #PodcastLife

Ep 16: Lucky Starr: The Truth Behind the Name Nobody Talks About

Everyone knows the name Lucky Starr, but very few know the woman behind it.In this episode of In Bed with Christy Love, Lucky opens up about the moments that shaped her life, the challenges people never see, and what it’s really like living behind a public persona. We talk about success, identity, relationships, reinvention, and the lessons she’s learned along the way.This is the side of Lucky Starr you’ve probably never heard before.

EP 15: When Judging People Is Easier Than Understanding Them

It’s easy to judge someone when you only know one version of their story. One headline. One label. One moment. And suddenly… people stop seeing a human being and start seeing a category. In this episode, Christy reflects on the internet reaction surrounding the death of Leo — the owner of OnlyFans — and why the celebration around his death affected her more than the news itself. Because underneath the comments, the outrage, and the moral superiority… was something deeper: The reality of how quickly people judge things they’ve never personally needed to survive. From navigating financial pressure during COVID… to surviving one of the hardest seasons of her life while her husband was in jail… this episode explores the uncomfortable space between survival and perception. Because sometimes… the very thing people condemn is the same thing helping someone stay afloat. And maybe the problem isn’t that people are too different. Maybe it’s that we’re too quick to assume we understand each other.