Survivor or victim? (TW: content about rape)

Black Women Living Abroad with Nthabiseng Nooe and Neo Dipate [Part 2]

In this series I chat with Black women about their lived experiences of living abroad. Nthabiseng (@nthabiwabi /Nthabynooe) is a South African who has been living in Denmark for over a year, pursuing further education.  Neo (@sandra_neo) was born in Botswana, and has been living in England with her family for the past 10 years.  In this first part of the Black Women Living Abroad series, Nthabiseng and Neo shared the journey of how they ended up living abroad. In this second part of this conversation we unpack how being a Black woman has shaped their personal experiences of living abroad by unpacking experiences of crime, racism, xenophobia and cost of living. Music by Blaklez, PDOT O and Ntate Stunna: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FIssXeDp3ok

Black Women Living Abroad with Rudo Christine

In this episode I reconnect with my childhood best friend Rudo Christine (@christiner810), who was born in Zimbabwe and has been living in America for 13 years.  We chat about racism and xenophobia, but also about the advantages of being a young person from Africa in America.  She may have coined the term "African Privilege" and I love it. Music: Changes x Black Sabbath: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKrz8BRvwQM Going through changes x Eminem : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rc9F_mUCp4U

Black Women Living Abroad with Nthabiseng Nooe and Neo Dipate [Part 1]

In this series I chat with Black women about their lived experiences of living abroad. Nthabiseng (@nthabiwabi /Nthabynooe) is a South African who has been living in Denmark for over a year, pursuing further education.  Neo (@sandra_neo) was born in Botswana, and has been living in England with her family for the past 10 years.  In this first part of the Black Women Living Abroad series, Nthabiseng and Neo share the journey of how they ended up living abroad. In the second part of this conversation we unpack how being a Black woman has shaped their personal experiences of living abroad by unpacking experiences of crime, racism, xenophobia and cost of living. Music by Blaklez, PDOT O and Ntate Stunna: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FIssXeDp3ok

Black Love with YouTube couple, the Viks

In this episode YouTube couple, The Viks (@wearetheviks) share their experience of Black Love.. Music by Magdy Haddad: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=noIyZdwh-Jo

Survivor or victim? (TW: content about rape)

[This is a repost from a few weeks ago]  In this episode I share my reflections about how messed up it is to expect people to comfort you about their traumas.  I.e. please don't listen to this and message me about how sorry you are.  That makes me feel uncomfortable and pressured to give you comfort about my trauma.  Also don't go around insisting people are survivors (if that's not how said people identify) because you need their trauma to mean something greater.  I am not here to inspire you.  Also you are complicit in rape culture if you participate in making it so damn hard and uncomfortable for us to be rape victims in peace.   Sources referred to: 5 Reasons Why I Identify As a Rape Victim, Not a Rape Survivor: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/07/rape-victim-not-a-rape-survivor/ [https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/07/rape-victim-not-a-rape-survivor/] Inspiration Porn: Why We Need to Stop Tokenizing Survivors: https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/survivor-stories/ [https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/survivor-stories/] James is Dead: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Op14XhETfBw&feature=emb_logo [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Op14XhETfBw&feature=emb_logo] Born to Kwaito:  Music by Bongo Maffin: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdIz7UNE5Mc