Life and Love by Design

EP. 39: “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me”

9 min · 1. Juli 2026
Episode EP. 39: “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me” Cover

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I was shocked when I read the title of this Reddit story! My daughter brought it to my attention, and I knew I had to make a podcast episode about it. Not just because I’m a relationship coach, but because I’ve lived through this before, too.  I’ve had the “you changed” conversation before. And the more I work with couples, the more I see this conversation come up. And honestly, it’s normal! Because we are all changing all the time. So how do we work through this period of change without resenting each other?  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the Reddit story, “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me.” First of all, you can tell the author of this post is hurting. But I don’t entirely think it’s her husband's fault. Actually, I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault. Tune in to this week’s episode to hear my thoughts on this shocking Reddit story and what solutions I have for this couple during this season of change.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

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Episode EP. 39: “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me” Cover

EP. 39: “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me”

I was shocked when I read the title of this Reddit story! My daughter brought it to my attention, and I knew I had to make a podcast episode about it. Not just because I’m a relationship coach, but because I’ve lived through this before, too.  I’ve had the “you changed” conversation before. And the more I work with couples, the more I see this conversation come up. And honestly, it’s normal! Because we are all changing all the time. So how do we work through this period of change without resenting each other?  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the Reddit story, “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me.” First of all, you can tell the author of this post is hurting. But I don’t entirely think it’s her husband's fault. Actually, I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault. Tune in to this week’s episode to hear my thoughts on this shocking Reddit story and what solutions I have for this couple during this season of change.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

1. Juli 20269 min
Episode EP. 38: Reclaim Your Power & Become the Next Level Woman Cover

EP. 38: Reclaim Your Power & Become the Next Level Woman

Reclaiming your power is about more than blaming others for your problems. It’s about giving yourself the life you’ve always wanted. The life you’ve put on the back burner and now have the motivation to make it happen for yourself.  So many of my clients say that they want to make a personal transformation. They want to treat themselves better, they want to deepen their relationships, and they want to be more fulfilled. Which is why they joined the Next Level Program.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to reclaim your power and become the Next Level woman. The life you want is within your reach! You just need the guidance and structure to make it happen. In the Next Level Woman program, I’ll guide you through the 5 Pillars I use to set my clients up for success.  Tune in to hear more about how to reclaim your power and how we’ll use the 5 Pillars to design your most amazing life!  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

24. Juni 202634 min
Episode EP. 37: What If the Problem Isn't Them? Stop Focusing on Everyone Else's Faults Cover

EP. 37: What If the Problem Isn't Them? Stop Focusing on Everyone Else's Faults

Every single person I know does the same thing. They believe that they know all their loved one’s faults. Not only that, they attach meaning to all those faults. So “he’s home late” becomes “he doesn’t want to spend time with me.”  There’s always a problem, and it’s never their fault. It’s always someone else causing the issues. But what if that wasn’t true? What if this funny little habit of blaming someone else was the cause of their distance?  In this week’s episode, we’re exploring the question: what if the problem isn’t them? If your partner isn’t the problem, and the meaning you created is actually the problem, maybe you are the one causing the problems in the relationship. I’ve noticed that a few of my clients are focusing on everyone else’s faults when, really, they need to look inward to find a solution.  Tune in to this week’s episode to hear why your partner isn’t the problem and how to identify when you are actually creating the problems.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

17. Juni 202613 min
Episode EP. 36: What Your Resentment is Trying to Tell You Cover

EP. 36: What Your Resentment is Trying to Tell You

Resentment is a common feeling in relationships. It happens when one or both partners feel like they aren’t being appreciated by the other, and they don’t know how to fix it. That’s where I come in.  Resenting your partner doesn’t mean you have to end the relationship. I rarely see partners who resent each other break up after relationship coaching. Because resentment isn’t an emotion that automatically triggers divorce. It is, however, a catalyst for change.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about what your resentment is trying to tell you. I have a couple I’ve been coaching through a season of resentment, and I thought that by sharing it, I could help more couples take the first step towards mending their relationships. This is all anonymous, of course, but I will be sharing the strategies used to help my clients identify their resentment and how they could heal their relationship.  Tune in to hear what this couple's resentment was telling them and how I coached them through this season of resentment towards a healthier version of their relationship.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/ Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

10. Juni 202616 min
Episode EP. 35: Why Successful, High-Achieving Women Attract Disloyal Men Cover

EP. 35: Why Successful, High-Achieving Women Attract Disloyal Men

Shakira, Beyoncé, and Megan Thee Stallion have all been publicly cheated on, and that kind of betrayal can send shockwaves out to all of womankind. These are the most beautiful, talented, successful women in their fields, and they STILL got cheated on. If they are not worthy of loyalty, who is?  That’s exactly the question I want to dissect today, specifically because it’s the wrong one. You did not make your partner cheat on you. And I’m sure you’ve heard that you have to do everything you can to keep a man, even if it means compromising your success. But not even that will save you, because your success is not the reason why men cheat.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about why successful, high-achieving women attract disloyal men. I believe that is the right question we should be asking ourselves. Rather than blame the woman for the man’s behavior, we should look at what qualities disloyal men are targeting and how you can protect yourself from someone who may want to take advantage of you.  Tune in to find out what you’re doing to attract cheaters, and what you can do about it.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on:Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

3. Juni 202612 min