Why You Don't Know What You Want Anymore (And How to Start Figuring It Out)

Why You Don't Know What You Want Anymore (And How to Start Figuring It Out)

For years, many women have been asking the same questions:  What needs to be done next? Who needs me? What's the priority?  Then midlife arrives, and suddenly a new question appears:  What do I want?  And surprisingly, many of us don't know how to answer it.  In this episode, Lori explores why so many midlife women struggle to identify their own desires, preferences, and dreams after years of focusing on responsibilities, caregiving, and taking care of everyone else.  You'll learn:  *  Why decision fatigue is real in midlife  *  How years of responsibility can disconnect us from our own preferences  *  Why "I don't know" may not be the whole story  *  A powerful coaching question that can help you uncover what you really want  *  Practical ways to reconnect with curiosity, interests, and possibility  *  Why figuring out what you want doesn't require a midlife crisis  If you've ever felt stuck, uncertain, or disconnected from your own desires, this episode will help you understand why—and show you how to start listening to yourself again.   Because maybe the question isn't, "What's wrong with me?"   Maybe the question is, "What would I say if I did know?"   If you liked this episode, please share it with a friend! And if you loved this episode, please rate the show and leave a review so others can find it, too.   You can also follow me on my socials: Instagram: @loribuckcoaching Facebook: Lori Buck Coaching Website: www.loribuckcoaching.com  Email: lori@loribuckcoaching.com

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Why do so many women feel lonely in midlife—even when they're surrounded by people? In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori explores the surprising reasons loneliness often shows up during the empty nest and midlife years. Sometimes the problem isn't a lack of people. Sometimes it's the loss of the roles, routines, and connections that once filled our days. You'll learn: *  Why friendship feels different in midlife  *  How major life transitions can create unexpected loneliness  *  The thought patterns that can make loneliness worse  *  Why being needed is not the same as being known  *  Three practical ways to create more connection in this season of life  If you've ever looked around at a full life and still felt disconnected, this episode will help you understand what's really happening—and what you can do next. As always, Lori combines practical coaching tools, encouragement, and a little midlife humor to help you navigate this season with more confidence and intention. If you liked this episode, please share it with a friend! And if you loved this episode, please rate the show and leave a review so others can find it, too.   You can also follow me on my socials: Instagram: @loribuckcoaching Facebook: Lori Buck Coaching Website: www.loribuckcoaching.com  Email: lori@loribuckcoaching.com

What 55 Episodes Taught Me About Midlife Women

One year. Fifty-five episodes. Countless conversations with women navigating midlife.  When I started Loving That Midlife, I hoped to encourage women through the challenges of this season. What I didn't expect was how much I would learn from all of you.  In this special anniversary episode, I'm sharing the biggest patterns I've noticed after a year of podcasting, coaching, and talking with midlife women. From emotional overload and identity shifts to grief, people-pleasing, and self-criticism, we'll explore what women are really struggling with—and why I have more hope than ever.  If you've ever wondered whether you're doing midlife "right," this episode is a reminder that you're probably doing better than you think.  In this episode, you'll learn:  *  Why so many midlife women feel emotionally exhausted  *  The difference between failing and grieving  *  How midlife exposes patterns that have been there all along  *  Why women are often their own harshest critics  *  What gives me hope after a year of conversations with women just like you  Plus, I'll share a recent anniversary trip to Alaska that reminded me of one of the most important lessons of midlife: life is rarely all good or all bad—it's usually both.   Whether you've been listening since Episode 1 or you're brand new to the podcast, thank you for being part of this community. Here's to another year of learning to love the life we're living right now. If you liked this episode, please share it with a friend! And if you loved this episode, please rate the show and leave a review so others can find it, too.   You can also follow me on my socials: Instagram: @loribuckcoaching Facebook: Lori Buck Coaching Website: www.loribuckcoaching.com  Email: lori@loribuckcoaching.com

How to Actually Enjoy Your Family on Vacation in Midlife

Family vacations can create beautiful memories… and also reveal every unresolved stress response you have. In this relatable summer episode, Lori Buck shares the realities of vacation prep in midlife: the packing, planning, overstimulation, hormonal stress, travel anxiety, emotional labor, and pressure women often carry while trying to make sure everyone else has a good time. This episode will help you: *  stop trying to manage everyone’s emotions,  *  lower unrealistic expectations,  *  enjoy your family without over-functioning,  *  and remember that you deserve to enjoy the vacation too.  If you’re navigating midlife, perimenopause, parenting adult kids, or simply trying to survive summer travel season with your sanity intact, this conversation will make you feel seen. If you liked this episode, please share it with a friend! And if you loved this episode, please rate the show and leave a review so others can find it, too.   You can also follow me on my socials: Instagram: @loribuckcoaching Facebook: Lori Buck Coaching Website: www.loribuckcoaching.com  Email: lori@loribuckcoaching.com

Wake Up to Your Life: How to Find Purpose in the Midlife In-Between

Have you ever found yourself with more space than you've had in years — and somehow that space feels more uncomfortable than you expected? You're not broken. You might just be in the midlife in-between.  In this episode, Lori gets real about her own experience navigating the season after homeschooling ended, her kids grew up, and her days stopped being built around everyone else's needs. And she talks about what she's learning — for herself and with her clients — about how to actually wake up to the life that's right in front of you.  In this episode, you'll hear about:    •  The three things that tangle together in the midlife in-between: lost identity, lost voice, and drift    •  Why "I don't know what I want" is almost never the whole truth — and the coaching question that bypasses it    •  How to use journaling to reclaim a voice you've kept quiet for years    •  Why rhythm matters more than a schedule — and how the things you do consistently become who you're becoming    •  The most important mindset shift for women who are waiting for a better season to start living this one  Plus — a Midlife Moment about what it actually feels like to have 8am to 6pm mostly to yourself for the first time in decades. (Spoiler: it's a little strange. And also kind of good.)  This one is personal. And it might be exactly what you needed to hear today.  If you liked this episode, please share it with a friend! And if you loved this episode, please rate the show and leave a review so others can find it, too.   You can also follow me on my socials: Instagram: @loribuckcoaching Facebook: Lori Buck Coaching Website: www.loribuckcoaching.com  Email: lori@loribuckcoaching.com