74: Shame Isn't a Boundary: Stop Policing Normal Human Behavior

75: That Never Ending Feeling That You're Not Enough

In this episode, Minaa B. addresses the persistent feeling of not being enough that many people carry from childhood emotional neglect. She explores what emotional neglect teaches about worth—that love is conditional, needs are too much, and you're fundamentally lacking—and why this wound is so hard to heal. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

74: Shame Isn't a Boundary: Stop Policing Normal Human Behavior

In this episode, Minaa B. explores a pattern she's seeing: people using morally charged, shame-based language to control others' behavior instead of exercising their own agency through boundaries. She examines how terms like "invasive," "rude," and "offensive" are used to police normal communication behaviors rather than to develop assertiveness and boundaries. Minaa breaks down where your agency actually lies and offers eight strategies for exercising it rather than policing behavior. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

73: You Don't Have Imposter Syndrome, You Have a Scarcity Blueprint

In this episode, Minaa B. reframes imposter syndrome as a scarcity blueprint—a relational pattern learned in childhood, not a personal failing. She explores the roots of chronic self-doubt through the first dimension of The Siblinghood Theory: Competition and Scarcity. Minaa examines how growing up competing with siblings and peers for limited love, attention, and recognition creates a blueprint of "I'm not good enough" that follows you into adulthood. She breaks down what happens when you watch others receive what you can't access, when love feels conditional on performance, when nothing you do is ever good enough, and when wanting recognition is treated as selfish. She then offers eight strategies for revising your scarcity blueprint and internalizing your worth. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

72: Sibling Codependency: When You Can't Function Apart

In this episode, Minaa B. explores sibling codependency—when closeness crosses into enmeshment and siblings can't function independently. She defines what sibling codependency looks like, why it develops and gives special attention to twins who are often expected to be a single unit rather than two separate people. Minaa then breaks down the crucial distinction between codependency and healthy closeness, and offers strategies for separating while staying connected through healthy boundary differentiation, emphasizing that you can individuate and still maintain a meaningful sibling bond. Resources Work with me: ⁠Book a 1:1 therapy consultation⁠ [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: ⁠minaab.com⁠ [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here⁠ [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: ⁠Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] ⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  ⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

71: Are You The Functional Eldest Child? How Parentification Impacted Middle & Younger Siblings

In this episode, Minaa B. challenges the narrative that only eldest daughters are parentified by giving voice to middle and younger children who were forced to become the "functional eldest" in their families. She explores five key reasons why middle and younger children end up carrying adult responsibilities and how parentification fundamentally distorts sibling relationships by creating resentment. She offers concrete strategies for navigating these damaged relationships and retiring from the parentified role as an adult. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]