What 30 Years of Women's Pain Has Taught Me

The Invisible Load Women Don’t Realize They’re Carrying

You are not just carrying your life. You are carrying everything that keeps everyone else’s life running. In this episode, Perry names something many women feel but rarely articulate — the invisible load. This is not just about tasks or responsibilities. It is the constant mental tracking, emotional attunement, and anticipatory thinking that happens in the background of daily life. If you’ve ever felt tired without knowing why… If you’ve ever sat down to rest but couldn’t fully relax… If you’ve ever felt like your mind never truly turns off… This conversation is for you.

Why Strong Women Struggle to Ask for What They Need

In this episode, Perry explores why so many women struggle to say no, ask for what they need, or speak up without guilt. She weaves together psychology, history, culture, and nervous system science to help you understand that your difficulty with boundaries is not a personal failure — it’s an adaptation. If you’ve ever rehearsed what you wanted to say and then softened it… If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you weren’t… If you’ve agreed to something that drained you and later felt resentful… This conversation is for you.

Why Boundaries Are So Hard for Women (And Why It’s Not Your Fault)

Oxygen for Women Podcast with Perry Janssen Boundaries are not hard because you are weak. They are hard because you were conditioned not to have them. In this episode, Perry explores why so many women struggle to say no, ask for what they need, or speak up without guilt. She weaves together psychology, history, culture, and nervous system science to help you understand that your difficulty with boundaries is not a personal failure — it’s an adaptation. If you’ve ever rehearsed what you wanted to say and then softened it… If you’ve ever said “I’m fine” when you weren’t… If you’ve agreed to something that drained you and later felt resentful… This conversation is for you.

The Rollercoaster of Grief

Grief is not the neat stages we were taught to expect. It's waves, surprises, moments you think you're okay and then suddenly you're not. In this deeply personal episode, Perry shares her family's recent loss and decades of experience working with grief. She explores what grief actually feels like, why it doesn't move in straight lines, and how we learn to live with it without rushing ourselves out of it. If you've ever felt confused by your grief or wondered why it doesn't follow a predictable path, this conversation is for you.

What 30 Years of Women's Pain Has Taught Me

For more than 30 years, women have sat across from Perry and shared their stories—their exhaustion, heartbreak, shame, anger, trauma, and the fear of being too much or never being enough. This episode distills the profound lessons learned from three decades of listening to women's pain. Perry shares that women's pain is not personal failure or weakness. It's often a response to living in a world that's asked women to bend, shrink, endure, and disappear to belong. This is not theory. It's truth learned from real lives, real bodies, real spirits, and real hearts.