Ep. 16 When Correction Becomes Identity | The Parenting Apocalypse: Criticism

Ep. 16 When Correction Becomes Identity | The Parenting Apocalypse: Criticism

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/fan_mail/new Got a question or a future episode idea? Email me: julie@parentforward.com Criticism often sounds reasonable, but it can quietly teach our kids a story about who they are. I explore how timing, labels, and a critical spirit can break connection and how we can begin again with grace.  • the moment where correction pulls in history and becomes personal  • how repeated criticism forms identity rather than growth  • Dr Gary Chapman’s story about affirmation first  • why timing determines meaning in parent feedback  • my “bad at math” label and how it changed  • Eli’s “troublemaker” identity and what naming goodness did  • the critical spirit as a posture that spreads  • how our view of God’s voice shapes our parenting voice  If this episode was helpful to you, you can rate the podcast, leave a review, or share it with somebody who would benefit.  You can also come hang out with me on Instagram at @JulieLuse or at @ParentForwardPodcast. And on my website, parentforward.com, where I share additional resources for parents who want to grow in this work.  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/support] Let’s Stay Connected: * Instagram: @parentforwardpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/parentforwardpodcast] * Website: www.parentforward.com [https://www.parentforward.com]

Ep. 15 Four Patterns That Break Connection in Your Home | The Parenting Apocalypse Series

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/fan_mail/new Got a question or a future episode idea? Email me: julie@parentforward.com We name the “Parenting Apocalypse” as an unveiling of the small communication patterns that quietly shape our homes over time. We connect Gottman’s Four Horsemen with parenting and spiritual formation so we can notice what is happening beneath the surface and choose a better way with our kids.  • defining “apocalypse” as an unveiling that brings hidden patterns into the light  • introducing Gottman’s Four Horsemen as predictors of relationship breakdown  • translating criticism defensiveness contempt and stonewalling into everyday parenting moments  • explaining why repeated patterns are formational for children and shape identity and safety  • connecting relational neuroscience with scripture on the power of words  • practicing “name it to tame it” as the first step toward real change  • reflecting on a story of a stressed moment that lands as shame  • inviting gentle noticing this week and previewing criticism as the next focus  If this episode resonated with you, it would mean a lot if you rated the podcast, left a review, or shared it with a friend. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/support] Let’s Stay Connected: * Instagram: @parentforwardpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/parentforwardpodcast] * Website: www.parentforward.com [https://www.parentforward.com]

Episode 14: Let Me Tell You Where I’ve Been | The Stories Behind My Voice and Why I See Parenting the Way I Do

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/fan_mail/new This episode is a little different. Instead of teaching or offering a framework, I’m inviting you into the story behind the voice you’ve been listening to. Because what you’re hearing on this podcast isn’t just ideas or strategies. It’s a lens. A way of seeing parenting, formation, and people that has been shaped over time through real experiences, questions, loss, and growth. And the truth is, if you’re going to trust me to walk with you in your parenting, you deserve to know where that lens comes from. I’ll be honest, this isn’t the easiest thing for me to do. Talking about myself has never been natural. But I’m learning that this might actually be one of the most important gifts I can offer you. Not a polished version of parenting, but an honest one. If you’ve noticed some gaps in recent episodes, this will also help you understand why. A lot has shifted in my life since last August. New seasons, new roles, new questions about who I’m becoming and how I want to show up. Along the way, two words found me. Resilience and reflection. Or maybe even remembering. Looking back in order to move forward. And what I began to realize is that the work God does in us doesn’t stay contained. It shows up in how we parent, how we listen, how we respond, and how we see our kids. So today, I want to walk you through some of the stories that have shaped the way I see parenting and spiritual formation. THE STORIES THAT SHAPED MY VOICE 1. The Rule Follower - If rules don’t create a good life… what does? 2. The Non-Readers - Who we believe we are shapes who we become. 3. The Hitchhiker - Every person carries a story. 4. Stepping Into Stories - God meets me there and takes it somewhere I never could have planned on my own. 5. A Tension in Faith - Have we hit a ceiling in how we understand spiritual life? 6. Friends University and an Unexpected Invitation - That’s where I asked God for two things that felt almost impossible.  7. Loss, Redemption, and Trust - Sometimes trust is the only thing we have to hold onto. 8. Finding Language for What I Knew All Along - It finally had language.  And that’s what eventually became Parent Forward. In This Episode: David Benner's Book: The Gift of Being Yourself [https://amzn.to/4vnuvmy]  The Next Right Thing Podcast by Emily P Freeman - Episode 382: A Reset List for your Soul [https://emilypfreeman.com/podcast/382/] You can reach out on Instagram @julieluse or @parentforwardpodcast or connect with me directly. Can always email me julie@parentforward.com [julie@parentforward.com]  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/support] Let’s Stay Connected: * Instagram: @parentforwardpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/parentforwardpodcast] * Website: www.parentforward.com [https://www.parentforward.com]

Episode 13: God is not quite like that | Advent Series part 4

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/fan_mail/new Episode Summary In this episode, we sit with one of the most tender and often misunderstood names of God: Emmanuel, God with us. For many of us, “God with us” sounds beautiful… but feels far away, especially when grief, loneliness, shame, or exhaustion are pressing in. Instead of offering explanations or tidy theology, this episode makes space for honesty, lament, and presence. We explore how Emmanuel did not begin in the manger, but in the cry of an enslaved people where God first revealed himself as the One who sees, knows, and comes near. Not to rush us forward, but to sit beside us. This episode is for anyone who feels weary this Christmas. For anyone who doesn’t need fixing, only companionship. Exodus 3:7–8 (NIV) “The Lord said, ‘I have indeed seen the misery of my people in Egypt. I have heard them crying out… and I am concerned about their suffering. So I have come down to rescue them…’” This is the birthplace of Emmanuel, the God who sees, knows, and comes down to be with his people. Mentioned in This Episode The Joyful Journey: Listening to Emmanuel [https://amzn.to/3Li09zs] by Dr. James Wilder, Anna Kang, John Loppnow and Sungshim Loppnow  The Rabbit Listened  [https://amzn.to/496XYXj]by Cory Doerrfeld [read to you by me - on instagram [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSnvlthDNL8/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==]] Emmanuel Journaling Bonus Episode. Interested? Email me: Julie@ParentForward.com Closing Prayer [inspired by The Rabbit Listened] Father God, I don’t need you to fix this right now. I don’t need answers. I don’t need explanations. I just need you here. Father, sit with me in this place. This place I don’t know how to clean up. This place I don’t know how to name. This place that still hurts. I bring you the grief I can’t carry, the anger I don’t know what to do with, the exhaustion that won’t lift, and the ache that words can’t reach. Father, you see me. You know what this feels like from the inside. And you’re not afraid of any of it. So stay with me, Emmanuel. Hold what I cannot. Carry what is too heavy. Be near enough that I can breathe again. I don’t need to feel better. I don’t need to be okay. I just need to know that I am not alone. And I trust, even here, that you are with me. In your name, Father. Amen. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/support] Let’s Stay Connected: * Instagram: @parentforwardpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/parentforwardpodcast] * Website: www.parentforward.com [https://www.parentforward.com]

Episode 12: Treasuring What We Never Expected | Advent Series part 3

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/fan_mail/new The moment my hand met the cold stone in Nazareth, the story shifted from stained glass to skin. We meet Mary not as a distant icon but as a teenage girl in a small, ordinary room whose life was interrupted by impossible news and who chose to treasure and ponder rather than shut down. That posture becomes our guide for Advent, a way of holding confusion without losing the thread of hope. I share the journey from jet lag to the Church of the Annunciation, down into the grotto that tradition calls Mary’s home, and how that space reframed Luke’s quiet line: she treasured these things and pondered them in her heart. We explore what treasuring means in practice and why it matters for a restless brain. When stress closes in, the amygdala narrows attention to threat. By pausing to let a small mercy land, a kind word, a warm touch, a moment of ease, we feed our nervous system evidence of safety and let goodness register long enough to become memory. The road then winds to Bethlehem, where a glittering tree clashes with the raw reality of a birth in a cave. With help from older Christian symbolism, the evergreen becomes more than décor: life that holds through winter, light threaded into darkness. The problem isn’t the tree; it’s the pressure we wrap around it. When we let go, the symbol points us back to Mary’s reality and our own: God arriving in ordinary places amid noise, scarcity, and uncertainty. You’ll leave with a simple daily practice for December: name one small mercy and give it ten extra seconds. Write it down, breathe it in, whisper thank you. It won’t erase the hard parts, but it will widen your capacity to feel God’s nearness, not just think about it. If this conversation helped you slow down and find light in ordinary moments, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs calm, and leave a review so others can discover these grounded practices. What small mercy will you treasure today? Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2461364/support] Let’s Stay Connected: * Instagram: @parentforwardpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/parentforwardpodcast] * Website: www.parentforward.com [https://www.parentforward.com]