Ep. 58 - Why You Feel Nothing When You Try to Feel with Parm Bains

Ep. 58 - Why You Feel Nothing When You Try to Feel with Parm Bains

In this episode, we get into how the questions we often begin with when we start to do the work can lead us to dead ends, and how and why the mind hijacks your inner work by turning it into performance. My guest Parm Bains is a brilliant coach. In this episode, he shares his own story about losing his father, his insights into getting free of the mind's traps, and what happens when we choose from a place of peace instead of fear. The numbness you keep hitting isn't a malfunction. It's a strategy. You built it because it worked... and it's still doing its job. Mentioned in this episode * Connect with Parm: https://www.parmbains.com/ [https://www.parmbains.com/] | Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parmbainsflow/ [https://www.instagram.com/parmbainsflow/] * Take the free Reconnection Code assessment: https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app [https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app] * More from Dave: davelishansky.com [davelishansky.com]

Ep. 57 - The Escape Hatch That's Prolonging Every Fight

Most of us were taught that great communication is the foundation of a great relationship. But that idea has a shadow side nobody talks about — and it's  making your fights longer, harder, and more damaging than they need to be. In this episode, we name the hidden expectation that turns a solvable moment of frustration into a full-blown conflict: your need for justice. The belief that before you listen, before you soften, before you show up — she needs to earn it. That expectation is an escape hatch. And every time you take it, you miss the moment that could have changed everything. Mentioned in this episode: Find out how you show up in conflict — take the free Reconnection Code assessment: your-reconnection-code.lovable.app [your-reconnection-code.lovable.app] Learn more about Dave's work: davelishansky.com [http://davelishansky.com/] Connect on Instagram: @dave_lishansky [https://www.instagram.com/dave_lishansky/]

Ep. 56 - When the Honeymoon Phase Ends

We've all heard the old story about the honeymoon phase — the spark fades, the attraction cools, and what's left is companionship if you're lucky. This episode flips that. What if the end of the honeymoon phase isn't a slide into boredom, but an invitation into the relationship you've actually been looking for all along? We get into what keeps two people attracted and alive together long after the newness wears off — and why so much of it comes down to letting the struggle in your relationship change you, instead of quietly building the case against her in your head. We also sit with the harder side of this: what happens when you're the one being resented, and how much agency you still have in that moment. It comes back to being seen in your wholeness — fallible, human, still growing — and why that, not freshness, is the stuff of long-lasting love. If conflict keeps spiraling out of nowhere, the free assessment below will help you find the pattern underneath it. Don't go it alone. Mentioned in this episode * Reconnection Code assessment (free, 3 minutes): https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app [https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app] * Pain-Free Conflict workshop: https://painfreeconflict.lovable.app [https://painfreeconflict.lovable.app] * Instagram: @dave_lishansky [https://www.instagram.com/dave_lishansky/]

Ep. 18 - The Nice Guy Problem (Re-Air)

Most of us were never taught that being nice could be the problem. In this episode, we get underneath one of the most common — and most invisible — patterns men carry into their closest relationships: the nice guy default. Not cruelty, not neglect, but something harder to see. A performance of goodness that functions as armor, keeping real presence, real emotion, and real accountability safely out of reach. Links: Find your disconnection pattern — take the free Reconnection Code assessment: https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app [https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app] Ready to go deeper? Join the Pain-Free Conflict workshop: https://painfreeconflict.lovable.app [https://painfreeconflict.lovable.app] Connect with Dave on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dave_lishansky/ [https://www.instagram.com/dave_lishansky/]

Ep. 55 - Failure, Critics, and Self-Worth

The man you are isn't only defined by how you hold it together when your back is up against the wall. It's also defined by how you come back after you've failed — how you repair, take accountability, and make right with the people you've hurt. The man we measure ourselves against? He's in the process of becoming too. We all are. Mentioned in this episode: * Free 3-minute Reconnection Code assessment — find your disconnection pattern: https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app [https://your-reconnection-code.lovable.app] * Check out my updated website: https://www.davelishansky.com/ [https://www.davelishansky.com/] * Come say hi on Instagram: @dave_lishansky [https://www.instagram.com/dave_lishansky/⁠]