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I WAS DOING IT ALL WRONG! HERE IS WHY! AND THREE SHIFT TO MAKE IN HOW YOU SPEAK AND COMMUNICATE! HOW TO APPLY THE LAW OF POLARITY IN YOUR LIFE BY CLEARING THE THREE BLIND SPOTS HAVE YOU HEARD ABOUT“THE LAW OF POLARITY.” THE LAW STATES THAT THERE ARE TWO SIDES TO EVERYTHING YOU CAN THINK OF. THERE ARE TWO POLES, OPPOSITES, EDGES. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO EXTREMES OF ONE THING IS CALLED POLARITY. THE LAW OF POLARITY TEACHES US THAT EVERY EXPERIENCE THAT YOU PERCEIVE AS A PROBLEM HAS A SOLUTION. ISN’T IT GREAT? SO, WHEN WE ARE EXPERIENCING SOMETHING WRONG, DOES IT MEAN THAT WE CAN TURN IT AROUND? I GUESS THE ANSWER IS DEFINITELY YES. YOU CAN ACTIVELY CHANGE THE POLARITY OF WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING INTO SOMETHING ELSE THAT YOU DESIRE. LOOKS CLEAR! BUT, IS IT AS EASY AS IT’S DESCRIBED? WATCH OUT! I SAID, “ACTIVELY.” I WILL BE TALKING ABOUT IT LATER. SO LET’S BREAK IT DOWN A LITTLE BIT. IMAGINE YOU ARE HOLDING A STICK IN YOUR HAND. IT HAS TWO EDGES. AND THINK ABOUT WHAT’S LACKING, WHAT’S MISSING, OR YOU ARE STRUGGLING WITHIN IN YOUR LIFE. LET’S SAY THAT EVERYTHING THAT DOESN’T SEEM TO BE WORKING IS ON THE LEFT END OF THE STICK. VISUALIZE IT MOVING TO THE OTHER END OF THE STICK TO THE RIGHT SIDE. THE LAW OF POLARITY CLEARLY STATES THAT WITH THE MENTAL FOCUS, WE CAN TRANSFORM POVERTY INTO PROSPERITY, FEAR INTO COURAGE, AND FAILURE INTO SUCCESS. [https://sevischool.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/myumyun-blog-ph-new.png]I WAS COACHING ONE OF THE STUDENTS IN A MULTINATIONAL COMPANY AFTER WORK HOURS. IT WAS FROM 5 PM TO 7 PM. MY STUDENT WAS ALREADY EXHAUSTED AFTER ALL DAY WORKING. I WAS TEACHING BUSINESS ENGLISH, MAINLY GRAMMAR AND VOCABULARY FOCUSED. ONE DAY BEFORE WE STARTED THE COACHING SESSION, SHE SAID, “I JUST WANTED TO TELL YOU BEFORE WE GET STARTED THAT I WAS INVITED TO SIT ON THE EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE OF MY COMPANY.” AND I WENT TO GIVE HER A HIGH FIVE, AND SHE STOPPED ME. AND, I SAID, “WHAT?” AND SHE SAID, “I AM NOT GONNA GO TO THOSE MEETINGS. I DON’T WANT THEM TO MAKE FUN WITH MY PRONUNCIATION. MY PRONUNCIATION SUCKS, AND WE HAVE MAINLY NATIVE SPEAKERS AT THE EXECUTIVE COMMITTEE, SO I DON’T UNDERSTAND A WORD THEY SAY.” WHAT POPPED OUT OF MY MIND AT THAT SPLIT SECOND WAS, “HONEY, YOU WILL GO TO THOSE MEETINGS! YOU ARE GOING TO SHARE YOUR IDEAS WITH CONFIDENCE. AND, I AM GOING TO EMPOWER YOU FOR THAT!” AT THAT MOMENT, EVERY MISTAKE I SAW ENGLISH COURSE CENTERS MAKING STARTED FLOODING INTO ME. SHE DIDN’T WANT TO GO TO THOSE MEETINGS BECAUSE SHE BELIEVED SHE WAS NOT CONFIDENT WITH HER ENGLISH AFTER ALL OF THOSE BUSINESS ENGLISH GRAMMAR LESSONS SHE ENROLLED WITH ME AND SOME OTHER TUTORS. SHE DIDN’T WANT TO GO TO THOSE MEETINGS BECAUSE SHE DIDN’T UNDERSTAND NATIVE SPEAKERS. I SAW THE MISSING LINK IN ALL THESE LANGUAGE COURSE CENTERS, MAINLY FOCUSING ON GRAMMAR. I KNOW THAT I WILL RUFFLE SOME FEATHERS HERE, BUT TEACHING METHODS IN LANGUAGE SCHOOLS, ENGLISH CLASSROOMS, AND ENGLCOURSEBOOKSOOKS DO NOT HELP LEARNERS SPEAK ENGLFLUENTLYENCE. THEY ARE ALL OUTDATED! MOST OF MY EX-COLLEAGUES WILL AGREE WITH ME. GRAMMAR SHOULD BE LEARNED INTUITIVELY AT THE BEGINNING. STUDYING GRAMMAR ONLY IMPEDES STUDENT PROGRESS. MOST NATIVE SPEAKERS DO NOT KNOW GRAMMAR RULES. ASK AN AMERICAN, “WHAT IS THE PAST PERFECT TENSE,” AND MOST WILL NOT KNOW. BUT, OF COURSE, THEY USE THE PAST PERFECT TENSE CORRECTLY EVERY DAY. IN FACT, THEY USE ENGLISH GRAMMAR EFFORTLESSLY. THEY DON’T THINK ABOUT IT. THEY KNOW WHAT “SOUNDS RIGHT,” AND THEY KNOW WHAT “SOUNDS WRONG.” PROPER SENTENCE STRUCTURE IS LEARNED THROUGH INTUITION. BY LISTENING AND SPEAKING, WE PICK UP ON SPEECH PATTERNS AND KNOW WHAT SOUNDS CORRECT AND INCORRECT. WHAT MATTERS MOST IS MASTERING PHONETICS, PRONOUNCING THE WORDS CORRECTLY, MAKING FLUENT SPEECHES, LINKING WORDS, INTONATION, AND UNDERSTANDING NATIVE SPEAKERS. ENGLISH IS NOT GEOGRAPHY. IT’S NOT PHYSICS EITHER. SO, YOU CAN’T SIT DOWN IN THE CLASSROOMS AND STUDY RULES AND FORMULAS LIKE OTHER SCHOOL SUBJECTS. AGAIN, I AM NOT SAYING GRAMMAR IS NOT IMPORTANT, BUT I AM SAYING SCHOOL PROGRAMS ARE DOING EVERYTHING WRONG. THEY ARE UNDERESTIMATING THE IMPORTANCE OF THE FOUNDATION OF ENGLISH, PHONETICS, SPEECH PATTERNS. BUT I GET WHERE THE MISTAKE IS COMING FROM BECAUSE TEACHING PHONETICS, SPEECH PATTERNS REQUIRES EXTRA EXPERTISE. AND, ENGLISH TEACHERS ARE NOT QUALIFIED AT IT. [https://sevischool.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/grammar-389907_1280-300x199.jpg]LISTEN TO YOUR INNER GUIDE! COMING BACK TO MY STORY, ON THE WAY BACK HOME, SITTING ON A CROWDED TRAIN ON A COLD WINTER DAY IN MILAN, I OUTLINED EVERYTHING AN ENGLISH LEARNER NEEDED TO BE EMPOWERED WITH. AT THE TIME, I WAS WORKING AT THREE DIFFERENT ENGLISH COURSE CENTERS. I SHARED MY OPINION WITH ONE OF THE COURSE CENTERS’ HEAD OFFICES AND TOLD THEM THAT I WANTED TO FOCUS ON MY STUDENT’S SPEAKING SKILLS RATHER THAN FOLLOWING UP WITH THE COURSEBOOK. THEY ASKED ME TO STICK TO THE COURSEBOOK OUTLINE. THE NEXT THING I KNOW, I QUIT MY JOB IN ALL THREE-COURSE CENTERS AND REGISTERED MYSELF FOR A MASTER’S IN SPEECH PATHOLOGY AT CALIFORNIA STATE UNIVERSITY. FROM THAT DAY ON, I HAD ONLY ONE MISSION, EMPOWERING PEOPLE TO BECOME GREAT SPEAKERS, SHINING BRIGHT ON STAGE, AND COACHING THEM ON HOW TO SHARE THEIR IDEAS WITH CONFIDENCE. THIS IS HOW SEVI’S SCHOOL WAS BORN. I STEPPED WITH MY MODEL THAT I ONLY WORK WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE ALREADY SUCCESSFUL AT WHAT THEY DO, AND THEY NEED TO SPEAK WITH FLUENCY, SHARE THEIR THOUGHTS WITH CLARITY, PREPARE KEYNOTE PRESENTATIONS THAT GLUE THE AUDIENCE TO THEIR STAGE. PEOPLE I WORK WITH KNOW WHAT THEY WANT IN LIFE. [https://sevischool.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/lion-1657947_1280-300x200.jpg]SO, WAS IT EASY? THE SHIFT I MADE! NOT REALLY! STEPPING UP TO SOMETHING UNKNOWN IN THE AREA MADE ME LOSE MY PRESENT STUDENTS WHO INSISTED ON LEARNING GRAMMAR AT THE TIME. I WAS CUTTING OUT HALF OF MY POTENTIAL CLIENTS. BECAUSE OF WHAT IS IMPOSED ON EVERYBODY’S MIND ABOUT LEARNING GRAMMAR, NO ONE WOULD QUITE GET THE AMAZING RESULT OF OUR POTENTIAL COLLABORATION. BUT, IT WAS COUNTER-INTUITIVE. WHEN I NARROWED MY MARKET, I GOT MORE OF THE BUSINESS. I DECIDED TO RIDE THIS HORSE BECAUSE I SAW THE RESULT OF MY COLLABORATION WITH EACH CLIENT AGAIN AND AGAIN. EACH OF THEM, IN A MONTH, WOULD BECOME SUCCESSFUL SPEAKERS. SOME OF THEM CHANGED THEIR JOBS AND WERE HIRED BY BETTER COMPANIES, SOME OF THEM GOT PROMOTED, AND SOME BECAME BLOGGERS. THEY BECAME MORE SUCCESSFUL IN THEIR AREA OF BUSINESS AND STARTED TO MAKE MORE MONEY. IT HAS PROVEN TRUE THAT WHEN YOU INVEST IN YOUR SPEECH, YOU BECOME MORE SUCCESSFUL IN ALL WAYS BECAUSE COMMUNICATION IS THE FOUNDATION OF ANY RELATIONSHIP YOU INITIATE. BECAUSE YOU CAN SHARE YOUR IDEAS WITH CONFIDENCE INSTEAD OF DIGGING YOUR HEAD IN THE SAND LIKE AN OSTRICH. AND IF YOU WONDER WHAT HAPPENED TO MY STUDENT WHO INSPIRED ME TO DO WHAT I DO TODAY. SHE BECAME THE CEO OF ONE OF THE LEADING COMPANIES IN THE MARKET. BECAUSE YOU SEE, THE ONLY REASON SHE DIDN’T WANT TO BE PART OF THE COMMITTEE WAS THAT SHE WASN’T FLUENT IN ENGLISH. SHE FELT LESS. WE WORKED ON IT TOGETHER. SHE DIDN’T ALLOW THAT SEEMINGLY BIG BARRIER TO GETTING IN HER WAY. NOW, THERE ARE MANY COACHES OUT THERE WHO CALL THEMSELVES PRONUNCIATION COACHES JUST THE WAY THERE ARE MANY HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATE ENGLISH TEACHERS AROUND. YOU HAVE TO PICK THE RIGHT PERSON WHO HAS TREMENDOUS EXPERIENCE AND EDUCATIONAL BACKGROUND. YOUR COACH IS YOUR LEADER. THE COACH NEEDS TO WALK HER TALK. SO, BE PICKY WHEN YOU CHOOSE THE PERSON TO WORK WITH. [https://sevischool.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/microphone-2316268_1280-300x219.jpg]YOUR VOICE IS REFLECTING YOUR IDENTITY. LIKE YOU HAVE A FINGERPRINT, YOU HAVE YOUR VOICEPRINT. THE WAY YOU COMMUNICATE IS HOW YOU WILL BE KNOWN. WITH YOUR VOICE AND THE POWER OF YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS, YOU CAN EASILY GET THROUGH CHALLENGING CONVERSATIONS IN LIFE. WE MOSTLY PUT OFF DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS BECAUSE WE ARE AFRAID OF HURTING OR GETTING HURT. LET ME GIVE YOU THREE SIMPLE SHIFTS YOU CAN MAKE RIGHT NOW IN HOW YOU SPEAK AND COMMUNICATE. 1-Communicating in headlines: Many people use too many words before they get to the point. You know people are rolling their eyes and saying, where are you going with this, and what’s your point. Using more words and overexplaining won’t help you become a great speaker. The first thing that comes out of your mouth must be the most important thing you want people to remember. And you follow that up with two or three supporting information. 2- Negotiation. We don’t negotiate because we think that negotiation is a confrontation. And we want everybody to like us. And, so we avoid difficult conversations, particularly when they have to ask for what we want. I remember one of my clients wasn’t happy with his salary, and he was afraid of ruining his relationship with his chief by asking for what he was worth it. I told him not to settle for what he was offered if he thinks he is worth more. We worked on a contrasting technique with him based on data, facts, and figures. After working with him for a few sessions, he was ready to speak with his boss. He said to his boss, “I don’t want you to think that I am not excited about coming to work for you because I absolutely am! At the same time, if I took this offer, I wouldn’t respect myself, and I don’t think you would respect me either. So, I want to talk about how we can bring this up to about 25% that would be consistent with what the market pays, that would reflect my last salary and would make me delighted to come and work for you.” If you wonder what happened to him, he got what he asked for. He didn’t settle for what he didn’t believe in, but he did negotiate and put data, facts, and figures in one place. 3- Don’t let people interrupt you or own your ideas. If someone interrupts you, you need to interrupt the interrupter. You need to be able to say, “Hang on a second! I wasn’t quite finished. If that’s impossible to do. You let them finish, and as soon as they finish, you jump in and say, “You know, let me pick it up where I left off because I wasn’t quite finished. And, if someone steals your idea, what are you gonna do? You have to do it with a straight face. You will let them finish what they are gonna say, and then you say. “Hey, you know, Sally, thanks for expanding on my idea because it made me realize that there were some other things I would like to add. “[https://sevischool.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/water-2437729_1280-300x200.jpg]UP YOUR GAME, LADIES AND GENTLEMEN! JUST BECAUSE YOU CANNOT LEAD SUCCESSFUL CONVERSATIONS DOESN’T MAKE YOU ANY LESS THAN ALL SUCCESSFUL SPEAKERS OUT THERE. IT’S LEARNABLE! JUST DON’T GET STUCK WHERE YOU ARE. YOUR PAST DOESN’T DEFINE YOUR FUTURE. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO REWRITE YOUR SCRIPT. I DON’T CARE IF YOU ARE 20, OR 50, OR 70; I AM CONTINUING TO REWRITE MY SCRIPT ALL THE TIME. YOU DEFINE YOURSELF EVERY SINGLE DAY IN THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE DEFINED. UP YOUR GAME! DON’T HUSTLE AND WEAR YOURSELF OUT WITH THE WRONG LEARNING TECHNIQUES. DON’T WASTE BOTH YOUR TIME AND MONEY. YOU CAN BECOME A GREAT KEYNOTE SPEAKER. YOU CAN BECOME A WONDERFUL SPEAKER. YOU CAN PRESENT YOUR IDEAS WITH CONFIDENCE. MY CLIENTS HAVE PROVED IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN. INDEED, THEY ARE THE REFLECTION OF THE SUCCESS OF MY WORK. UP YOUR GAME! SUPPOSE YOU WANT TO WORK WITH ME PRIVATELY OR SEE WHAT’S AVAILABLE FOR GROUP COACHING. PLEASE DON’T PUT IT OFF. PUT MONEY OUT WHEN YOU CAN LEAST AFFORD IT TO BUILD THE INFRASTRUCTURE YOU NEED TO GROW. DON’T INVEST IN THE WRONG PROJECTS JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE MORE AFFORDABLE.
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