Stop Pretending You Don't Need Validation (S2 E5)

Stop Pretending You Don't Need Validation (S2 E5)

You were told to stop needing it, be strong & self-sufficient, but every day you fall short of that standard because it was never a real one. Needing validation is human, Sartre wrote that we exist differently when we are being seen. The question here is what happens when the recognition doesn't come, and what story you tell about the absence. In this episode we look at what validation actually is, why it got such a bad reputation, and what the thought-rule underneath the need is protecting. We also talk about the other side of it, whether you are giving to the people around you what you are waiting to receive. This is about knowing what to do when the need is real but validation does not come. Enjoy, Hila #selfawareness #validation #thoughtpatterns #mentalwellness #selfreflection #emotionalintelligence #innerwork #mindset #logic #philosophy #stoicism #podcast #stillpointlogic #hilaeginer #reflection #personalgrowth #selfworth #belonging #relationships #authenticity

Procrastination Is Not Your Enemy. The Guilt Is. (S2 E4)

What if procrastination is not the problem everyone says it is? I think the guilt about procrastinating is the real problem. The delay, in many cases, is something else entirely. Procrastination is part of your thinking process. A way of letting your feelings catch up to your intentions, collecting information, finding the readiness to act with more confidence. The problem starts when the delay flips into overthinking, and the loop stops giving you anything new. In this episode I explore the difference between a delay that is still working and one that has become a way of avoiding the moment of finding out. We walk through the thought-rules underneath procrastination, the positive intention behind them, and how to know when it is time to step off the bleachers and onto the field. If you have ever asked yourself "what is wrong with me, why can't I just start", this episode is for you. What we cover: why procrastination gets a bad reputation it does not always deserve, the difference between healthy delay and overthinking, the thought-rule that keeps you stuck in the loop, and one practical question that tells you when the data collection is done. Enjoy, Hila #procrastination #overthinking #selfawareness #mentalhealth #personaldevelopment #reflection #thoughtpatterns #procrastinate #productivity #mindset #stoicism #philosophy #podcast #podcastrecommendation #selfimprovement #emotionalintelligence #innerwork #beliefsystem #motivation #stillpointlogic

How To Deal With Conflict Without Losing Your Mind (S2 E3)

Why does conflict feel so personal, even when it is not really about you? In this episode we reflect on what is happening when you are in a conflict, why the discomfort you feel is not coming from the other person but from the thought-rule running underneath it, and what to do with that once you see it. We also look at the three things that start most conflicts between people, needing help and not knowing how to ask, someone who made a mistake and cannot own it, and someone who feels left out. Recognizing which one you are in changes how you respond. This will not teach you how to rhetorically win an argument, but it will give you another perspective. Visit stillpointlogic.com for free reflection worksheets. Enjoy, Hila #conflict #selfawareness #emotionalintelligence #relationships #mentalhealth #thoughtpatterns #personalgrowth #communication #innerwork #stillpointlogic

You Cannot Plan Your Way Out of Human Nature (S2 E2)

You built an intelligent plan, defined the KPIs, a good tactic to measure success, delivered everything on time, and yet the client was still disappointed. This episode is about the gap between what the numbers say and what people actually feel. I work in project management and this is something I deal with constantly, because human perception is different from excel sheets. I look at 3 psychological mechanisms that humans are influenced by, where you are expected to deliver results and need to keep them in mind. Loss aversion, the peak-end rule, and expectation anchoring. This one is for professionals, but the gap it describes exists everywhere. Visit stillpointlogic.com for free reflection worksheets. Send me your thoughts through the website: https://www.stillpointlogic.com/contactus Enjoy, Hila #stillpointlogic #projectmanagement #clientmanagement #humannature #leadership #businesspodcast #selfreflection #decisionmaking #worklife #podcast #logic #reflection #lossaversion #peakend #anchoring

Why Don't I Feel What I'm Supposed to Feel? The Feelings You're "Supposed" to Have (S2 E1)

Have you ever felt fine when you were supposed to feel devastated? Or flat when you were supposed to feel joy? This episode is not about emotional numbness, it is about the mismatch between the feeling you actually have and the feeling you believe you are supposed to have, and the story you tell yourself about what that absence means. Visit stillpointlogic.com for free reflection worksheets. As always, send my your thought through the website: https://www.stillpointlogic.com/contactus Enjoy, Hila #selfawareness #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #feelings #emotionalmismatch #innerwork #thoughtpatterns #personalgrowth #selfreflection #emotionalhealth #anxiety #relationships #grief #stillpointlogic #season2 🎙️