Patriarchy Hack #36: Avoid nostalgia like the plague

Patriarchy Hack #36: Avoid nostalgia like the plague

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. Patriarchy fetishizes youth and disdains aging. On top of that, it also functions based on zero-sum thinking: that for you to succeed, someone else has to lose. Although these sound like a load of baloney, we're all mirroring these patriarchal mindsets.   That, in turn, keeps us in a debilitating cycle of nostalgia. We romanticize the past and become mentally stuck in a location we physically left. In this episode, we’ll discuss: * The patriarchal mindsets engrained in us * 4 things to unlearn so we stop romanticizing the past * How Charli XCX didn't let brat nostalgia dictate her career * 7 effective behaviours of forward-looking people The past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present.   ✨ Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love, Neeki Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:05 How we mirror the patriarchy 7:23 4 bad habits to unlearn 18:48 Example- Charli XCX & brat 25:38 Your 7 new habits 36:39 Exceptions & final thoughts If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: * Why the biological clock is a damaging patriarchal myth (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lvBjyuaaLzqXGXHu4dIkN?si=iM9WyDurTsmfyfq9PdkJ8w] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000746962469])  2016 collage in thumbnail created by Hannah Bell, Creative Director at The Concordian __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

The 5 habits that trigger people to lose respect for you

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. No self-improvement journey is complete without unlearning our internalized patriarchy. This doesn't only manifest itself as macro-level behaviours, like being a huge pick me. Some habits are so subtle, they're almost hidden within our subconscious... Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:32 1- Saying "sorry" instead of "thank you" 10:19 2- Not ending your sentences 17:39 3- Using qualifiers to soften your contribution 23:29 4- Taking yourself too seriously  30:12 5- Being overly reactive If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: Life in a patriarchy is a game, and it’s time to win (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5rpc4KQdqlxDeXWouiOl4Q?si=J4r-YJzfRZCyuZv3uiQ6xw] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000761449785])  The ultimate revenge: The psychological power of being unbothered (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/51oVtwJXDxG9nyErZAYXbW?si=52XTXqM0QpmVGZuRd_0mww] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000767513443]) Patriarchy Hack #33: Trigger people’s need to prove themselves to you (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/1N495awM6rOAjGWEar2AeG?si=R1VXtS6dT2qw7zd40BWH0g] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000758573276]) Patriarchy Hack #Hack 34: Never argue, make them look stupid instead (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5hMcDCjX9dMiJpdmu1x6Ql?si=3hA-J3ZkRXuPz9p0p38wqw] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000766369558]) __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚 Read more about 20 ways to unlearn how the patriarchy groomed us. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. The patriarchy is a textbook example of the law of inversion: what we see isn't the truth, it's a defence mechanism. In fact, the entire system is an institutionalized defence mechanism of Venus/womb envy and it's governed by slave morality (hi, Nietzsche). Flip what it tells you and that's when you get the truth.  In this episode, I'll discuss 5 examples of how the patriarchy hides the truth in plain sight. I encourage you to do the same with anything presented to you as "truth" or "nature." Make sure to watch until the end to see a little satirical skit of the patriarchy's first PR meeting BTW you can listen to my episode the biological clock as a patriarchal myth on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lvBjyuaaLzqXGXHu4dIkN?si=tMfS5k8hQOaCOb-5Si6ASw], Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000746962469], or YouTube [https://youtu.be/EekovTmYVdc] <3 Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 8:29 Lie 1- Women are naturally nurturing 11:25 Lie 2- Men are dominant because they're stronger 15:06 Lie 3- Women only have worth when they're of service 19:49 Lie 4- Men are scarce 26:56 Lie 5- The default is male If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Sources: * It’s Hard Work Being a Boy (and, It Turns Out, a Girl) [https://biomedicalodyssey.blogs.hopkinsmedicine.org/2017/09/its-hard-work-being-a-boy-and-it-turns-out-a-girl/] * Male vs. Female Development [https://lozierinstitute.org/dive-deeper/male-vs-female-development/] * Sex Begins in the Womb [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK222286/#:~:text=All%20human%20individuals%E2%80%94whether%20they,same%20and%20are%20phenotypically%20female.] __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

5 sneaky examples of medical misogyny: which ones have you faced?

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. Women are not small men, yet for decades medical research has treated us as such. What's even worse is that women have been excluded from research because of our menstrual cycles. And what's even worser is that because of this bias, many girls and women get misdiagnosed, undiagnosed, and gaslit. In this episode I'll debunk some myths, share some useful information, and hopefully give you a starting point to do your own research. Disclaimer: I am not a medical, dental, or mental health professional and this video is not medical advice, dental, or mental health advice. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:14 Gender bias in ADHD diagnoses 7:31 Oral hygiene 16:16 Needing 6-8 hrs of sleep 19:39 Cold plunges/cold showers 25:01 Intermittent fasting If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Sources: * Comparing gingival inflammation and salivary acidity to hormonal variation during menstruation [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10114131/] * Daily sauna time might help prevent menopause-related weight gain [https://nutrition.org/daily-sauna-time-might-help-prevent-menopause-related-weight-gain/] * Effects of cold environment exposure on female reproductive health and its regulatory mechanisms [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12014596/] * Females with ADHD: An expert consensus statement taking a lifespan approach providing guidance for the identification and treatment of attention-deficit/ hyperactivity disorder in girls and women [https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12888-020-02707-9] * How Intermittent Fasting Affects Women: Metabolism, Perimenopause & Hormones | Dr. Stacy Sims [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MCMQSjCJgAw]  * Inattentive ADHD in Women [https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/inattentive-adhd-in-women#in-girls] Intermittent Fasting vs Time-Restricted Eating: What Actually Works for Women 40+? [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OIjE0Fs0wwE] * Oral Health [https://womenshealth.gov/a-z-topics/oral-health] * Period Power by Maisie Hill  [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40653191-period-power] * The Menstrual Cycle’s Influence on Sleep Duration and Cardiovascular Health: A Comprehensive Review [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10656370/] * Why Women Require a Different Oral Cleaning Routine Than Men [https://bhdentalarts.com/general-dentistry/why-women-require-a-different-oral-cleaning-routine-than-men/] __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Patriarchy Hack #35: Never do anything with the expectation of gratitude

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. Doing anything with the expectation that we’ll be appreciated and recognized is a surefire path to disappointment. However, it’s something many women and people pleasers continue doing. In this episode, we’ll discuss: * 3 things about gratitude we need to learn * A deep-rooted misconception that we need to unlearn * A textbook example of why gratitude keeps us waiting for a reward that never comes * The mindset shift you need to finally stop begging for validation Let’s stop appealing to the past. The past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present. ✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love, Neeki Timestamps: * 0:00 Intro * 2:02 3 things to learn * 14:36 A misconception to unlearn * 19:01 A textbook example of this hack * 27:24 What this means for you  * 36:19 Exceptions If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.