Grief Wave and Joy

Grief Wave and Joy

In this episode, Frances shows up raw on a hard day and names the numbness that can hit without warning when grief waves roll in.  A quiet morning in the park becomes a reminder that joy can break through in an instant, even when sorrow is still close.  • admitting how grief can flatten energy and motivation  • using nature and stillness to notice what is happening inside  • recognizing “joy waves” that arrive as suddenly as grief  • grieving life changes like children growing up and roles ending  • naming losses beyond death, including friendships that shift  • holding both joy and sorrow during illness and anticipatory grief  •understanding life is full of grief •life and death, beginning and end It’s a full episode, raw and real. Listen in and share with the one who comes to mind. Let’s not let anyone journey this life alone.  Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

Your Grief Is Beautiful

When grief gets judged, that pressure can make you feel even more alone.  In this episode, I’m here to say the quiet part out loud: you matter, and you don’t have to prove your pain to anyone.  If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re grieving “wrong” because you didn’t cry at the funeral, or because you’re crying at random moments weeks, months, or even years later, this one is for you. We talk about grief as a reflection of love, not a flaw to fix.  Whether you’re facing bereavement after a death, mourning a pet, processing a breakup, or grieving a job, a dream, or a former version of yourself or your life, the core truth stays the same: your relationship or situation was yours, and your grief is yours.  I walk through why comparison is so harmful, why emotional swings are normal, and how shame can pull you deeper into pain and loneliness. You matter. Your grief and your love and passion for your loved one or situation is real. It matters. You matter. You’ll leave with a gentler way to look at the grieving process, clearer boundaries for anyone trying to rush you, and permission to listen to what your body and heart are asking for right now.  If this message helps, share it with someone else who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find it. I’m holding space for you, Frances, The Caring Death Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

Living Grief

Grief makes people uncomfortable, so we try to organize it, timebox it, and rank it. That’s how we end up with the quiet pressure to “be strong,” to stop talking about the person who died, or to act like the funeral is the finish line. I’m pushing back on that mindset and naming what so many of us feel: grief doesn’t follow rules, and it doesn’t owe anyone a schedule. In this episode, we talk about why we judge each other’s grieving based on what we were taught in our families, culture, community, or religion, and how those assumptions can lead to painful comments that shut people down.  I share personal moments that reshaped my perspective, including what it was like to see one person not cry at all and to hear another say they were “fine” soon after the funeral , while I was still deep in my own pain.  We also discussed a simple truth: even when we lose the same person, our relationships, memories, and inner worlds are different, so our bereavement experience will be different too. You’ll hear practical, compassionate reminders for coping with loss: listen to your body, leave room for rest, and stop comparing your tears or lack of tears to someone else’s.  If you want to support a grieving friend, coworker, or family member, the goal isn’t to fix them. It’s to be a steady presence and a safe place. If this helped, subscribe, share it with someone who needs permission to grieve at their own pace, and leave a review so more people can find this conversation. Holding space for you, Frances, The Caring Death Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

Grief: Putting Yourself Aside

You can be the person who holds everyone together and still be hurting. That tension has been weighing on my heart lately, because so many of us practice “self care” in theory while living out the opposite in real life: we spend our energy serving, comforting, smoothing things over, and staying strong so nobody else has to feel the full weight of the moment. In this episode, we talk about grief support the way it actually looks in families after a death. I share what I noticed when my brother-in-law died: I felt unusually calm and had the right words for the people around me, even while everything was crashing inside.  Then we get honest about a common pattern, especially for many women : putting our own grief aside so we can take care of children, spouses, siblings, and friends even. That may come from love, but it can quietly erase us. We also dig into something that can be hard to admit: how quickly we judge someone else’s mourning when it doesn’t match our own. Not everyone cries in public. Not everyone shows pain the same way at the hospital, the funeral, or the visitation. With time, grief education, and compassion, we learn to see what might be happening under the surface and why a single safe person can change everything. If you want practical, human words for holding space,and staying connected without losing yourself, press play. Subscribe, share this with someone who is carrying too much, and leave a review so more people can find support when they need it most. Holding space for you, The Caring Death Doula Doula Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]

You Are Not Alone In Grief

I thank you for coming here and making this space a part of your grief journey.  Grief can be loud, or it can be eerily quiet. Either way, it can convince you that you are on your own.  I recorded this message for you to hear  and to hear it clearly : you are not alone, and you do not have to carry grief by yourself.  We stay focused on self-care that actually helps during moments that hit with grief , the kind that does not rush you, shame you, or demand a neat timeline.  I talk about why avoiding grief can make it heavier over time, and how supportive presence can bring real relief.  I also share ways to connect with me if you want more than a podcast, including one-on-one support options like calls or messaging, plus the possibility of bringing Death And Cheesecake gatherings online for listeners who are not local.  If you have been searching for grief support, coping with loss tools, or a compassionate death doula voice that will not try to fix you, this is for you. You deserve someone who will listen, help you feel steady, and respect your pace. If this helps, subscribe, share it with someone who is grieving, and leave a review so more people can find this kind of care. Frances, The Caring Death Doula, holding space for you.  You can send an email to: Thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Click here to send me a text. I would love to hear from you your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2530196/fan_mail/new] Sign up for my newsletter, ask questions, and get responses via Email: thecaringdeathdoula@gmail.com Follow on FB The Caring Death Doula https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr [https://www.facebook.com/share/1CUfH9Kek6/?mibextid=wwXIfr] Join the private FB group for “behind the podcast” and advance notification The Caring Death Doula Podcast. A safe place to ask questions and to learn more.  IG The_Caring_Death_Doula https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr [https://www.instagram.com/the_caring_death_doula?igsh=MXdjOTF3MWo2a3RpYw%3D%3D&utm_source=qr]