31. The Three Acts of a Man's Life: Steve Sapourn on Trauma, Addiction, and Who He Is Becoming

31. The Three Acts of a Man's Life: Steve Sapourn on Trauma, Addiction, and Who He Is Becoming

This one is different .. Today Steve Sapourn switches seats. His brother from ten years of men's group, Bill Giebler, accomplished musician, award-winning memoirist, and journalist, takes the host chair and asks the questions Steve has never fully answered in public. What created this man? What was he running from? And what finally made him stop? This is Steve's story. Act one, act two, and the act three that is just beginning. In this episode * The childhood that shaped everything: a violent home, witnessing a mass murder at six years old, and years of sexual abuse by a neighborhood predator * Why Steve became an entrepreneur, ran a hedge fund, managed hundreds of millions of dollars, and still felt emptier by the day * The moment at a Red Hot Chili Peppers concert with 0.4 grams of mushrooms that became the turning point of his entire life * What the voice said that night and why he finally decided to listen * Ten years of men's group and why brotherhood was the beginning of the shift * The difference between being a bad man and being a man who adapted to survive * What sobriety, ayahuasca, and stillness have given him that decades of achievement never could * What Steve believes masculinity actually means and why we are at a turning point in history About Bill Giebler Bill Giebler is a musician with a degree from the Berklee College of Music, an award-winning memoirist, novelist, and journalist who interviews people for a living. He has been a member of the same men's group as Steve for ten years and knows Steve's story from the inside out. His memoir Playing That Spiritual Music is available now. Connect with Steve and The Neuros Journey Join the Neuros Journey Newsletter: https://theneurosjourney.com/ [https://theneurosjourney.com/]Follow Steve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney [https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney]Follow Steve on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/]Follow Steve on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/ the neuros journey, steve sapourn, bill giebler, three acts of a mans life, trauma to transformation, childhood trauma, sexual abuse recovery, addiction and recovery, men and sobriety, men in midlife, masculine identity, redefining masculinity, inner work for men, mens groups, brotherhood, hero's journey, ayahuasca healing, psychedelic therapy, nervous system regulation, regulated fatherhood, men and purpose, healing your lineage, vulnerability and courage, from survival to presence, men who lead, midlife reinvention, why mindset work isn't enough, science backed healing, trauma informed

30. MDMA, Intimacy, and the Healing Men Did Not Know They Needed ft. Jonathan Robinson

What if the thing keeping you from the relationship you actually want was not a communication problem but a nervous system problem? And what if there was a tool that could get you there in one afternoon instead of two years? In this episode, Steve Sapourn sits down with Jonathan Robinson, therapist, two-time New York Times bestselling author, and one of the most experienced MDMA-assisted therapy practitioners in the world, for an honest, personal, and deeply practical conversation about healing, intimacy, and what it actually takes for a man to open up. In this episode * Why Jonathan says one MDMA session can produce more progress than two years of traditional couples counseling * The yellow light technique: a one and a half second tool that stops couples from going down the hurt spiral * Why MDMA works over Zoom and why the data actually shows it works better * What men specifically need to learn about empathy, vulnerability, and intimacy, and what women need to learn to support that process * The two channel framework: how to balance handling the world with finding genuine inner peace * How to find a safe, trustworthy guide if you want to explore this medicine * What is contraindicated and who should not do this under any circumstances About Jonathan Robinson Jonathan Robinson is a psychotherapist, author of more than a dozen books including two New York Times bestsellers, and one of the world's most experienced MDMA-assisted therapy practitioners with over 700 sessions across 40 years. He has appeared on Oprah multiple times and his methods have been praised as some of the best she has ever encountered. He hosts the podcast Awareness Explorers, has trained over 500 clinicians worldwide, and leads both individual and couples MDMA sessions over Zoom. His books Ecstasy as Medicine and Ecstasy for Couples are available now. Connect with Jonathan Robinson Website: https://www.xtcasmedicine.com [https://www.xtcasmedicine.com] Training: https://www.MDMAtraining.net [https://www.mdmatraining.net] Free Meditations: https://www.awarenessexplorers.com [https://www.awarenessexplorers.com] Podcast: Awareness Explorers Connect with Steve and The Neuros Journey Join the Neuros Journey Newsletter: https://theneurosjourney.com/ [https://theneurosjourney.com/] Follow Steve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney [https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney] Follow Steve on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/] Follow Steve on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/ [https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/] the neuros journey, steve sapourn, jonathan robinson, MDMA therapy, ecstasy for couples, ecstasy as medicine, MDMA couples therapy, psychedelic therapy, MDMA healing, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, men and intimacy, men and vulnerability, men in midlife, masculine identity, couples healing, relationship repair, inner work for men, plant medicine, psychedelic integration, awareness explorers, regulated living, from survival to presence, men and purpose, midlife reinvention, healing trauma naturally

29. The Guy in the Glass: Suicide, Meaning, and the Men's Mental Health Crisis ft. Dr. Baruch Halevi

What do you do when the man in the mirror is a stranger? Dr. Baruch Halevi, known as Dr. B, knows that question from the inside. His father took his life. His grandmother before that. And possibly her father before her. Instead of becoming the next chapter in that story, he made a choice. In this episode, Steve Sapourn sits down with Dr. B, former rabbi, logotherapy practitioner, men's group leader, and author of "The Guy in the Glass," for one of the most honest conversations about men, meaning, suicide, and what it actually takes to heal a lineage. IN THIS EPISODE: * How a multigenerational pattern of suicide became the work he chose to end * What logotherapy is, and how Viktor Frankl's philosophy born in the Holocaust applies to every man alive today * The difference between vulnerability and weakness, and why confusing the two is keeping men stuck * Why men's groups are not optional but essential, and what happens when a man finally experiences love from other men * The loneliness epidemic killing men quietly, and what community actually looks like as the antidote * Why the guy in the glass is the only verdict that matters RESOURCES MENTIONED: * The Guy in the Glass by Dr. Baruch Halevi * Spark Seekers by Dr. Baruch Halevi  * Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl * The Choice and The Gift by Edith Eger * "The Guy in the Glass" poem by Dale Wimbrow (1934) ABOUT DR. BARUCH HALEVI: Dr. Baruch Halevi (Dr. B) is a former rabbi of 20 years turned logotherapy practitioner, men's coach, and author. He runs men's groups, works one on one with men navigating meaning, purpose, and identity, and hosts the podcast The 13 Minutes, named after the statistic that every 13 minutes a man in America takes his own life. His book "The Guy in the Glass" is available now on Amazon. He believes the antidote to the loneliness epidemic is community, and that every man has the capacity to heal his lineage. Connect with Dr. Baruch Halevi Website: https://bhalevi.com/ [https://bhalevi.com/]Podcast: The 13 Minutes [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/13-minutes/id1837997695] Connect with Steve and The Neuros Journey Join the Neuros Journey Newsletter: https://theneurosjourney.com/https://theneurosjourney.com [https://theneurosjourney.com] Follow Steve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney [https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney] Follow Steve on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/] Follow Steve on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/ [https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/] the neuros journey, steve sapourn, dr b Halevi, the guy in the glass, logotherapy, viktor frankl, man's search for meaning, men and suicide, suicide prevention, men's mental health, men's groups, masculine identity, vulnerability and courage, healing lineage, men in midlife, purpose driven life, meaning therapy, loneliness epidemic, men and community, brotherhood, regulated fatherhood, trauma healing, inner work for men, from survival to presence, men and purpose, midlife reinvention, why mindset work isn't enough, men who lead

28. Are You Trying Too Hard? The Nervous System Reset Every Man Needs

You have been trying your whole life. To be more patient. More present. To keep the lid on. And if it is still not working, if you are still blowing up when you do not want to, or the wins never quite land the way you thought they would, this episode is for you. In this solo episode, Steve Sapourn breaks down the one thing most men never consider: it is not a willpower problem. It is a nervous system problem. And once you understand the system that is running everything, everything changes. In this episode * Why trying harder is the trap and what to do instead * The window of tolerance: what it is, why yours is probably too narrow, and how to widen it * What Stanford research says about suppression and why keeping the lid on is making things worse * Why 85% of relationship problems start with the man, and why that is actually good news * How one regulated father changed the biochemistry of his five month old baby just by being present * The cyclic sigh: a five minute Stanford proven breathing technique that outperformed meditation in calming the nervous system Connect with Steve and The Neuros Journey Join the Neuros Journey Newsletter: https://theneurosjourney.com/ [https://theneurosjourney.com/] Follow Steve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney [https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney] Follow Steve on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/] Follow Steve on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/ [https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/] the neuros journey, steve sapourn, window of tolerance, nervous system regulation, cyclic sigh, breathwork for men, men and emotions, regulated fatherhood, men in midlife, masculine identity, neuroplasticity, somatic healing, trauma informed, emotional regulation for men, men and mental health, fatherhood and healing, parenting from presence, psychological safety, men and relationships, suppression and stress, dan siegel, stanford breathing study, inner work for men, regulated living, from survival to presence, science backed healing, why mindset work isn't enough, men and purpose, midlife reinvention

27. From Public Failure to Financial Pioneer: Eric Letsinger on Neuroleadership, Masculinity, and Who You Become After the Fall

What happens to a man when his career collapses in public, at the height of his rise, in the middle of a political firestorm he did not create? Eric Letsinger knows that story from the inside. Fired as COO of Baltimore City Public Schools in 2006 after an internal investigation, he spent nearly two decades never speaking about it publicly. Until now. In this episode, Steve Sapourn sits down with the founder of Quantified Ventures, the man who invented the Environmental Impact Bond and mobilized over $310 million in outcomes-based capital, to talk about what none of his conference talks or op-eds ever have: the inner life behind the impressive resume. In this episode * The public firing that ended an entire leadership team and what Eric has never said about it until now * Eight years of quiet rebuilding between Baltimore and founding Quantified Ventures, and what shifted internally during that time * How a man's identity survives, and transforms, when his title is suddenly gone * What neuroleadership actually looks like in practice, and how Eric leads differently now than he did at 35 * The intentional act of stepping down as CEO after a decade, and what it means when a man's worth is no longer tied to his role * Why outcomes matter more than intentions, in business and in a man's inner life * What it means to be a grounded, present man when the world is watching and when it is not About Eric Letsinger Eric Letsinger is the founder of Quantified Ventures, a certified B Corporation that pioneered the Environmental Impact Bond, a first-of-its-kind financial instrument now replicated across the country. Over a decade as CEO, Eric mobilized more than $310 million in capital for climate, health, and social impact through landmark projects with DC Water, Goldman Sachs, The Rockefeller Foundation, Morgan Stanley, and the U.S. EPA. He is faculty at Northwestern University's Kellogg School of Management and sits on the board of Recovery Cafe DC. His career spans homeless services, PricewaterhouseCoopers, Baltimore City government, IBM, and one of the most quietly remarkable reinventions in the social impact world. Connect with Eric Letsinger Follow Eric on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericletsinger/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericletsinger/] Learn more about Quantified Ventures: https://www.quantifiedventures.com/ [https://www.quantifiedventures.com/] Connect with Steve and The Neuros Journey Join the Neuros Journey Newsletter: https://theneurosjourney.com/ [https://theneurosjourney.com/] Follow Steve on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney [https://www.youtube.com/@TheNeurosJourney] Follow Steve on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-sapourn-642215118/] Follow Steve on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/ [https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/] the neuros journey, steve sapourn, eric letsinger, quantified ventures, environmental impact bond, neuroleadership, masculinity archetypes, identity transformation, men and failure, public failure and recovery, professional reinvention, men in midlife, masculine identity, leadership and inner work, outcomes based capital, social impact, men and shame, rebuilding after failure, grounded presence, regulated leadership, men and ego, identity beyond title, servant leadership, B corporation, men and purpose, midlife reinvention, from survival to presence, recovery to responsibility, trauma informed leadership, men and nervous system