Unlocking Your True Personality: The Authentic Self Beneath the Mask

Unlocking Your True Personality: The Authentic Self Beneath the Mask

Get the Episode Companion here! [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1b21-hhUWZCwDlD3WuXEH19NsNFUH1RC9/view?usp=sharing] In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Justin V. Gates and Michael Perry explore what it means to unlock the real personality beneath fear, shame, inhibition, and the masks we created to survive. Many people believe they lack confidence, personality, courage, creativity, or presence. But what if the real issue is not that the true self is missing? What if it is hidden beneath years of criticism, rejection, self-consciousness, overcorrection, and old protective patterns? Drawing from the teachings of Ashla, this conversation reveals how the greater self is not something we invent. It is something we remember. Beneath the mask, beneath the fear of being judged, beneath the identity built around safety and approval, there remains a deeper self still capable of truth, courage, creativity, love, and Light. Justin and Michael discuss how people mistake protection for identity, how inhibition blocks authentic expression, and how excessive self-criticism can silence the soul before it ever has a chance to speak. They also explore why the mask should not be hated, but understood. It may have protected us once, but it was never meant to become our face. Through Ashla, this episode becomes a call to return to alignment. To stop performing and begin living from the heart. To recognize the old influences that keep us hidden. To choose small acts of honesty, courage, and presence that allow the greater self to come forward again. This is not about becoming louder, more impressive, or more acceptable to the world. It is about becoming real. Remove the mask. Remember the greater self. Let the Light within be seen. Get the book here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/4ADHZyA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://a.co/d/4ADHZyA] Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/NewAshla⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/NewAshla] Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates] TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@KnightsofAwakening⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.youtube.com/@KnightsofAwakening] YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@TemplumLumis⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.youtube.com/@TemplumLumis] Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.newashla.com [www.newashla.com] Key topics * The difference between identity and authenticity * How fear and shame create masks * The importance of awareness and reflection * Practical steps to express your true self * The role of courage in authenticity * Mental models for understanding self-protection * The impact of societal conditioning * The process of shadow work and healing * Balancing discipline and self-expression * The significance of living in accordance with nature Key words unlocking your real personality, greater self beneath the mask, real personality, authentic self, greater self, lesser self, false self, protective mask, mask and identity, fear and identity, shame and personality, inhibition, self-consciousness, authentic expression, finding your true self, becoming real, emotional healing, spiritual growth, self mastery, inner work, shadow work, healing shame, healing fear, fear of being seen, fear of judgment, self-protection, survival identity, personality and trauma, identity healing, inner transformation, New Ashla Podcast, Justin V Gates, Michael Perry, Ashla, the Light, the Force, Luminari, Psycho-Cybernetics, Maxwell Maltz, New Psycho-Cybernetics, self image, subconscious mind, negative feedback, self criticism, overthinking, performance, people pleasing, authenticity, spiritual alignment, truth over performance, living from the heart, inner Light, personal growth, emotional freedom, self-awareness, self-acceptance, spiritual psychology

The Loneliness Epidemic: How to Stop Disappearing From Your Own Life

Episode Guide [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1GrlZ56kH-TumG6ek6KeM7eU-Ry91zEiJ/view?usp=sharing] You can be surrounded by people and still feel like no one would notice if you disappeared for a week. Loneliness does not always look like sitting alone. Sometimes it looks like busyness, exhaustion, independence, productivity, or protecting your peace. Slowly, the distance between you and the people you care about grows wider, and reconnecting starts to feel harder than staying isolated. In this episode, Michael and Justin explore how isolation becomes familiar, why healthy solitude can quietly turn into avoidance, and why reaching out feels so vulnerable. They discuss the stories we create when someone goes silent, the importance of offering grace without abandoning our own needs, and how relationships help us see ourselves more clearly. This is not about sending one generic text and pretending loneliness is solved. It is about recognizing withdrawal, taking one honest step toward connection, and becoming someone other people can feel less alone around. * Why loneliness disguises itself as independence * The difference between solitude and isolation * How busyness and productivity become avoidance * Why canceled plans can feel relieving * The stories we tell when someone stops reaching out * Why vulnerability creates deeper relationships * Practical ways to reconnect after time apart * Helping someone cross the threshold out of isolation * Healthy solitude helps you return to life more grounded. Isolation helps you avoid returning. * Someone’s silence does not automatically mean they stopped caring. * You do not need to feel ready before reaching out. * A specific invitation is more powerful than saying, “We should catch up sometime.” * Sometimes you need someone to hold the rope while you climb out. * The goal is not only to feel less lonely. It is to become someone others can feel less alone around. Think of the specific person who came to mind while listening. Send them one direct message and name an actual next step. You might say: * “I noticed you’ve been quiet lately. How are you, really?” * “I miss you. Would you like to grab coffee this week?” * “You crossed my mind today, and I wanted to check in.” If leaving the house feels overwhelming, begin with the message. Make the next step honest, specific, and manageable. * I am allowed to reach out first. * My presence matters to people. * Connection is worth the risk of being turned down. * I am someone people can be less alone around. * Who has gone quiet in your life, and what story have you told yourself about why? * Are you stepping back so you can return more grounded, or stepping away so you do not have to return? * What is the worst honest outcome of reaching out, and could you survive it? “Am I stepping back so I can return more clearly, or am I stepping away so I do not have to return at all?” Keywords: loneliness epidemic, social isolation, meaningful connection, healthy solitude, vulnerability, friendship, community, avoidance, authentic relationships, peer support, spiritual connection, Path of Ashla Connect: Michael Perry [https://www.facebook.com/michael.perry.18400700/] | Justin Gates [https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates] Follow: TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] | New Ashla [https://newashla.com] Explore more episodes, companion materials, and coaching at New Ashla [https://newashla.com]

The Automatic Success Mechanism: How to Aim Consciously

Episode companion [https://drive.google.com/file/d/16JALmPMv6XRd50fQ8T0qpNvjLAyGr-79/view?usp=sharing] In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Justin V. Gates and Michael Perry explore the Automatic Success Mechanism, the idea that the human mind is always moving toward a target, whether we realize it or not. Your thoughts aim you. Your fears aim you. Your expectations aim you. Your habits aim you. Your self-image aims you. And once the inner system has a target, it begins organizing your attention, behavior, emotions, choices, and corrections around that aim. But here is the deeper question: are you aiming at purpose, or are you aiming at fear? Many people believe they are stuck because they lack motivation, discipline, or ability. But often, the real issue is that their inner world has been aimed unconsciously at avoidance. Avoiding rejection. Avoiding failure. Avoiding discomfort. Avoiding vulnerability. Avoiding the possibility of being seen, challenged, or changed. Through the teachings of Ashla, this becomes the discipline of alignment. The path is not only about wanting a better life. It is about consciously aiming thought, motive, emotion, and action toward truth, purpose, healing, and Light. Vague desire creates vague movement, but a clear aim gives the deeper mind direction. Justin and Michael discuss how fear can become an unconscious target, how old conditioning and self-image can quietly direct our lives, and why clarity allows correction. They also explore how visualization, prayer, disciplined thought, emotional alignment, and right action help us return to the path when we drift. This episode is a reminder that you are always moving toward something. The question is whether your life is being aimed by fear, or consciously directed by truth. Aim with intention. Align with the Light. Walk the path on purpose. Get the book here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/4ADHZyA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://a.co/d/4ADHZyA] Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/NewAshla⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/NewAshla] Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates] TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@KnightsofAwakening⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.youtube.com/@KnightsofAwakening] YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.youtube.com/@TemplumLumis⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.youtube.com/@TemplumLumis] Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.newashla.com [www.newashla.com] Key topics * Inner goal-seeking mechanism * Unconscious influences on behavior * Shadow work and self-awareness * Alignment and intentional living Keywords automatic success mechanism, Psycho-Cybernetics, Maxwell Maltz, goal seeking mechanism, subconscious mind, self image, inner target, aiming at fear, aiming at purpose, fear or purpose, subconscious programming, mental alignment, spiritual alignment, New Ashla Podcast, Justin V Gates, Michael Perry, Ashla, the Light, the Force, Luminari, self mastery, personal growth, spiritual growth, emotional healing, mindset, mindset training, visualization, prayer and purpose, right action, inner alignment, conscious growth, fear based thinking, avoidance patterns, self sabotage, healing old conditioning, purpose driven life, inner world, thought discipline, emotional discipline, alignment with truth, clarity and correction, success mindset, manifestation, spiritual psychology, personal transformation, truth purpose and Light, walking the path

The Problem With Modern Healing Culture

Episode Companion [https://drive.google.com/file/d/16FOFj9tvWitSnHxN8SjkEcO5aOCRqjXd/view?usp=sharing] Are you tired of healing, or are you tired of healing being performed? In this episode of The New Ashla Podcast, Michael Perry and Justin Gates explore the difference between healing that is actually being lived and healing that is only being worn. Healing language is everywhere right now. Boundaries, trauma, manifestation, shadow work, nervous system regulation, alignment, and inner child work have become common parts of the conversation. That can be beautiful — but when sacred work becomes popular, imitation often follows. This conversation is not about rejecting healing, spirituality, coaching, or personal growth. It is about discernment. Real healing is not about sounding wise, looking peaceful, or posting the right words. Real healing changes how we live. It shows up in accountability, repair, humility, action, and the ability to face hard truths without collapsing or avoiding. In this episode, we explore: * Performative healing vs embodied healing * Spiritual bypassing and false shortcuts * Why awareness is not the same as integration * The difference between boundaries and avoidance * Manifestation without action * How to recognize red flags and green flags in teachers, coaches, and spiritual spaces * Why real healing requires accountability, humility, and practice Key Takeaways: * Healing is not proven by how spiritual someone sounds. * Real growth shows up in behavior, repair, and consistency. * Awareness is only the beginning; integration is the actual work. * Not every boundary is healthy. Sometimes “protecting your peace” becomes avoidance. * A good teacher should help you become more honest and capable, not dependent. * Discernment allows you to question healing culture without becoming bitter. Practice for the Week: Look at the healing, spiritual, or personal growth content the algorithm keeps showing you. Ask yourself: * Is this only affirming me, or is it leading me into action? * Is this helping me become more honest with myself and others? * Is it changing how I actually behave? * Is there a real practice attached to it? * What would it look like if I actually lived what I keep listening to? Affirmations: * I do not need to perform healing for my healing to be real. * My growth is shown through practice, not image. * I can protect my peace and still face hard truths. * I can use discernment without becoming bitter. * Real healing brings me closer to honesty, humility, and love. Journaling Prompt: Where have I been using the language of healing without fully living the practice of it? Keywords: healing culture, performative healing, spiritual bypassing, shadow work, manifestation, boundaries, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, personal growth, spiritual growth, discernment, accountability, emotional healing, integration, New Ashla, Path of Ashla, Axioms of Light. Connect: Michael Perry [https://www.facebook.com/michael.perry.18400700/] | Justin Gates [https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates] Follow: TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] | New Ashla [https://newashla.com]

Why Love Feels Addictive When It Isn’t Safe

Episode Companion and Attachment Quiz [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1FmcvsEmXTmZX0_UIxiIeO5Wv4u4QikH5/view?usp=sharing] One person reaches. The other retreats. And the harder one chases, the further the other pulls away. In this final episode of our attachment series, we bring anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment together to explore how these patterns actually interact inside relationships. The anxious-avoidant dance can feel confusing, addictive, painful, and deeply personal. One partner may fear abandonment while the other fears being consumed. One seeks reassurance while the other seeks space. But underneath both strategies, there is often the same deeper wound: fear. This episode is not about blaming one attachment style over another. It is about learning to see the loop clearly, understand the stories your nervous system creates, and begin practicing something different. Secure attachment is not about becoming perfect. It is not about never getting triggered. It is about learning to regulate before reaction, repair after rupture, communicate honestly, and build enough trust to stay present with yourself and others. Topics covered: * The anxious-avoidant relationship loop * Why one person chases while the other withdraws * How disorganized attachment creates hot-and-cold dynamics * Nervous system activation and relationship stories * Reflection vs rumination * Secure attachment as a practice * Repair after rupture * Trust, presence, and communication * Using a couples journal to create safer conversations Key takeaways: * Anxious and avoidant patterns are often opposite strategies protecting against similar fears. * The story you tell yourself during activation may not be the full truth. * Reflection becomes powerful when it leads to accountability, not self-justification. * Secure attachment is built through awareness, regulation, repair, and trust. * Every moment you choose differently is evidence that you are changing. Practice from the episode: Think of a recent moment when you felt activated in a relationship. It does not have to be romantic. It could be with a friend, family member, partner, or coworker. Before focusing on what happened after, pause and ask: What did I immediately tell myself this meant? Write the story down honestly. Do not edit it. Do not make it sound wise or healed. Just notice what your nervous system believed in that moment. Then ask: Is this a current offense, or is this touching an older wound? Affirmations: I am not an attachment wound. I am the one who can heal it. I can feel fear in connection and choose to stay present anyway. Secure attachment is something I practice, not something I missed. I am learning to regulate before I react. Every moment I choose differently is evidence that I am changing. Journaling prompts: When you feel disconnected from someone you care about, what do you usually do? What are you hoping that response will get you? Has that strategy actually worked? What have your old protection mechanisms cost you in relationships? What would it feel like to be truly secure in connection, without needing constant reassurance or constant distance? Think of one moment when you were regulated and present in a relationship. What made that possible? Keywords: attachment styles, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, secure attachment, anxious avoidant dance, relationship healing, nervous system regulation, emotional triggers, repair after rupture, trust, communication, self-awareness, New Ashla, Path of Ashla. Connect: Michael Perry [https://www.facebook.com/michael.perry.18400700/] | Justin Gates [https://www.facebook.com/JustinVGates] Follow: TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@justinvgates?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] | New Ashla [https://newashla.com/]