Episode 39: Adult ADHD — What You Need to Know

Episode 39: Adult ADHD — What You Need to Know

You wrote the plan down. You even put it on your phone. By 10 a.m. you’d started four things and finished none — and that same old voice was asking what’s wrong with you. If that’s familiar, this one’s for you. In Episode 39, Greg and Rich have an honest, personal conversation about adult ADHD: what it actually is, why it’s so easily missed, and what real support looks like. ADHD isn’t the kid who can’t sit still, and it doesn’t disappear at eighteen. It’s a difference in how the brain manages attention, impulse, and follow-through — and for many adults it’s been there all along, just unrecognized. Both hosts share their own late-diagnosis stories and land where the show always does with hope. What we cover: * Why adult ADHD looks like internal restlessness and exhaustion, not hyperactivity * Why more than half of adults with ADHD aren’t diagnosed until adulthood — and why women are so often missed * Why “lazy” is almost always the wrong word (Rich’s duck-on-the-water metaphor) * Treatment that actually helps — medication, therapy, lifestyle, structure, community * The reframe: your brain isn’t working against you on purpose Chapters: * (00:00) Introduction & what adult ADHD really is * (03:00) By the numbers: who’s been missed * (04:18) Ferrari engine, bicycle brakes * (05:24) Why “lazy” gets it wrong: the duck on the water * (07:04) Childhood vs. adult ADHD & late diagnosis * (11:10) Symptoms: hyperfocus and 500 browser tabs * (14:11) Getting diagnosed as an adult * (15:54) Is ADHD real? Treatment options * (18:41) Rich & Greg’s stories + what’s on your heart * (24:04) Summary, challenge & closing This episode featured Greg Shaw and Rich. RESOURCES MENTIONED Books: * Driven to Distraction — Edward Hallowell & John Ratey [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/209384/driven-to-distraction-revised-by-edward-m-hallowell-md-and-john-j-ratey-md/] * ADHD 2.0 — Edward Hallowell & John Ratey [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/550868/adhd-20-by-edward-m-hallowell-md-and-john-j-ratey-md/] * Taking Charge of Adult ADHD — Russell Barkley [https://www.guilford.com/books/Taking-Charge-of-Adult-ADHD/Russell-Barkley/9781462546855] Organizations: * CHADD (Children and Adults with ADHD) [https://chadd.org] * ADDitude Magazine [https://www.additudemag.com] Talks: * “Failing at Normal” — Jessica McCabe (How to ADHD) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JdA9P0TUTpY] * “Recognizing ADHD in Adults” — Dr. Heather Brannon [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Am-XbS0y0hE] 💜 Free weekly peer support groups: Brain Injury (Mon 1 PM ET) Chronic Pain (Tue 12 PM ET) Mental Health (Wed 7:30 PM ET). Details: https://kindnessrx.org [https://kindnessrx.org] Keep the groups free: https://buymeacoffee.com/kindnessrx [https://buymeacoffee.com/kindnessrx] | Website: https://kindnessrx.org [https://kindnessrx.org] | Newsletter: https://kindnessrx.beehiiv.com/ [https://kindnessrx.beehiiv.com/]

Episode 38: What You Can Actually Control

It’s late, you’re scrolling, and there’s a low hum under everything — the headlines, the economy, the things you can’t fix. You’re not upset about one thing; you’re just heavy, tired, and small. Episode 38 is about that feeling, and about finding where your power actually lives. Greg, Rich, Derek, and Sarah define agency (the felt belief that what you do shapes what happens next), name the difference between agency and controlling everything, and talk honestly about reclaiming the small, controllable corners of a life — because the brain that can learn helplessness can also learn controllability. In this episode: * Why “nothing I do matters” is so common right now — and what it actually is * The science: an internal sense of control, less depression and anxiety * Why “control” isn’t a dirty word — a noun and a verb * Where agency really lives: body, attention, time, relationships, the next small action Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:00 Defining agency & locus of control 03:30 The numbers & the science 07:00 Roundtable: staying grounded 12:23 Is “control” a dirty word? 17:58 Common questions 41:20 Free-form sharing 44:42 What’s on your heart 47:32 Closing & weekly challenge 50:04 Support groups & resources This episode featured Greg with Rich, Derek, and Sarah. 💜 Free weekly peer support groups: Brain Injury (Mon 1PM ET), Chronic Pain (Tue 12PM ET), Mental Health (Wed 7:30PM ET). Details: https://kindnessrx.org [https://kindnessrx.org] Help keep the groups free: https://buymeacoffee.com/kindnessrx [https://buymeacoffee.com/kindnessrx] Connect: kindnessrx.org · YouTube @KindnessRX · Newsletter: https://kindnessrx.beehiiv.com/ [https://kindnessrx.beehiiv.com/] If you or someone you know is in crisis, call or text 988 (US Suicide & Crisis Lifeline).

June 1st. 2026

Welcome back to the Support and Kindness Podcast, I'm your host, Greg Shaw, and I just wanted to let you know that we're not going to actually air a podcast this week. We've got some people who are sick this week, some people who are on vacation, and some people are just playing hooky. Rich and I did record an episode for you, but unfortunately, yours truly had the audio settings wrong, and the audio just did not turn out, and I didn't want to bring it to you with all distortion and everything else like that. You deserve better than that. So, take a break this week. Put your feet up and rest. But I did want to let you know about some really exciting things which are coming your way. The next podcast that we're doing is episode 38, and it's what you can actually control. We're going to talk about things that are within your control and things that are not within your control, what you can control, what you can't. So that's something to look forward to. We're looking forward to that. And then after that, the next week is going to be adult ADHD, what you need to know. And followed by that, we're going to talk about kindness at work or kindness with a theme of work, and how much is kindness actually worth, and we'll spell out the cost of being kind at work and not being kind at work. How much does it cost businesses in turnover, retention, and all of that good stuff. So we've got some really cool stuff coming your way. So, take it easy this week and be kind to somebody, and we'll see you soon on the Support and Kindness podcast. Have a great week.

Episode 37: Your Emotional First Aid Kit

Content note: This episode discusses mental health crisis, panic attacks, and suicidal thinking. If you're struggling, call or text 988 (US Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). International listeners: please use your local crisis line.When you cut your finger, you reach for the first aid kit. But what do you reach for when your heart is breaking, when anxiety floods you at 3 a.m., or when grief makes it impossible to get out of bed? Most of us were never taught.In Episode 37, Greg, Rich, Derek, Liam, and Sarah unpack what actually goes in an emotional first aid kit — and why you have to build it before the crisis, not during it. Liam reframes the whole thing as an emotional utility belt. Sarah shares how counting pulled her out of panic attacks. Rich realizes he's been using tools he never named. Derek leans on music as a full emotional journey. And Greg gets honest about the fact that he doesn't have a kit yet either.What you'll take away:The difference between an emotional first aid kit and therapyReal, specific tools — grounding, frozen water bottles, stuffed animals, music, counting, naps, beading * Why your kit needs to be quick to reach for, not just well-stocked * How to adapt your kit for pain, brain injury, or any chronic condition * The one thing Greg challenges you to build this weekChapters00:00 Introduction03:11 Surprising tools that helped07:31 Kit vs. therapy09:13 Where to start12:23 What actually goes in the kit18:42 Can the kit replace professional care?23:02 Using the kit when you can't think straight25:59 Adapting for pain and brain injury29:34 Freeform sharing34:27 What's on your heart43:29 Listener challenge & closingThis episode featured: Greg, Rich, Derek, Liam, Sarah 💜 Free weekly peer support groups: * Brain Injury (Mon 1PM ET) * Chronic Pain (Tue 12PM ET) * Mental Health (Wed 7:30PM ET). Details: https://kindnessrx.org [https://kindnessrx.org] Help keep the support groups free: https://buymeacoffee.com/kindnessrx [https://buymeacoffee.com/kindnessrx] Monthly newsletter: https://substack.com/@supportandkindness [https://substack.com/@supportandkindness] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kindnessRX [https://www.youtube.com/@kindnessRX]

Episode 36 Cruelty of The Inner Voice

Episode 36: Cruelty of The Inner Voice What would you do if a stranger spoke to you the way your inner critic does? Most of us would walk away. Some of us would speak up. Some of us would call someone for help. But when that same cruelty comes from inside our own heads, many of us accept it as truth. In this episode of The Support and Kindness Podcast, Greg, Rich, Derek, Liam, and Sarah talk honestly about the cruel inner voice: where it comes from, why it can feel so convincing, how it connects with anxiety, depression, chronic pain, brain injury, shame, and self-doubt, and how we can begin answering it with something kinder. This is not an episode about fake positivity. It is about real kindness: the kind that tells the truth without attacking you. In this episode, we talk about: * Why the inner critic can feel like “the truth” instead of just a thought * The difference between healthy self-reflection and cruelty * Why shame is not the same thing as discipline * How anxiety and depression can make negative self-talk louder * How chronic pain, brain injury, ADHD, PTSD, grief, and life changes can give the inner critic “new material” * Practical ways to quiet the voice in a hard moment * Why self-compassion is not weakness, but part of healing A few moments from the conversation: “Cruelty is not the same thing as motivation. Shame is not the same thing as discipline. And beating yourself up is not the same as holding yourself accountable.” * “That voice may be loud, but loud does not mean truth.” * “The same brain that learned to attack itself can learn to support itself.” This week’s challenge: One time today, catch the cruel voice in the act. Don’t fight it. Don’t argue with it. Just notice it. Then ask yourself: Would I say this to my best friend? If the answer is no, try saying to yourself what you would say to them instead. Resources mentioned in this episode: * The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis, read by John Cleese [https://youtu.be/_4tpazCxTXw?si=_9gVnNWWU8mLHL4j] * Beethoven Blues by Jon Batiste [https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=OLAK5uy_mL0qq64NUbgIgo17VHqoJrqbvjkgHUyIE] Learn more: * Nature Communications: Brain meta-state transitions and thought dynamics [https://www.nature.com/articles/s41467-020-17255-9] * CDC National Health Interview Survey [https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nhis/index.htm] * Brain Injury Association of America [https://biausa.org/] * Cleveland Clinic: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) [https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/22838-dialectical-behavior-therapy-dbt] * 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline [https://988lifeline.org/] Note: This podcast is peer support and personal conversation, not medical advice. If you are in crisis, thinking about harming yourself, or need immediate emotional support in the U.S., call or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org. [https://988lifeline.org/] Join our free support groups: At KindnessRX [https://kindnessrx.org], we host free peer-led online support groups every week. These are safe, confidential video spaces for real people showing up for one another. * Brain Injury Support Group: Mondays at 1:00 PM Eastern * Chronic Pain Support Group: Tuesdays at 12:00 PM Eastern * Mental Health Support Group: Wednesdays at 7:30 PM Eastern Sign up here: KindnessRX Support Groups on Luma [https://chatgpt.com/c/6a08ad09-cd6c-83ea-82de-d213d12c5dae]Learn more about the community at:kindnessrx.org [https://kindnessrx.org/] You do not have to hate yourself through hard things. You are allowed to meet yourself with kindness.