Why do I obsess about them being mad at me?

Why do I obsess about them being mad at me?

Because you feel like you have to fix it…or else… Everything in your body tightens at the idea of them being upset with you. Your mind goes into tunnel vision, desperately searching for all the right things you could say or do to make them feel better. While you spiral into a pit of anxiety. You can’t focus on anything other than them. And it’s draining you. You can feel it. It’s taking energy and time away from what truly matters to you. And you’re only asking, “Why am I like this?” because you know this obsession only makes things worse. You know it’s stealing your peace. And it feels like they couldn't care less about how upset you are over the matter. Then you’re asking, “Why the hell am I always the one who cares?! Why am I the only one who can’t make a mistake?” It’s a whole loop of fear and resentment that leaves you feeling like shit. But let’s zoom out and get honest so you can feel okay again. Ask yourself, “Why is how they’re feeling so important right now?” But don’t answer with the story that comes to mind. Drop into your body and speak from there. What’s the feeling underneath that thought that just popped into your head? It’s fear. Anxiety. A feeling of being completely out of control. That last one makes a little sense, though. You know that you can’t actually control how someone else feels. Yet, you’re trying to. It’s not because something is wrong with you, though. It’s not because your peace must be earned from them. It’s because you’re trying to make your fear go away by making them feel better. Which we just established — you can’t actually do. Do you see that? Can you see that you’ve been trying to manage your own emotional distress by managing someone else’s? Hello, middleman between you and you! And right now, it doesn’t matter why you’re doing that. You have your reasons, as I did when I struggled with this. And this habit once served you. But what matters most of all is that you let yourself truly see it without judging yourself for it. Once you see it, you can start to understand it, and then you can make a new choice. That new choice is what leads you back into your peace. So now that you’ve realized — oh, I’m only obsessing over making them feel better because I’m trying to make myself feel better — your next move is to tend to you. What would make you feel safe right now? What would make you feel relief right now? If you're coming up with blanks, try this. Imagine that anxious part of yourself is a child sitting in front of you. They’re obsessing over someone being mad at them. They can’t play or focus on anything else. What would you say to that child? Probably something along the lines of, “Hey, it’s gonna be okay. You don’t need to fix how they feel. They’ll talk to you when they’re ready. You’re safe no matter what.” And you’d probably hug them. How do you think that child would feel if you said that to them? Probably relieved. They’d probably feel like they could play again. Now, try it on yourself. Go to that uncomfortable feeling in your body and talk to it like it’s that sweet child who just needs to remember they're safe. Notice how you feel. What happens? So, the next time you notice yourself obsessing over how someone else is feeling, pause, breathe, and ask yourself: what about me? And give yourself what you wanted them to give you. The reminder that everything’s okay and that you’re safe. But let’s not stop here. Schedule a clarity call [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth/clarity-call], and we’ll talk about what’s weighing on you, where you’d rather be, and how you can get there. If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like [https://thetapping.club/]you [https://thetapping.club/] matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

When I let fear choose my outfit

I didn’t wear shorts on a 100-degree day because my legs weren’t shaved and I was afraid people would judge me for it. After all, I’m a woman. I’m supposed to have smooth legs at all times… right? 🤡 This might seem so tiny, but this moment is just the tip of an enormous iceberg. And we’re going to look at it. This is no different from when you don’t say what you want to because you’re afraid they’ll judge you. Or you don’t create the art you really want to create because you’re afraid people will think you’re crazy. This fear hides in the most mundane of moments, and it’s important we pay attention. Here’s why. Fear of being judged tricks you into abandoning yourself all the time. Making you live for others instead of for yourself. I’m sure you can make a pretty long list of all the times this fear has made you second-guess yourself. I can too. But what if I told you that you’re not actually afraid of others judging you? What if I told you that you don’t actually care about anyone else’s opinion of you? You’re probably thinking, “That sounds great, Hanna, but if that’s true, then why is it so hard to just be myself?” It’s hard because you’re the one judging yourself. Put down all the stories you have about what so and so said to you in the grade school cafeteria when you were 8 years old. Who’s the one thinking those things right now? Who was the one who told me on that hot day, “Don’t show your hairy legs. You look like a man, and that’s not allowed”??? Me. I had the thought. I believed it. And I listened to it. Despite my desire to wear the damn shorts anyway. Here’s the reality: You can’t stop abandoning yourself if you’re still blaming others for what you’re doing to yourself. So the next time you feel afraid to do something because you’re worried what others might think, remind yourself of this: This crippling fear I’m feeling is my body saying, “the way I’m looking at myself right now kind of hurts…” Not, “watch out, they’re going to throw rocks at you.” That’s fucking freeing. Because now, their approval of you doesn’t matter. Only yours does. So, what would you do today if that fear of being judged was gone? If it didn’t have the same power over you anymore? What would you create, say, or wear? But knowing this and breaking the habit of obeying the inner critic is a whole different game. And I’m here to help. I’ve created a simple solution that dethrones that inner critic and puts you back in control of your decisions. That way you can finally live like you matter. And wear the damn shorts with your hairy legs. (Which I do way more often now, by the way 🦵🏻.) If you’re ready to stop being controlled by the big bad judge in your head, book a clarity call [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth/clarity-call] or hit reply to see if the 30-Day Inner Reclaim [https://thetapping.club/] is the right next step for you. If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like you matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Breaking the cycle of energetic violence

If you’ve been navigating conflict, feeling misunderstood, or carrying emotional heaviness after difficult interactions… this message may be exactly what your nervous system needs to hear. In this deeply honest and heart-led conversation, we explore what it really means to break cycles of emotional pain, reconnect to your inner sense of safety, and stop outsourcing your peace to people who cannot provide it. This episode is for the cycle breakers, the healers, and the ones learning how to love themselves more deeply through life’s challenges. Inside this episode, we explore: * Why conflict can feel so emotionally consuming (and what it’s actually revealing) * The hidden reason we ruminate after painful interactions * How to reconnect to your inner “safety center” when life feels triggering * A compassionate reframe for people who hurt us * What it means to break cycles of emotional and energetic harm * The powerful shift from seeking safety externally to sourcing it from within This one is tender, grounding, and deeply validating — especially if you’re learning how to hold onto yourself in moments that once would have unraveled you. After listening, comment and let me know what spoke to you the most. Signs that came out: * Capricorn * Aquarius * Gemini * Virgo But these do not exclude anyone. If you feel resonance, this message is meant for you, regardless of your sign. Possible Next Steps * Tap into your inherent ease, trust, and abundance with instantly downloadable EFT rituals [https://thetapping.club/tapping-rituals]. Try this Morning Ease [https://thetapping.club/b/morningtappingforanxiety] Tapping ritual. * Book a private tapping & tarot session with me. [https://calendly.com/thebodyknowsthetruth] We take a deep dive into the subconscious resistance keeping you disconnected from trusting yourself, and finally transform that energy into peace and confidence If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like you matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Melt stress away in minutes

An older version of me lived in chronic stress and anxiety. It was debilitating and miserable. When the stress would hit, I’d feel forced to react to it. Become critical, obsessive, and angry. I felt like I was at the mercy of my overwhelm. I would drink or smoke to try and take the edge off, only to find that the intensity was waiting for me when the high faded. I eventually realized that what I was doing wasn’t truly helping. In fact, it was making things worse a lot of the time. But I didn’t know what would help. Like, really help. The kind of help that frees you from being your worst self. That’s what I truly wanted. And to maybe wake up in the morning without dreading the day. I’m happy to say I’ve found that solution, and miserable wake-ups are mostly a thing of the past. (We all have off days here and there, though 😉) But this whole stress-to-peace journey helped me realize something important: We don’t need to escape or numb. We need sustainable relief. We need stress relief that can meet us where we are, without demanding anything from us other than presence and a willingness to feel better. Because there are endless opportunities to become stressed out. That’s part of being human. The real question is: how are you handling that stress? Maybe you’ve developed your own version of what I described above. Maybe it’s scrolling, overthinking, emotional eating, staying busy, drinking, smoking, or something else entirely. Whatever the strategy, if it leaves you feeling drained, dependent, or right back where you started, it’s probably not giving you the relief you’re actually looking for. The goal isn’t to eliminate stress completely. Because stress in small doses is actually good for us. The goal is to have a healthy, sustainable way to move through it. A clean way to come back to yourself. A way to feel better without paying for it later. And that’s exactly why I fell in love with EFT tapping [https://open.substack.com/pub/thebodyknowsthetruth/p/why-i-tap-eft-tapping-points-ref?r=6xdg25&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web]. But don’t take my word for it. Try it and taste the relief for yourself. I’ve made everything super simple for you. You don’t have to figure out what to say or where to tap to feel the relief. All you have to do is show up, tap along, and feel the difference. Grab the Morning Ease audio here. [https://thetapping.club/b/morningtappingforanxiety] If you consider yourself a sensitive, self-aware soul who’s breaking a cycle of self-abandonment, and this conversation resonated with you, consider subscribing. We’ll chat in your inbox a couple times a week about how to: * make yourself a priority in your life * stay grounded even when emotions are high * and take control of your life story You’ll also receive a free tapping audio that helps you feel steady even when you’re feeling a lot. Self-Reclaim EFT Specialist | Certified Master EFT Tapping PractitionerReclaim your energy, time, and peace, and finally live like you matter. [https://thetapping.club/] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Effortless Abundance Subliminal

✨ Return to Safety. Return to Enoughness. Return to the Abundance Already Here. ✨ Set it to loop while you sleep! This subliminal was created to gently guide you back into the feeling of being supported, safe, resourced, and deeply held by life.If you’ve been moving through seasons of uncertainty, pressure, rushing, overthinking, scarcity, or feeling like you have to “figure it all out” before you can exhale… this is your invitation to soften. This subliminal is here to help you reconnect with the truth that:🌿 You are okay in this moment.🌿 There is room for all of you here.🌿 You are supported, even while things are still unfolding.🌿 You don’t have to rush your becoming.🌿 Abundance already exists within and around you. At its heart, this subliminal is about nervous system safety, trust, receptivity, self-trust, and allowing yourself to recognize the support, opportunities, beauty, and enoughness already present in your life. You’ll hear affirmations centered around:✨ Safety & inner peace✨ Patience & divine timing✨ Self-trust & inner guidance✨ Receiving support with ease✨ Abundance & prosperity consciousness✨ Trusting the unfolding of your life✨ Feeling nourished in the present moment✨ Becoming available for overflow 💫 HOW TO USE THIS SUBLIMINAL: Listen while sleeping, relaxing, journaling, walking, driving, cleaning, working, meditating, or simply resting. You can also play it quietly in the background while going about your day. Consistency matters more than intensity. Think of this less as “fixing yourself” and more as gently watering a new inner garden. There’s no perfect way to use subliminals. Let this be soft. Even if you don’t consciously hear every affirmation, your mind is still receiving the repetition and emotional tone. 🧠 WHY SUBLIMINALS CAN BE POWERFUL: Your subconscious mind learns through repetition, emotion, imagery, and familiarity. Over time, repeated messages can begin influencing the thoughts, beliefs, emotional patterns, and expectations you naturally return to. Research in neuroscience shows that the brain is adaptable (hello, neuroplasticity ✨). The beliefs and emotional states we repeatedly practice can strengthen over time. When paired with safety, repetition, and intention, subliminals can become a beautiful tool for gently reshaping inner patterns and reinforcing supportive beliefs. ✨ If this resonates, leave a comment and share what you’re calling in, softening into, or learning to trust right now. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com [https://thebodyknowsthetruth.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]