Episode 15: You Don't Need her Apology to Heal: The Truth About The Mother Wound

Episode 15: You Don't Need her Apology to Heal: The Truth About The Mother Wound

Message me at briony@thesomatherapycollective.com [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527033/fan_mail/new] The Unfuckwithable Woman | Hosted by Briony Montgomery The most asked question in Briony Montgomery's 20+ years of somatic therapy work: Do I have to confront my mother to heal the mother wound? The answer is no. And Briony Montgomery actively advises against it. Not because the harm wasn't real. Not because what happened doesn't matter. But because confronting your mother before this work is done puts you back into the relational field that created the wound, without the roots to stand in it. You don't need her apology, her understanding, her acknowledgement, her presence, or even her aliveness. The healing happens inside you first. In Episode 15, Briony Montgomery reframes the mother wound as something far larger than a single relationship. A rupture in the thread of belonging running through your body, your motherline, and a culture that has been severing women from themselves for generations. And she walks you through how healing actually happens: in the body, in the lineage, in the daily practice of turning toward yourself. This episode covers: Why confronting your mother is not only unnecessary but can actively work against your healing Why the mother wound is ancestral and political, not just personal The Death Mother archetype, what she is and where she lives in your body Somatic grounding and body mapping practices you can start today Grief, rage, and parts work as pathways into healing Reparenting your core self and calling home your exiled parts Why your healing breaks the transmission forward Whether your mother is difficult, absent, or already gone, this work is available to you. You are not broken. You are being remembered. 🎧 Subscribe to The Unfuckwithable Woman wherever you listen. Only 4 one-on-one somatic therapy sessions available now. Start with a free 20-minute clarity session at www.thesomatherapycollective.com [http://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/] Know a woman who needs this work? Ask about our referral discount. Find Briony Montgomery at www.thesomatherapycollective.com [http://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/] | Instagram @BrionyMontgomeryTherapy and @TheReclaimMeProject | YouTube: Nervous System Support | TikTok @BrionyMontgomery Continue the Journey If something in this episode landed in your body, sit with it. That's the work beginning. The Unfuckwithable Woman is a space for women who are done managing their pain and ready to feel their way back to themselves. Each conversation goes deep into somatic therapy, nervous system healing, matrilineal repair and the kind of embodied living that doesn't ask permission. Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@nervoussystemsupport] so you never miss a conversation. Share this episode with the woman in your life who is ready to come home to herself. Leave a review to help this work find the people who need it most. Stay Connected to Your Body, Every Day The Daily Root 🌳🤎 is your daily nervous system anchor, grounding reflections and small consistent practices delivered straight to you. Subscribe to The Daily Root: https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page] Go Deeper with The SomaTherapy Collective This work doesn't end when the episode does. When you're ready for more, explore 1:1 Somatic Therapy Sessions, Clarity Sessions, Mother Wound and Matrilineal Healing, The MotherWay and The Daily Root for ongoing nervous system support. https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/ [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/] This is not about f...

Episode 14: The Death Mother Archetype: The Hidden Pattern Behind Shame, Freeze & Self Abandonment

Message me at briony@thesomatherapycollective.com [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527033/fan_mail/new] What if the voice inside your head that tells you to stay small, over perform, disconnect, or abandon yourself… isn’t actually yours? Episode 14 of The Unfuckwithable Woman goes deep into the Death Mother Archetype and the hidden nervous system patterns shaping relationships, shame, perfectionism, emotional shutdown, people pleasing, burnout and survival mode.  In this episode, Briony Montgomery explores how inherited relational wounds become internalised in the body and why so many people live disconnected from themselves without understanding why. This conversation explores: • mother wounds and attachment trauma • freeze, shutdown and nervous system survival states • the inner critic and self abandonment • perfectionism, emotional disconnection and shame • matrilineal repair and inherited trauma • how oppressive systems shape disconnection from self and body • somatic therapy and returning to the body This episode is not about blame. It is about awareness, healing and breaking unconscious patterns. If you’ve ever felt emotionally numb, stuck in survival mode, hypervigilant in relationships, or unable to fully rest, this episode will help you understand what may be happening underneath the surface. Listen now and explore deeper support through 1:1 sessions, The Daily Root and somatic healing pathways at: The SomaTherapy Collective [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com] Continue the Journey If something in this episode landed in your body, sit with it. That's the work beginning. The Unfuckwithable Woman is a space for women who are done managing their pain and ready to feel their way back to themselves. Each conversation goes deep into somatic therapy, nervous system healing, matrilineal repair and the kind of embodied living that doesn't ask permission. Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@nervoussystemsupport] so you never miss a conversation. Share this episode with the woman in your life who is ready to come home to herself. Leave a review to help this work find the people who need it most. Stay Connected to Your Body, Every Day The Daily Root 🌳🤎 is your daily nervous system anchor, grounding reflections and small consistent practices delivered straight to you. Subscribe to The Daily Root: https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page] Go Deeper with The SomaTherapy Collective This work doesn't end when the episode does. When you're ready for more, explore 1:1 Somatic Therapy Sessions, Clarity Sessions, Mother Wound and Matrilineal Healing, The MotherWay and The Daily Root for ongoing nervous system support. https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/ [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/] This is not about f...

Episode 13: The Mother Wound Explained: Why You Keep Repeating Relationship Patterns (And How to Break Them Through Somatic Healing)

Message me at briony@thesomatherapycollective.com [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527033/fan_mail/new] Why do you keep repeating the same relationship patterns… even when you know better? In this episode of The Unfuckwithable Woman, Briony Montgomery explores the deeper truth of the mother wound - not as a personal flaw, but as a relational and nervous system pattern inherited across generations.  This episode unpacks: * What the mother wound actually is (beyond your relationship with your mother) * How patterns like people pleasing, hyper-independence, and over-functioning are formed * Why these patterns live in the body, not just the mind * The role of culture, lineage, and relational environments in shaping your nervous system * How somatic therapy supports long-term, embodied healing Briony shares clinical insight and lived experience to guide listeners into a deeper understanding of how the body holds relational patterns and how those patterns can change. This is not about fixing yourself. This is about understanding your system and learning how to work with it. If this episode resonates, explore somatic practices and work with Briony at www.thesomatherapycollective.com Continue the Journey If something in this episode landed in your body, sit with it. That's the work beginning. The Unfuckwithable Woman is a space for women who are done managing their pain and ready to feel their way back to themselves. Each conversation goes deep into somatic therapy, nervous system healing, matrilineal repair and the kind of embodied living that doesn't ask permission. Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@nervoussystemsupport] so you never miss a conversation. Share this episode with the woman in your life who is ready to come home to herself. Leave a review to help this work find the people who need it most. Stay Connected to Your Body, Every Day The Daily Root 🌳🤎 is your daily nervous system anchor, grounding reflections and small consistent practices delivered straight to you. Subscribe to The Daily Root: https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page] Go Deeper with The SomaTherapy Collective This work doesn't end when the episode does. When you're ready for more, explore 1:1 Somatic Therapy Sessions, Clarity Sessions, Mother Wound and Matrilineal Healing, The MotherWay and The Daily Root for ongoing nervous system support. https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/ [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/] This is not about f...

Episode 12: What Is Somatic Therapy? Why Your Nervous System Is Stuck in Survival (And How to Shift It)

Message me at briony@thesomatherapycollective.com [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527033/fan_mail/new] There comes a point in healing where insight stops being enough. You understand your trauma. You know your patterns. But your body is still reacting - anxious, overwhelmed, shut down, or stuck in the same cycles. In this foundational episode of The Unfuckwithable Woman, Briony Montgomery breaks down what somatic therapy is and why it’s one of the most powerful approaches for trauma healing, nervous system regulation, and emotional resilience in today’s world. You’ll learn: – What the nervous system actually is (in simple, accessible language) – Why your body responds from past experiences, not just the present – The four core survival states: fight, flight, fawn, and freeze – How the fawn response keeps you overgiving, people-pleasing, and disconnected from yourself – Why talk therapy alone often isn’t enough – How somatic therapy works to create safety in the body – And how to begin shifting from survival into grounded, embodied flow This episode explores how your body holds your lived experiences and how healing happens when you work with it, not against it. Because your body isn’t the problem. It’s the pathway. 🔗 Explore somatic practices, The Daily Root, and work with Briony: www.thesomatherapycollective.com Continue the Journey If something in this episode landed in your body, sit with it. That's the work beginning. The Unfuckwithable Woman is a space for women who are done managing their pain and ready to feel their way back to themselves. Each conversation goes deep into somatic therapy, nervous system healing, matrilineal repair and the kind of embodied living that doesn't ask permission. Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@nervoussystemsupport] so you never miss a conversation. Share this episode with the woman in your life who is ready to come home to herself. Leave a review to help this work find the people who need it most. Stay Connected to Your Body, Every Day The Daily Root 🌳🤎 is your daily nervous system anchor, grounding reflections and small consistent practices delivered straight to you. Subscribe to The Daily Root: https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page] Go Deeper with The SomaTherapy Collective This work doesn't end when the episode does. When you're ready for more, explore 1:1 Somatic Therapy Sessions, Clarity Sessions, Mother Wound and Matrilineal Healing, The MotherWay and The Daily Root for ongoing nervous system support. https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/ [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/] This is not about f...

Episode 11: Integrated Practice - How to Live Your Healing Every Day

Message me at briony@thesomatherapycollective.com [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2527033/fan_mail/new] Why does healing feel good in the moment but hard to sustain when life gets loud? In this powerful episode, Briony Montgomery breaks down the truth about integrated practice - what it means to live your healing rather than perform it. From nervous system realities to protective archetypes like the Martyr, the Parentified Child, and the Death Mother, she reveals why your healing work might not be “landing”-and how to finally bring your somatic practices into the car, the kitchen, the boardroom, and your relationships. This is for anyone tired of the retreat high/crash cycle and ready to stay with the work. Learn how to build rhythm, regulation, and real presence through daily embodied action. 🌱 Subscribe to  The Daily Root 🌳🤎 [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page]- your daily nervous system drop of somatic healing, power & support. 👉 www.thesomatherapycollective.com/thedailyroot ✨ Subscribe, rate and share The Unfuckwithable Woman podcast. Continue the Journey If something in this episode landed in your body, sit with it. That's the work beginning. The Unfuckwithable Woman is a space for women who are done managing their pain and ready to feel their way back to themselves. Each conversation goes deep into somatic therapy, nervous system healing, matrilineal repair and the kind of embodied living that doesn't ask permission. Subscribe on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@nervoussystemsupport] so you never miss a conversation. Share this episode with the woman in your life who is ready to come home to herself. Leave a review to help this work find the people who need it most. Stay Connected to Your Body, Every Day The Daily Root 🌳🤎 is your daily nervous system anchor, grounding reflections and small consistent practices delivered straight to you. Subscribe to The Daily Root: https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/the-daily-root-page] Go Deeper with The SomaTherapy Collective This work doesn't end when the episode does. When you're ready for more, explore 1:1 Somatic Therapy Sessions, Clarity Sessions, Mother Wound and Matrilineal Healing, The MotherWay and The Daily Root for ongoing nervous system support. https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/ [https://www.thesomatherapycollective.com/] This is not about f...