POD 069 | Design-Based Giving with Tom Nelson

POD 069 | Design-Based Giving with Tom Nelson

In this episode, Jacob and Bill sit down with Tom Nelson, founding pastor of Christ Community, to explore the concept of "design-based giving." They discuss how generosity is more than simply giving—it’s about aligning our hearts with God’s design and priorities, particularly when it comes to stewarding finances and supporting the local church. Together, they unpack biblical wisdom, practical principles, and the long-term impact of ordered, intentional generosity. 3 Main Takeaways: 1. Design-Based Giving Anchors Generosity in Biblical Wisdom Tom Nelson emphasizes that generosity is not just about giving wherever and whenever, but instead following a biblically informed framework for how, where, and why we give (02:28, 05:06).  2. The Local Church is “Plan A” for Giving The podcast highlights the biblical pattern of prioritizing the local church in our giving (16:35–18:36). Tom Nelson argues that the “first fruits” of our wealth should primarily support the local church, describing it as the enduring institution at the center of God’s plan (17:18, 18:10).  3. Generosity Reflects the Ordering of Our Loves and Participates in God’s Joy Generosity is ultimately about the ordering of our hearts—what we love most (12:22, 23:29). Giving our best (“first fruits”) reflects love and honor for God and aligns us with his generous nature (10:54, 11:11). Living into this design brings joy and freedom, as we become outpourers reflecting the image of our generous Creator (07:01, 08:22, 39:08), and invest our lives in things that outlast us (32:37). Resources: The Economics of Neighborly Love: Investing in Your Community's Compassion and Capacity: Nelson, Tom: 9780830843923: [https://www.amazon.com/Economics-Neighborly-Love-Communitys-Compassion/dp/0830843922/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2H07EJVLTM6UA&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Z2Pr6kuBQaQ_-FU9mK0s1M9aZoVt9Wh9wTWP0-IIU-m2fY5dZ9HTdVnUkvacDQKYSp0cxvEFkems4K-SOhShgI044mU3aQsCCF2m7wmmYoPLlCF44nd70dYhhhO9w01JmqRyUCIQ25oSAG1NUsd3rnZGsC6XiZWbbH1UQwbCYwvU356403Ho0LdUsDcphLWZcIkg3Ps0c-3SoZMM_eiuljOA9XfuhZtZMwcf6xt06SQ.SZyXGX24Zv-3DQ-6Vrw5Q6JlV-CgnvIry4xu-d2XMg8&dib_tag=se&keywords=tom+nelson+books&qid=1779826222&sprefix=tom+nelson+book%2Caps%2C117&sr=8-3]Amazon.com [http://amazon.com] https://cckc.church/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Exploring-Gods-Design-for-Generosity-12.19.pdf [https://cckc.church/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Exploring-Gods-Design-for-Generosity-12.19.pdf]          Timestamps: 00:01:31 — Jacob Nannie frames the conversation by asking why generosity alone is not enough without biblical wisdom, prompting the introduction of "design-based giving." 00:04:49 — Tom Nelson defines design-based giving, explaining its scriptural roots and distinguishing it from a needs-based or haphazard approach. 00:09:07 — Tom Nelson clarifies the paradigm shift from self-centered ownership to other-centered stewardship, anchoring the idea that "God owns it all." 00:16:32 — Tom Nelson describes the biblical foundation for prioritizing the local church in giving, drawing connections from Old Testament tithing to the New Testament. 00:37:51 — Tom Nelson shares his hope for a new generation to have a reordered love, centering the love of Jesus expressed most fully in loving and supporting the local church. Keywords Generosity, Giving, Design, Stewardship, Church, Tithe, Legacy, Wealth, Abundance, Joy, Love Institution, Family, Worship, Firstfruits, Imagination, Ownership, Sacrifice, Community, Flourishing

POD 068 | With God: In Suffering with Andrew DeKanter

With God: In Suffering | POD 068 Introduction: In this special episode, Andrew DeKanter who is a pastor and the founder of Better Stories Ministries, sits down with Jacob Nannie to share a personal story of loss, faith, and hope after tragedy. Together, they reflect honestly on walking with God through suffering and how a supportive community makes all the difference. 3 Main Takeaways: 1.The Importance of Presence in Suffering Both Jacob Nannie and Andrew DeKanter emphasize that the most helpful response to those who are grieving is not polished answers or quick fixes, but simply being present—“weeping with those who weep”—and carrying burdens alongside them (26:06). 2.The Reality of Spiritual and Emotional Complexity Andrew DeKanter describes the intertwined experience of mental health struggles, spiritual warfare, and grief following the loss of his son Moses (08:49, 33:23). He highlights both the material and spiritual realities at play in suffering, affirming the existence of real evil but also the sovereignty and goodness of God, even amidst deep questions and loss (36:13). 3.God’s Sovereignty and Redemptive Hope Even in the midst of unfathomable loss, Andrew DeKanter clings to truths from Scripture: that God is sovereign, that he is good, and that suffering can have purpose (40:03). Andrew DeKanter finds healing in seeing God use his pain to help others, particularly through his current work with college students—a reminder that God can bring redemptive good from even the deepest grief (44:42). Resources: https://www.betterstoryministries.org/ [https://www.betterstoryministries.org/] https://youtu.be/xQwnH8th_fs?si=2jIoxkEskLQ6Z_bU [https://youtu.be/xQwnH8th_fs?si=2jIoxkEskLQ6Z_bU] https://youtu.be/GswSg2ohqmA?si=jZyfn8LnbAQsFxTb [https://youtu.be/GswSg2ohqmA?si=jZyfn8LnbAQsFxTb] https://youtu.be/5vp9hV8bOjk?si=EQtbAmrmGbAk25Ld [https://youtu.be/5vp9hV8bOjk?si=EQtbAmrmGbAk25Ld] https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594634408/?bestFormat=true&k=walking%20with%20god%20through%20pain%20and%20suffering&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-bk-ww_k1_1_17_de&crid=1HDV5WQIAR55F&sprefix=walking%20with%20god%20 [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594634408/?bestFormat=true&k=walking%20with%20god%20through%20pain%20and%20suffering&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-bk-ww_k1_1_17_de&crid=1HDV5WQIAR55F&sprefix=walking%20with%20god%20]             Crisis support: call or text 988 if you are in the United States. Timestamps: 02:39 — Andrew DeKanter shares memories of his son Moses, describing his personality, talents, and spiritual life. 12:20 — Andrew DeKanter recounts the events leading up to Moses' passing and the family's experience of grief and loss. 20:01 — Andrew DeKanter outlines three common (often unhelpful) ways people respond to others’ suffering and highlights the importance of "weeping with those who weep." 31:41 — Andrew DeKanter reflects on the theological lessons learned from Job and the grounding truths he held onto during grief. 44:22 — Andrew DeKanter discusses how God is bringing healing in his life, particularly through ministry to college students after the loss of his son. Keywords Suffering, Grief, Suicide, Loss, Job (Book of Job), Mental health, OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), Religious scrupulosity, Faith, Hope, Spiritual warfare, Presence, Compassion, Church community, Healing, Redemptive suffering, God’s sovereignty, Support in crisis, Ministry, Trauma, Covenant love (Hesed), Lament, Pain, Family, Vulnerability, Authenticity

POD 067 | Sexual Brokenness with Jay Stringer

In this episode, hosts Paul Brandes and Jacob Nannie welcome back guest Jay Stringer, a licensed counselor, researcher, and author. They discuss themes from Jay Stringer's book, Desire focusing on how our desires—especially those surrounding sexuality and brokenness—shape our lives, relationships, and spiritual growth. The conversation unpacks the importance of understanding the roots of our desires rather than simply suppressing or indulging them, inviting listeners to approach their inner struggles with curiosity, honesty, and grace. 3 Main Takeaways: 1. Desires Are Not Random—They’re Instructive Jay Stringer emphasizes that our desires and even our struggles—especially those relating to sexuality—are not arbitrary or meaningless. Instead, they are deeply connected to our personal stories, family dynamics, and past wounds. 2. Honor and Honesty Go Hand-in-Hand A recurring theme is the importance of holding both honor and honesty together when examining our personal stories and relationships, particularly regarding family of origin.  3. Symptoms and Temptations Are Invitations to Deeper Discipleship Instead of viewing symptoms (like sexual compulsion, low desire, overeating, etc.) only as problems to be eradicated, Jay Stringer encourages treating them as “holy men”—signals calling for our attention.  Resources: * Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow: Stringer, Jay [https://www.amazon.com/Desire-Longings-Journey-Connection-Purpose/dp/0593728270/ref=sr_1_1?crid=16244ZKJ1X9I4&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.mYgWAHmvvg3BwcBEUU_SOjAMnkYSM03W6xVLsnqHFxUPeO9pf4fnVVvrYdVStTGhWWk2axpnue_idVYrMGIkaawZPUo05wciZxHvDsfZ_7rbrAEBK39XegpfVXjLjdqG75IHE4gpUBdctm_uEeUCDD-f9XX4-Tja4VaNXDT-8-mB2OKVy8wJ3-KIKNF9FVGTGbFfi-_uo28_0y2EgMq41BYYOn2Ne0A3KSpUnjNtnxY.UUn8rJV19Mo7GdQCXb3VqXerWcJwVbC8oSKBZdMih80&dib_tag=se&keywords=jay+stringer&qid=1777387770&sprefix=jay+string%2Caps%2C220&sr=8-1] * Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing: Stringer, Jay: 9781631466724 [https://www.amazon.com/Unwanted-Sexual-Brokenness-Reveals-Healing/dp/1631466720/ref=sr_1_2?crid=16244ZKJ1X9I4&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.mYgWAHmvvg3BwcBEUU_SOjAMnkYSM03W6xVLsnqHFxUPeO9pf4fnVVvrYdVStTGhWWk2axpnue_idVYrMGIkaawZPUo05wciZxHvDsfZ_7rbrAEBK39XegpfVXjLjdqG75IHE4gpUBdctm_uEeUCDD-f9XX4-Tja4VaNXDT-8-mB2OKVy8wJ3-KIKNF9FVGTGbFfi-_uo28_0y2EgMq41BYYOn2Ne0A3KSpUnjNtnxY.UUn8rJV19Mo7GdQCXb3VqXerWcJwVbC8oSKBZdMih80&dib_tag=se&keywords=jay+stringer&qid=1777387770&sprefix=jay+string%2Caps%2C220&sr=8-2] Timestamps: 00:03:12 — Jay Stringer discusses why it's important to distinguish between a symptom and the desire behind it, laying the groundwork for understanding sexual brokenness and desire. 00:06:27 — Jay Stringer addresses how to reread biblical stories (like David’s) through the lens of unmet longings and untransformed pain. 00:12:19 — Jay Stringer introduces the concept of holding together "honor and honesty" regarding our personal and family stories as foundational for true healing. 00:16:21 — Jay Stringer shares real-life client examples demonstrating how sexual struggles and desires are often rooted in specific, unresolved early-life wounds. 00:23:50 — Jay Stringer offers pointed, practical questions for listeners to ask themselves in moments of temptation, emphasizing curiosity over accusation. Keywords Desire, Sexuality, Sexual brokenness, Symptoms, Healing, Intimacy, Family of origin, Formation Power and abuse, Honesty and honor, Story and narrative, Curiosity, Temptation, Arousal template, Shame, Transformation, Grief, Protest, Discipleship, Kingdom of God, Neuroscience Legacy, Therapy, Vulnerability

POD 066 | Loyal Love with Brooks Nesse

Loyal Love with Brooks Nesse | POD 066 Introduction: In this episode of theFormed.life, hosts Jacob Nannie and Jonathan Neef welcome guest  Brooks Nesse to explore the Book of Ruth. Together, they highlight Ruth’s role in Scripture, the theme of hesed (steadfast love), and how God’s character is shown through the everyday actions of Ruth, Boaz, and Naomi. The conversation reflects on faithful love, God’s care for the vulnerable, and how Ruth’s story points to Jesus and shapes our lives today. 3 Main Takeaways: 1. The Transformative Power of Hesed in Ordinary Life: The Book of Ruth showcases hesed—steadfast, sacrificial love—through the ordinary, generous actions of Ruth, Boaz, and Naomi, reflecting God’s own character. 2. Ruth as a Model of God’s Care for the Vulnerable: Ruth highlights God’s heart for the vulnerable and marginalized, urging us to embody that care for outsiders, widows, and the needy in our communities today. 3. Boaz and Ruth Foreshadow the Generosity of Christ The story points forward to Jesus, the ultimate expression of hesed, whose self-giving love redeems and fulfills God’s promise for all people. Resources: -Ruth resources from the BibleProject [https://bibleproject.com/guides/book-of-ruth/] -A Commentary on Judges and Ruth -Robert Chisholm [https://www.amazon.com/Commentary-Judges-Kregel-Exegetical-Library/dp/0825425565/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1MREIINPLRLRJ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Sn6SlWgDERNmXSaogjJHx7ZazYo6KNSKDE0_COoUY0aHA1ryJD8VeqCEG2Q1I7bXc0UC2xrTtqoiZwcmLr_M5meDWR9Crks3PE-6r24DFrijqBj4zq9hiXIP25j5kisZCEaDQTn3kmSd6Lw7yiLQrhkJsCc_vWXLSQZcxAmKT1N3TwXMOv1f24XzbQtrdz0IvcI5SXEcRETIhPJdA0pd3mOLSMUYNqfI51w62-CJH4E.00XgnGPk5Tff_wTFiUYbtKNrlFKRA254Ds6Pliz8OD8&dib_tag=se&keywords=a+commentary+on+judges+and+ruth+-robert+chisholm&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1775666395&sprefix=%2Caps%2C92&sr=8-1] -Christ Community Bible Study resources [https://cckc.church/bible-studies/] Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Jacob Nannie introduces the focus on the Book of Ruth  00:02:23 - Brooks Nesse explains how Ruth connects the period of the Judges to the monarchy  00:05:56 - Brooks Nesse describes how the law (Torah) shapes the action of the story, and how Boaz models fulfilling the law, linking it directly to God’s character and foreshadowing the mission of Christ. 00:13:13 - Brooks Nesse provides a deep dive into the meaning of "Hesed," why it's hard to translate, and how Ruth and Boaz incarnate this quality 00:32:03 - Jonathan Neef and Brooks Nesse discuss how "Hesed" ultimately points forward to Jesus Keywords Ruth, Boaz, Naomi, Judges, Torah, Hesed, steadfast love, loyal love, genealogy, King David, vulnerability, widowhood, poverty, immigration, law, Torah follower, Moabite, outsider, Gentile, redemption, kinsman redeemer, incarnation, Genesis, Proverbs 31, Christ, Jesus, Old Testament, New Testament, faithfulness, generosity, marginalized, character of God, community, outreach, everyday faithfulness, self-sacrifice, hope, redemption narrative

POD 065 | Launching God’s Work Podcast with Tom Nelson

Hosts Paul Brandes and Bill Gorman sit down with the ever-insightful Tom Nelson, to explore an inspiring question: What does hope look like on Easter Monday, when the celebrations fade and we step back into our everyday routines? Nelson shares candid reflections about his new season in life, including his transition from Lead Senior Pastor to Lead Pastor Coach and his ongoing work with Made to Flourish. The discussion dives into Made to Flourish’s incredible impact over the past decade—connecting thousands of pastors and helping churches bridge the gap between faith, work, and everyday life. There is exciting news about a new global podcast from Tom Nelson in partnership with Premier Plus, designed to bring “Weekly Wisdom for Your Workplace” right to your Monday morning commute. He offers a behind-the-scenes look at what inspired this project, the heart behind it, and how listeners can stay connected to this work. 3 Main Takeaways: 1. Tom’s New Season and Transition: Tom Nelson reflected on his transition from lead senior pastor at Christ Community to his current role as Lead Pastoral Coach, where he is focusing on coaching, support, and being a cheerleader for the team. He spoke about feeling lighter, more buoyant, and grateful for the team and the opportunity to support without bearing the weight of primary leadership. 2. Growth and Impact of Made to Flourish: The conversation highlighted the national influence and growth of Made to Flourish, a sister organization to Christ Community. Tom Nelson shared impressive updates about their mission to empower pastors and integrate faith, work, and economic wisdom for community flourishing, all springing from Christ Community’s DNA.  3. Global Launch of the “God’s Work” Podcast: Nelson now has a partnership with Premier Plus in the UK, launching a new podcast called "God’s Work: Weekly Wisdom for Your Workplace." This podcast aims to help congregants connect Sunday faith to Monday work, releasing short, weekly episodes starting on Easter Monday. It’s geared for both UK and US audiences, and represents a dynamic new way Tom Nelson is sharing wisdom, story, and encouragement about integrating faith and the rhythms of everyday work. Resources: * Made to Flourish: https://www.madetoflourish.org/ [https://www.madetoflourish.org/] * Common Good Magazine: https://commongoodmag.com/ [https://commongoodmag.com/] * God's Work: Weekly Wisdom for Your Workplace (Podcast): https://www.premier.plus/podcasts [https://www.premier.plus/podcasts] Timestamps: 00:00 "Tom Nelson's New Season" 05:16 "Empowering Pastors for Community Flourishing" 07:49 "Giving Through the Local Church" 10:03 "Partnership Established with Made to Flourish" 13:37 "Family, Friendship, and Quiet Joy"