Unhooked: Breaking Porn Addiction Podcast

In this episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I interview Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 25 years of experience in dealing with sexual betrayal, compulsive sexual behavior, and addiction. Geoff is the creator of the Courageous Together program and the co-author of 'Love You, Hate the Porn.' We delve into the intricacies of overcoming betrayal trauma induced by pornography, the importance of full disclosure, and why traditional marriage counseling often fails in these scenarios. Geoff also explains the stages of healing and how couples can rebuild trust and intimacy. This conversation is filled with hope, accountability, and practical steps for everyone struggling with or supporting someone in recovery from compulsive behavior. 🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/intro] Connect with Jeremy: 🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/] 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/ [https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/] 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz [https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz] 📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ [https://www.unhookedacademy.com/] Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:14 Meet Geoff Steurer: Expert in Betrayal Trauma 01:46 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships 03:36 Geoff's Journey into Betrayal Trauma Therapy 04:05 The Evolution of Internet and Sexual Betrayal 09:33 Understanding the Dynamics of Betrayal 19:05 The Role of Shame and Secrecy in Betrayal 27:49 Healing and Rebuilding Trust in Relationships 31:55 The Importance of Professional Guidance in Disclosures 32:33 Early Tasks for the Betrayed Partner 33:53 The Timeline for Rebuilding Trust 35:32 The Role of Truth and Empathy 38:23 Learning to Sit with Discomfort 42:03 Understanding the Betrayed Partner's Perspective 45:13 The Potential for Growth and Healing 47:39 Common Misconceptions About Recovery 53:53 Introducing the Courageous Together Program 57:49 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Geoff Steurer 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/ [https://www.instagram.com/geoffsteurer/] 🌍 Website: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie [https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie] Linktree: https://linktr.ee/geoffsteurer [https://linktr.ee/geoffsteurer] 🎙️ Podcast: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149040329 [https://www.geoffsteurer.com/podcasts/from-crisis-to-connection-with-geoff-jody-steurer/episodes/2149040329] 🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode of Unhooked, I share a podcast conversation I had with Roland Cochran, originally aired on The Successful Addict Podcast. We dive into practical approaches to self-mastery, focusing on overcoming compulsive behaviors and the pursuit of external validation, and explore what it takes to truly feel fulfilled. Our discussion covers topics like mindfulness, neuroplasticity, integrity, and finding genuine happiness. Roland and I share our personal journeys and insights to help high achievers build a life they're proud to live, looking at everything from scientific and pragmatic perspectives to questions of identity and purpose. 🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/intro] Connect with Jeremy: 🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/] 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/ [https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/] 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz [https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz] 📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ [https://www.unhookedacademy.com/] Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:04 The Journey to Self Mastery 02:02 Introducing Jeremy Lipkowitz 02:22 Understanding Self-Mastery and Mindfulness 04:28 Personal Stories of Self Mastery 12:27 The Science of Decision Making 21:51 The Realm of the Hungry Ghosts 27:34 The Bliss of Blamelessness 28:32 The Importance of Integrity 29:23 Addressing Hidden Behaviors 30:27 Consequences of Ignorance 34:03 Envisioning a Better Future 35:56 Mindfulness and Craving 38:06 The Addiction to Admiration 38:43 The Value of Hard Work 43:31 Self-Mastery and Emotional Awareness 52:33 Starting Your Journey to Self-Awareness 55:22 Connecting with Jeremy Lipkowitz Connect with Roland Cochrun 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rolandcochrun/ [https://www.instagram.com/rolandcochrun/] 🌍 Website: https://rolandcochrun.com/ [https://rolandcochrun.com/] 🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sex-addiction-podcast-for-high-achievers/id1757165206 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sex-addiction-podcast-for-high-achievers/id1757165206] 🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode of the Unhooked podcast, I dive deep into the science of dopamine and addiction with special guest Mike Long, co-author of 'The Molecule of More.' Mike explains how dopamine drives addictive behaviors such as porn addiction and serial dating, and stresses the importance of finding pleasure and meaning in the present moment. Our conversation also covers practical tools and steps grounded in neuroscience to help break free from the cycle of craving and dissatisfaction. Mike shares insights on the difference between pleasure and happiness, the role of dopamine in our evolutionary biology, and the necessity of creating a balanced and meaningful life. If you’re struggling with addiction of any kind, this episode offers valuable perspectives and actionable advice. 🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/intro] Connect with Jeremy: 🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/] 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/ [https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/] 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz [https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz] 📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ [https://www.unhookedacademy.com/] Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 01:25 Meet the Expert: Mike Long on Dopamine 03:11 Understanding Dopamine: The Molecule of More 05:32 The Role of Dopamine in Addiction 09:05 The Craving Trap: Why Addiction Persists 14:01 Dopamine's Dual Nature: Desire and Control Systems 18:56 Modern Challenges: Dopamine in the 21st Century 25:26 Signs of an Unhealthy Dopamine System 30:05 Breaking Free: Tools to Overcome Addiction 35:40 Overcoming Personal Struggles 36:31 Holistic Approaches to Dopamine 37:53 Addressing Addictive Behaviors 40:35 The Dopamine Trap 43:10 The Three A's of Porn Addiction 44:03 The Great Decoupling 47:11 Finding Meaning and Happiness 54:48 Practical Steps for Recovery 01:02:24 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Connect with Mike Long 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikewritesha/ [https://www.instagram.com/mikewritesha/] 🌍 Website: https://mikelongonline.com/ [https://mikelongonline.com/] https://mikelongonline.com/molecule-of-more/ [https://mikelongonline.com/molecule-of-more/] https://www.amazon.com/Molecule-More-Chemical-Creativity_and-Determine/dp/1946885118 [https://www.amazon.com/Molecule-More-Chemical-Creativity_and-Determine/dp/1946885118] https://www.amazon.com/Taming-Molecule-More-Step-Step/dp/1637746091 [https://www.amazon.com/Taming-Molecule-More-Step-Step/dp/1637746091] 🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode, join my conversation originally aired on Read Between The Signs podcast. We delve into the misconceptions around porn addiction, its subtle yet profound impacts on relationships, intimacy, mental clarity, and physical health. I share my personal journey of overcoming a problematic relationship with porn and emphasizes the importance of community, mindfulness, and vulnerability in the recovery process. We also discuss the societal normalization of porn, the three A's of porn addiction (Affordability, Accessibility, Anonymity), and the role of shame in keeping people stuck in unhealthy habits. Tune in for an eye-opening conversation with valuable insights and practical advice on breaking free from addiction and living a healthier, more fulfilling life. 🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/intro] Connect with Jeremy: 🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/] 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/ [https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/] 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz [https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz] 📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ [https://www.unhookedacademy.com/] Timestamps: 00:00 Overcoming Shame and Taking Responsibility 01:58 Defining Addiction and Its Misconceptions 05:47 Personal Journey and Realization 07:38 Impact of Porn on Relationships and Health 13:09 The Three A's of Porn Addiction 15:53 Navigating Conversations About Porn in Relationships 23:23 The Role of Shame in Addiction 24:57 Understanding Post-Orgasm Clarity 27:07 The Vicious Cycle of Shame and Addiction 30:04 Common Emotional Triggers for Porn Addiction 32:43 Spirituality and Mindfulness in Recovery 36:01 Daily Habits for Overcoming Addiction 39:34 The Future of the Porn Industry 43:18 Final Thoughts and Advice for Those Struggling Connect with Read Between The Signs Podcast 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/readbetweenthesigns [https://www.instagram.com/readbetweenthesigns]_ 🌍 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/readbetweenthesigns [https://linktr.ee/readbetweenthesigns] 🎙️ Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/read-between-the-signa [https://creators.spotify.com/pod/read-between-the-signa] 🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!

In this episode, join my conversation originally aired on The George Peterson podcast. I share my journey of addiction and recovery, from childhood coping mechanisms to achieving inner peace. We dive into the psychology and neuroscience of porn addiction, the impact of trauma, and the Buddhist concept of the Hungry Ghost. I discuss techniques to break free from shame, rewire the brain, and cultivate equanimity for lasting emotional resilience. Join us as we explore the nature of craving, contentment, and the quest for true inner fulfillment. 🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/intro] Connect with Jeremy: 🌍 Website: JeremyLipkowitz.com [https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/] 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/ [https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/] 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz [https://www.youtube.com/@JeremyLipkowitz] 📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ [https://www.unhookedacademy.com/] Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: The Realization of Unhappiness 02:26 Jeremy's Childhood and Early Coping Mechanisms 04:06 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact 06:43 The Onset of Addiction and Realization 09:08 The Struggle with Porn Addiction 13:19 Sexual Energy and Healthy Relationships 26:02 The Neuroscience of Addiction and Recovery 37:42 The Realm of the Hungry Ghosts 38:43 Understanding Addiction and the Search for Happiness 40:04 The Role of Trauma in Addiction 40:34 Healing Pain and Finding True Happiness 44:41 The Journey into Buddhism and Meditation 45:28 The Power of Silent Retreats 46:59 Cultivating Inner Peace and Contentment 56:06 The Importance of Community in Recovery 01:04:40 Overcoming Obstacles and Staying Mindful 01:07:47 The Power of Awareness and Conscious Choice 01:13:21 Concluding Thoughts and Future Conversations Connect with George Peterson 📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/georgespeterson_meditation/ [https://www.instagram.com/georgespeterson_meditation/] 🌍 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/georgespeterson_meditation [https://linktr.ee/georgespeterson_meditation] 🎙️ Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/thegeorgepetersonpodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/thegeorgepetersonpodcast/] https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-george-peterson-podcast/id1478940931 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-george-peterson-podcast/id1478940931] 🚀 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this!