When Shame Didn’t Win I Betrayal, Shame & Self-Worth

When Shame Didn’t Win I Betrayal, Shame & Self-Worth

In this conversation, 21-year-old Lauren Jones shares her journey from shame and isolation to self-compassion and strength. At 17, a devastating betrayal by her best friend triggered years of self-loathing, anxiety, and depression. But her story isn't just about surviving those years. It's about discovering what lies on the other side. Lauren reveals how shame lived in her body as a physical weight, intensified by the instruction to keep silent. Through solitude by the ocean, vulnerability at a leadership camp where she finally spoke her truth, and the transformative practice of writing compassionate notes to herself, Lauren slowly rebuilt her sense of self-worth. She explores how finding the right support, cultivating an inner voice of kindness, and giving herself permission to feel joy ultimately released years of carried shame. This is a story about breaking the silence, discovering you're not alone, and learning to show up for yourself with grace. About Our Guest Lauren Jones is a 21-year-old university student based in Melbourne majoring in Geography. Having been through her own struggles, she is greatly passionate about helping others, building communities, and learning more about the wonders of the Earth. Lauren spends her spare time trying to live as fantastically as possible. Read the full show notes on our Substack: https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e11 [https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e11] 00:00 The Life-Altering Conversation 02:44 Journey Through Self-Doubt and Anxiety 04:38 Finding Self-Worth and Acceptance 06:49 The Spiritual Awakening at Inverloch 09:08 Breaking Through Guilt and Shame 11:13 The Power of Community and Connection 17:07 Realizations at the Leadership Conference 19:20 Sharing My Story: The Importance of Vulnerability 21:24 Releasing Shame and Embracing Joy 26:00 The Transformative Power of Dance 29:30 Permission to Feel Joy 30:42 Embracing Grace and Self-Compassion 34:35 Finding Inner Strength 35:58 Key Moments of Growth 38:58 Looking Forward: Embracing the Future 43:12 Sharing Wisdom and Compassion 45:46 It's A Wrap This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whatsfear.substack.com [https://whatsfear.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Unmasking: Thriving Outside the Lines I Neurodivergence, Masking & Intuition

For over 40 years, Kylie Zeal was convinced something was fundamentally wrong with her brain. She masked. She tried to fit in. Then, three years ago, a diagnosis of neurodivergence, including ADHD and autism, changed everything. Not by fixing her, but by giving her permission to finally be herself. At 41, with no permanent home and no fixed address, Kylie discovered the kind of contentment most of us spend decades searching for by simply listening to what her body and mind were telling her. She explores masking: the exhausting performance of being someone you're not. She also reflects on how her late diagnosis forced her to develop invaluable tenacity and courage. This isn't just a story about neurodivergence and masking. It's also about listening to that quiet voice inside you that knows what you need, even when no one else understands. About Our Guest Kylie Zeal is a book coach and author who helps writers transform ideas, experiences, and expertise into meaningful fiction and non-fiction books. Proudly neurodivergent, she brings a distinctive perspective to manuscript analysis, helping authors strengthen clarity, structure, and authentic voice. Kylie has spent the past seven years travelling full-time while running her coaching business remotely. Read the full show notes on our Substack: https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e10 [https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e10] 00:00 The Journey Begins: Embracing Change 03:05 Facing Fears: The Courage to Leave Home 05:10 Understanding Neurodivergence: A Personal Revelation 07:41 Building a Life on My Terms 09:52 The Power of Self-Advocacy 12:21 Navigating Expectations: Finding My Path 14:34 The Impact of Diagnosis: A New Perspective 16:09 Living Authentically: The Freedom of Self-Discovery 22:18 Exploring Happiness and Sensory Connections 24:37 Living with Purpose and Spirituality 26:57 Navigating Diagnosis and Personal Growth 30:15 Understanding Masking and Authenticity 34:13 Embracing Neurodiversity as Strength 37:49 The Gift of Contentment and Trusting the Journey 41:55 It's A Wrap This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whatsfear.substack.com [https://whatsfear.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Strong, Scared... Still Laughing: Kim’s Story I Mastectomy, Fear & Courage

In this conversation, Kim Hey shares her intimate journey through a diagnosis that forced her to confront not just her mortality, but her identity. When calcifications were discovered in both breasts, Kim faced a pivotal choice: a double mastectomy to prevent breast cancer. But this isn't just a story about loss. It's a story about what happens when you refuse to let fear paralyse you. As a nurse, Kim understood the medical reality. As a woman, she wrestled with fears about her body image, her sexuality, and the self-identity she'd built through twelve years of pole dancing. Yet instead of retreating, Kim transformed her fear into action, turning to humour as a survival tool. Through booby parties, ceremonial bra burnings, and dancing with surgical drains attached, Kim discovered something profound: strength and vulnerability aren't opposites. They're dance partners. Kim's journey reminds us that our story doesn't end with bad news. It's just entering a different chapter. About Our Guest Kim Hey is 55 and a sister, mum, nurse, wife, and soon-to-be personal trainer, with a passion for pole fitness, body movement, and body positivity. She is committed to making fitness fun, empowering, and accessible, even after major surgery. Read the full show notes on our Substack: https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e9 [https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e9] 00:00 A Life-Changing Diagnosis 02:48 Navigating Fear and Body Image 05:10 Finding Humor and Support 07:48 Embracing Change and Self-Discovery 09:43 Reclaiming Identity Through Movement 12:27 Community and Connection 14:35 Post-Surgery Acceptance and Growth 17:02 The Journey of Self-Love and Healing 22:46 Emotional Journey Through Writing 24:18 Navigating Multiple Journeys 25:44 Discovering Strength Post-Surgery 27:36 Emotional Growth and Self-Awareness 29:53 Grief and Acceptance 31:43 Finding New Identity 33:39 Words of Wisdom for Pre-Op Self 36:31 Gifts of the Experience 38:43 It's A Wrap This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whatsfear.substack.com [https://whatsfear.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Forgive to Thrive | Forgiveness, Resilience & Hope

In this conversation, John Hendry OAM reveals his journey from a stammering child to a decorated educator who spent decades teaching others about forgiveness, relationships and hope. From his earliest days at school, John discovered that the people who looked beyond his challenges changed everything. But the moment that became the blueprint for his entire life came through tragedy. On his seventeenth birthday, after tragically losing his younger brother, John witnessed his father choose forgiveness in the darkest moment imaginable. That choice shaped everything that followed. Built on one principle, forgiveness is not weakness, it's the most enabling tool we possess. John shares how he learned to navigate life non-adversarially, speak to himself with compassion, and build quality relationships as the foundation of resilience. Explore how one man's commitment to forgiveness rippled outward to transform generations. About Our Guest John Hendry OAM, has taught in schools for over 50 years. He is a Life Member of Career Development Association of Australia and consultant to UNESCO in Bullying and School Violence. An ongoing “advisor” to Parents Victoria since 2017 and Active Education Australia.  Formerly the Director of Student Welfare at Geelong Grammar School, John is a man of many talents and has received an OAM (Education) and an OAM (Cricket). Read the full show notes on our Substack: https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e8 [https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e8] 00:00 Overcoming Stammering: A Journey Begins 02:32 The Role of Relationships in Managing Fear 06:29 The Impact of School on Self-Perception 08:12 Finding Self-Worth Through Sports 10:55 The Importance of Hope and Trust in Education 13:35 Forgiveness: A Key to Resilience 17:41 Navigating Forgiveness and Relationships 19:13 The Power of Non-Adversarial Relationships 23:40 Understanding Inhibiting Factors in Performance 28:04 The Role of Forgiveness in Personal Growth 32:38 Managing Fear and Emotional Responses 40:29 It's A Wrap This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whatsfear.substack.com [https://whatsfear.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Seventeen and Terrified: A Journey from Silence to Unstoppable | Fear, Courage & Self-Belief

In this conversation, Sue Carr takes us back to a suburban dinner table in the 1970s, where a 17-year-old girl sat silently carrying a secret she had kept to herself for three months. Pregnant, terrified and frozen by fear, Sue describes waiting, hoping each day might somehow be different, until her mother asked one quiet question that changed everything. Sue shares how the unconditional love of her parents became the foundation for a life she never planned but built with quiet courage and determination. A life of marriage, five children, a return to study at 39, and a career as a primary school principal. This is a conversation about what happens when fear meets love, and love wins. About the power of sharing your burden. About showing up anyway. And about why it is never too late to take the next step. About Our Guest Principal, coach and author Sue Carr redefines strength, arguing that maintaining a “strong” facade often leads to burnout, isolation, and a neglect of one’s own needs. Her work advocates for a shift toward self-leadership, encouraging individuals to set firm boundaries and actively reclaim their energy and purpose. Read the full show notes on our Substack: https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e7 [https://whatsfear.substack.com/p/s2e7] 00:00 Facing Fear: A Life-Changing Moment 04:26 The Power of Sharing Burdens 08:18 Self-Perception and Growth 12:08 Building Confidence and Resilience 16:07 Daily Rituals for Empowerment 20:02 Navigating Life's Challenges 20:51 Navigating Early Parenthood 25:46 Building Confidence Through Support 29:32 Embracing Opportunities for Growth 32:48 Defining Success and Personal Growth 37:02 The Greatest Gifts of Life 39:27 Key Takeaways for Life's Journey 40:50 It's A Wrap This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whatsfear.substack.com [https://whatsfear.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]