Ep 24 - Why 'Follow Your Passion' is Poor Advice (And What Actually Works)

Ep 25 - What Nature teaches, we should learn

Why Nature Always Wins: Life Lessons from a Fallen Tree That Will Change How You See Control, Humility & Your Place in the World During a routine morning dog walk, I noticed something I had walked past many times before. But this time, I stopped and contemplated a new perspective. There, in the middle of a beautifully managed bush reserve, a massive gum tree had crashed down, flattening everything in its path despite all the careful human planning and maintenance by Council staff. It reminded me of a fundamental truth we often forget: nature is the ultimate reality, and it always has the final say. In this episode, I explain three insights I gained: * Embrace humility over control - We can influence many things, but we're never the final arbiter. Accepting this reduces stress and unrealistic expectations. * Work with natural patterns, not against them - Aligning our decisions with nature's rhythms leads to better outcomes, like avoiding building on unstable ground. * Actively appreciate our temporary place - Understanding we're part of something larger brings both psychological benefits and deeper gratitude for this brief, meaningful experience we call life. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2409668/open_sms] Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser [https://robbialostocki.substack.com/p/subscribe] and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the odd article and recommendation for living a life that matters, and growing wiser along the way. Please help me grow the show by sharing this with your friends and colleagues. You’ll go to bed tonight feeling good about fostering wisdom and clarity in the world!

Ep 24 - Why 'Follow Your Passion' is Poor Advice (And What Actually Works)

Are you interested in finding your passion? Well, the problem is popular advice to "find your passion" doesn't work; it's fundamentally flawed and can be very frustrating.  Research shows that over 80% of adults don't know what their passion is, yet we're told we should. The truth is passion isn't something you find - it's something you develop through experiment and experience.  You can't have passion for something you've never done.  In this episode, Rob shares from personal experience how to grow towards something you end up feeling passionate about and explains that: * you start with what interests you * its based more on values * it takes time - often months or years * you find passion building after a while of trying things out * you can change over time anyway * it's not your head you should listen to. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2409668/open_sms] Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser [https://robbialostocki.substack.com/p/subscribe] and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the odd article and recommendation for living a life that matters, and growing wiser along the way. Please help me grow the show by sharing this with your friends and colleagues. You’ll go to bed tonight feeling good about fostering wisdom and clarity in the world!

Ep 23 - The Oyster-catcher: What happens when we turn down the noise

In this episode, I talk about my trip to Great Barrier Island, about 95km from Auckland, visiting friends who ditched their corporate lives in their late 50s for a simpler existence. No TV, no news, no social media, and definitely no traffic noise – just the natural world around us. Walking along the coast on day two, I found myself sitting on rocks, watching the tide move seaweed around beneath the surface. It got me thinking about how rare these quiet moments are in our everyday lives. Let's be honest – we fill our days with constant noise. We rush from bed to work, meeting to meeting, then flop on the couch for TV while scrolling through our phones. And maybe there's a reason for all this busyness – we're uncomfortable with what might bubble up if we actually slow down. During my "off-the-grid" time, I found an injured Oyster-catcher bird. That small moment of helping this lovely little creature became very meaningful. As I watched it recover, something clicked: I was able to enjoy this moment because I took the time to be available for whatever came along. The takeaway? When we turn down the volume on life's distractions, we create space for the stuff that really matters to surface naturally. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2409668/open_sms] Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser [https://robbialostocki.substack.com/p/subscribe] and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the odd article and recommendation for living a life that matters, and growing wiser along the way. Please help me grow the show by sharing this with your friends and colleagues. You’ll go to bed tonight feeling good about fostering wisdom and clarity in the world!

Ep 22 - Dogma Detox: How Fixed Mindsets Limit Your Personal Evolution

Personal growth advice often presents a single "right way" to approach life's challenges, but there are actually multiple valid paths for everything from relationships to career development to self-improvement. Key Points • The difference between "the way" versus "ways" of approaching life situations. • When people claim to have found "the way" it may be due to immaturity, limited experience, or having an agenda. • With age and wisdom comes broader understanding of multiple valid approaches. • What works for someone else may not work for you based on personality, situation, and resources. • Three principles for finding your path: recognize multiple options exist, consider your unique factors, and experiment with small steps. • Ask questions with your head but listen for answers from your heart. Click follow on your podcast app or click subscribe [https://robbialostocki.substack.com/p/subscribe] to get a weekly email with each new episode. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2409668/open_sms] Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser [https://robbialostocki.substack.com/p/subscribe] and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the odd article and recommendation for living a life that matters, and growing wiser along the way. Please help me grow the show by sharing this with your friends and colleagues. You’ll go to bed tonight feeling good about fostering wisdom and clarity in the world!

Ep 21 - You go first

If you’re a human being - and I’m guessing you are - then you have lots of relationships. And while many might be healthy, enjoyable and good chances are there are one or two that have some kind of stress, or are not as good as you’d like. Maybe, there is one that has just broken and you’d still like to see it mended. In this episode, I talk about how important relationships with my birth mother and my Dad went through a cold or even non-existent phase, but both are now wonderfully warm, engaging and loving. It doesn’t always work out like that, but I discuss some principles of approach that will give it the best chance of success. Ones you can try too. This can apply to relationships with your spouse, ex, parent, child or friend. Duration: 11mins 52s Key points * Strong relationships are essential for life satisfaction, but naturally change over time * Broken family bonds create loneliness — reconciliation is worth the effort * Take the first step — make the call, offer forgiveness, start the process * Set realistic expectations — healing takes time and initial attempts may falter * Consider their perspective — they might feel nervous about reconnecting too * Keep early conversations light — avoid difficult questions and build comfort gradually * Even partial reconnections can become meaningful and enhance your life * If first attempts fail, try again or accept the outcome with grace * Personal stories show that patience can repair even deeply fractured family relationships * The potential reward of restored connection outweighs the risk of rejection. Worth repeating "Sometimes, the very attempt can soften a hardened heart in ways you'd least expect." Supporter shout-out 🤩 Thank you so much to Sangeeta Chandran from Mumbai, India who told me recently, “Have been meaning to write and tell you how much I enjoy your podcasts. Very nice, simple useful messages. Glad we have this ongoing exchange.” Sangeeta is a fellow philosophical soul and writes very insightful thoughts herself in a weekly email called OneforWithin. Search for #oneforwithin and you’ll find her. Any thoughts or questions? Send me a text! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2409668/open_sms] Thanks for listening! See you again soon. Rob PS Subscribe to Wiser [https://robbialostocki.substack.com/p/subscribe] and you’ll get new episodes directly to your inbox. Plus the odd article and recommendation for living a life that matters, and growing wiser along the way. Please help me grow the show by sharing this with your friends and colleagues. You’ll go to bed tonight feeling good about fostering wisdom and clarity in the world!