Black Girl Seen

how the mother wound shows up in relationships (healing the mother wound pt. 2)

to the black girl who is opening her eyes to how the mother's wound has impacted you, I see you. A few weeks ago, we discussed understanding the mother wound [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-the-mother-wound/id1845746300?i=1000767044561], and now, we’re unpacking what it actually looks like to recognize, heal from, and grow beyond the mother wound. We talk: * The big and small way the mother wound shows up in our relationships * The roles we unconsciously take on in relationships * What keeps us stuck in unhelpful patterns * How we can slowly wake up to knew ways of relating that helps improve our relationships Enjoyed the episode? Subscribe, like, share, and stay tuned for more! Keep the conversation going on our Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/blackgirlseen%E2%81%A0]. ⁠ [http://instagram.com/blackgirlseen]Never miss an episode by subscribing to the Seen Sunday newsletter [http://www.blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday%E2%81%A0].  [https://blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday] Find resources and support [http://blackgirlseen.com/support/]. Find suggested readings from the podcast here [https://bookshop.org/shop/blackgirlseen]. For those who identify as motherless daughters, please see the work of Hope Edelman [https://www.hopeedelman.com/].  Learn more on our website [http://www.blackgirlseen.com].⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com]

the vulnerability of friendships w/ Joi Britt, LCSW

are you hiding in your friendships? we don’t always focus on our friendships, but they are just as much a site of healing and intimacy as any other relationship, sometimes more.  Yet, we often find ourselves showing up in friendships, in the same protective ways we do in other relationships: hiding our true selves, silencing our voice, shrinking, and ultimately resisting the very practices that help us feel seen. In this episode, licensed therapist and friendship-focused therapist Joi Britt, LCSW joins me to talk about the vulnerability of friendships. Joi Britt, LCSW is the owner of Life Intentionally Psychotherapy Services where she mostly works with women of color to help them live on purpose and with purpose. In addition to individual therapy Joi provides Friendship Coaching based on her French Fry Friendship Theory®. We talk: * The importance of pouring into your friendships * Why we sometimes struggle to feel seen in friendships * The messy side of practicing vulnerability with our friends * Healing from and growing after friendship loss * How to grow your capacity to see and be seen in friendship Enjoyed the episode? Subscribe, like, share, and stay tuned for more! Keep the conversation going on our ⁠Instagram⁠ [http://www.instagram.com/blackgirlseen%E2%81%A0] and our ⁠website⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com]. ⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/blackgirlseen]Subscribe to the ⁠Seen Sunday newsletter⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday%E2%81%A0]. Keep up with Joi, LCSW on ⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/thejoiofsocialwork/], on her website and her podcasts ⁠The Joi of Social Work⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/show/2MLsBDyFaq9NADeeJmxODh?si=d361845e2b7b4842] and ⁠Courageous Exchanges with Alex and Joi⁠ [https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwrFeFtyHglqHwoAL8sPxQt.;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzIEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1780192115/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2fopen.spotify.com%2fshow%2f5fNEi9BsZTz9eKTX8Fda1v/RK=2/RS=Q6kMW3HPRhhIDHCsZ7ffg1K2SaE-]. Find ⁠resources and support⁠ [http://blackgirlseen.com/support/].

healing the mother wound

to the black girl who is living and healing from a mother wound, I see you. If you’ve ever felt hurt, let down, or even harmed by any person who served in a mothering role to you, your pain is valid. So often, so many of us face these experiences, but are left feeling alone because of the pressure to see the Mother as a faultless, blameless entity.  Though everyone deserves grace, you also deserve to be radically honest about what you experienced, what happened, and what did not happen.  This one is for the black girl who ever needed to be believed, to be heard, to be understood when it came to her experiences in a painful mother-daughter dynamic, but was instead met with concessions and dismissals.   This one is for the black girl who ever told her truth, only to be met with, “but that’s your mom.” This is especially for the black girl whose love for her mother is at constant war with the pain you feel as a result of loving her.  I see you, and I hope this episode helps you feel safe enough to explore your pain, hold space for your compassion, and open doors to the healing you need and deserve.  Enjoyed the episode? Subscribe, like, share, and stay tuned for more! Keep the conversation going on our ⁠Instagram⁠ [http://www.instagram.com/blackgirlseen%E2%81%A0]. ⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/blackgirlseen]Never miss an episode by subscribing to the ⁠Seen Sunday newsletter⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday%E2%81%A0].⁠ ⁠ [https://blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday] Find ⁠resources and support⁠ [http://blackgirlseen.com/support/]. Find ⁠suggested readings from the podcast here⁠ [https://bookshop.org/shop/blackgirlseen]. For those who identify as motherless daughters, please see the work of ⁠Hope Edelman⁠ [https://www.hopeedelman.com/].  Learn more on our ⁠website⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com].⁠⁠⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com]

the vulnerability of exhaling: how rest helps us feel seen w/ Katara McCarty

To the black girls who struggle with being still, who feel like resting is failure, and who long to finally feel like they can just breathe, I see you. In our last episode for April’s The Vulnerability of Something New series, we take a deep look at the vulnerability of rest, releasing, and what many of us black women know affectionately as exhaling. Joining me is wellness tech founder and life coach Katara McCarty, who bravely launched the Exhale App, a mindfulness and breathwork app for and by black women, in order to help us heal through reconnecting with our breath. Katara and I get cozy and discuss: * The very real legacy of harm that divorced black women from rest as a healing practice * Why she fights to keep her app for and by us, centering the needs of black women * The gifts offered to us when we return to the breath * Why we no longer have to “wait to exhale” * And small breath-focused steps to help us make a big shift in our well-being Enjoyed the episode? Subscribe, like, share, and stay tuned for more! Keep the conversation going on our Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/blackgirlseen%E2%81%A0]. ⁠ [http://instagram.com/blackgirlseen] Never miss an episode by subscribing to the Seen Sunday newsletter [https://blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday].  [https://blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday] Keep in touch with founder and life coach Katara McCarty on her website [https://www.kataramccarty.com/] and on socials [https://www.instagram.com/kataramccarty/]. Download the Exhale App now [https://www.exhale-app.com/].  Hear more gems from Katara on the Exhale Podcast [https://open.spotify.com/show/1bOa3jWSD57N6tiXbOlpH5?si=9333d1c6e6e043f0].   Find resources and support: ⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com/support]www.blackgirlseen.com/support⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com/support⁠]  Learn more about Black Girl Seen at ⁠www.blackgirlseen.com [http://www.blackgirlseen.com]

the vulnerability of telling your story w/ Emely Rumble, LCSW

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is tell the truth of your story. If you’ve ever gotten lost in a book, or found yourself pouring over pages in your journal, we see you. So many of us struggled to make sense of our pasts or find safe spaces to process our experiences, and we’ve found our way through literature.  In this episode, we’re sitting down with the pioneering author and licensed clinical social worker, Emely Rumble, LCSW to explore the power of a practice we all know but didn’t have a name for: bibliotherapy. In this episode, we explore * How we can use books, writing, and music as paths to feeling, not avoidance of our emotions * Repairing your relationship with stories if we were taught to disown them * Recommendations of stories and practices to help bring bibliotherapy to life Enjoyed the episode? Subscribe, like, share, and stay tuned for more! Keep the conversation going on our Instagram [www.instagram.com/blackgirlseen⁠]⁠ [http://instagram.com/blackgirlseen]⁠ Never miss an episode by subscribing to the Seen Sunday newsletter [https://blackgirlseen.myflodesk.com/seensunday⁠⁠] Keep in touch with Emely ⁠on Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/literapy_nyc/] and on ⁠her website⁠ [https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwrFdBBjMuRpf00DfmkPxQt.;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzEEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1777772388/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2fliterapynyc.podia.com%2f/RK=2/RS=D4XjwrEEtCcCSXSSQq5B589Gvsc-].   Read ⁠Bibliotherapy in the Bronx⁠ [https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Bibliotherapy-in-the-Bronx/Emely-Rumble-LCSW/9781955905879]  Join Emely’s ⁠Bookclub - Readers Who Run w/ the Wolves⁠ [https://fable.co/club/women-who-run-with-the-wolves-with-literapynyc-134726459871] Find suggested readings from the podcast here: ⁠ [https://bookshop.org/shop/blackgirlseen]https://bookshop.org/shop/blackgirlseen⁠ [https://bookshop.org/shop/blackgirlseen⁠] Find resources and support:⁠ ⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com/support]www.blackgirlseen.com/support⁠⁠ [http://www.blackgirlseen.com/support⁠⁠]