Forgiveness Is For YOU - Overcome Trauma Through Forgiveness

S3E21 Why Forgiveness Can Feel So Scary

*Content Warning* This episode contains mature content not suitable for minors. Please use discretion when listening.  Friends,  In this episode, I explore one of the most difficult and rarely discussed questions surrounding forgiveness: Who will I be if I let go of unforgiveness? For many people, unforgiveness is not simply an emotional response to pain. It becomes intertwined with identity, safety, survival, and even spirituality. When we’ve lived for years inside betrayal, abuse, abandonment, or grief, forgiveness can feel less like freedom and more like losing ourselves. In this episode, I share my own journey through childhood sexual abuse recovery and explore: * how wounding can become part of our identity, * why the nervous system resists unfamiliar peace, * the attachment we develop to our personal stories, * the spiritual pressure many Christians feel around forgiveness, * and how repeated emotional patterns shape the brain over time. If forgiveness feels scary to you, you are not broken. You may simply be standing at a crossroads between survival and freedom. This episode offers compassion, insight, and hope for those who feel stuck in resentment, grief, fear, or confusion around forgiveness. Reference(s): Van Der Kolk, B.A., The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books, 2015. Learn more about the Freedom to Forgive Masterclass: A Journey of Healing, Release & Renewal.  [https://go.drcarron.com/Freedomtoforgivemasterclass] Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E20 Fighting for Hope: Veteran Suicide and the Battle for Belonging

Friends,  As Memorial Day approaches, we pause to remember the men and women who gave their lives in service to our country. But there is another group of veterans quietly fighting battles long after deployment ends, those struggling to transition home, find belonging, and rediscover hope in civilian life. In this deeply important conversation, I’m joined by retired Lt. Colonel John Garcia, host of the Regiment of the Cross podcast, to discuss the invisible struggles many veterans face after returning home from service. John shares the heartbreaking realities surrounding veteran suicide, the emotional and psychological challenges of transitioning into civilian society, and the ways advocacy, agriculture, storytelling, and authentic human connection can help restore dignity, purpose, and hope. Together, we explore: * Why the transition home can feel isolating and disorienting * The importance of belonging and being truly seen * The emotional toll of military service and reintegration * The alarming statistics surrounding veteran suicide * How civilians can better support veterans in their communities * Why storytelling and meaningful work can become pathways to healing This episode is both a Memorial Day reflection and a call to greater compassion, awareness, and connection. If you know someone serving in the military, transitioning home, or quietly struggling, please share this conversation with them. Connect with John Garcia * Listen to the Regiment of the Cross podcast [http://www.youtube.com/@RegimentumCrux] * Email: regimentofthecross@gmail.com [regimentofthecross@gmail.com] Connect with Dr. Carron * Interested in joining Dr. Carron for a forgiveness Masterclass this summer? Join the Freedom to Forgive Interested List. [https://forms.gle/z3fBFSeZzAPdAYzQ6] This course is for Christian women 50+ who have survived trauma, spent years in therapy, are living good lives, but still feel something is missing. In this course, we will journey together through a process of healing, release and renewal.  * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] * Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Limited spots available. Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E19 When the System Wounds, Who Do We Forgive?

Friends,  In a world marked by division, violence, and deep injustice, the question of forgiveness becomes anything but simple. In this deeply personal episode, I reflects on my lived experience of Apartheid, a system that shaped my childhood, understanding of safety, and relationship to truth.  As global events echo familiar patterns of oppression and silenced voices, this episode explores what it means to hold both grief and compassion simultaneously.  Through the life and witness of Nelson Mandela, a man who moved from prisoner to president and chose forgiveness in the face of profound injustice, we are invited into a difficult, necessary question: Who do we forgive when the system itself is the wound? This conversation doesn’t offer easy answers. Instead, it creates space to reflect on: * Trauma stored in the body and how it resurfaces * The impact of hidden or distorted history * The tension between justice and forgiveness * The role of our shared humanity (Ubuntu) in healing * Why forgiveness begins with people, not systems “Systems are made of people, and when people change, systems change.” Whether you are carrying personal wounds or witnessing injustice in the world around you, this episode invites you to consider one small but powerful step: Who is one person you might be ready to forgive? Reference(s) https://www.facebook.com/amarchivepub/videos/nelson-mandela-on-imprisonment-and-forgiveness-1991/2187579574982773/ [https://www.facebook.com/amarchivepub/videos/nelson-mandela-on-imprisonment-and-forgiveness-1991/2187579574982773/] https://youtu.be/hnpIyHzHukc?si=XF8MP2tISiITmP4M [https://youtu.be/hnpIyHzHukc?si=XF8MP2tISiITmP4M] Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E18 Loving an Alcoholic: Healing the Hidden Wounds Left Behind

Friends,  What does it do to your heart, your body, and your sense of safety to love someone struggling with alcohol use? In this episode, I’m joined by holistic health and fitness coach Tresa Salters, who shares her story of loving a spouse with alcohol use disorder, and the lasting impact it had on her mental, physical, and spiritual health. While much of the conversation around addiction focuses on the person struggling, this episode turns the lens toward the spouse and family members who are often left carrying unseen wounds. Tresa opens up about the moment she knew something had to change, how she began protecting herself and her children, and what true healing has looked like in the years since. If you’ve ever felt the ripple effects of someone else’s addiction, this conversation will remind you that your healing matters too. Tresa's Links Website: www.livewellwithtresa.com [http://www.livewellwithtresa.com] Substack: https://substack.com/@tresarolandosalters [https://substack.com/@tresarolandosalters] FB: https://www.facebook.com/tresa.rolando.salters [https://www.facebook.com/tresa.rolando.salters] IG: https://www.instagram.com/livewellwithtresa/ [https://www.instagram.com/livewellwithtresa/] Freebie: https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/coffe-chatl7uvjx [https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/coffe-chatl7uvjx] Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.

S3E17 Forgiveness After Infidelity: Healing From Divorce

Friends,  In today’s episode of Forgiveness Is for YOU, I’m joined by forgiveness coach Abigail Sikes, who shares her story of forgiving her ex-husband nearly nine years after their divorce Abigail shares how God redeemed the pain of divorce by calling her into forgiveness ministry.  In this conversation, we talk about: * How infidelity leaves wounds that don’t quickly resolve * The physical cost of unforgiveness * The emotional (and even physical) cost of holding onto resentment * What forgiveness actually looks like in real life, not just in theory * And how healing begins, even when you don’t feel ready If you’ve ever felt pressure to “just move on,”  this episode gives you permission to pause and forgive from the heart.  Abigail's Link(s): Website: https://forgivinggifts.com/ [https://forgivinggifts.com/] Reclaim YOU: https://reclaimyou.us/my-story [https://reclaimyou.us/my-story] Connect with Dr. Carron * Partner with Us: https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift [https://go.drcarron.com/FIFYPodcastGift] *  Join the weekly newsletter: https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin [https://go.drcarron.com/newsletterfreegiftoptin] * Work with me 1:1 — Looking for shame‑free, nonjudgmental support on your healing journey? Schedule a free consultation and let’s chat: https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron [https://go.drcarron.com/chatwithdrcarron] Love the Podcast? If Forgiveness Is for YOU resonates with you, please: * Follow / Subscribe * Share with someone who needs hope * Leave a rating and written review Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839 [%3A%20https%3A/podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/forgiveness-is-for-you-overcome-trauma-through-forgiveness/id1721956839] How to Leave an Apple Review 1. Open the Apple Podcasts app 2. Search: Forgiveness Is for YOU 3. Tap the show (not an episode) 4. Scroll to Ratings & Reviews 5. Tap Write a Review Credits * Host & Producer: Dr. Carron Silva * Podcast Editor: Dr. Carron Silva * Cover Art Designer: Dr. Carron Silva * Music: Kode M (@kodemaster90) * Social Media Manager: Diamond_Media00 Disclaimer Opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host. Guests are welcomed in a spirit of respectful dialogue and freedom of expression. A Final Word Thank you for listening, Friend. Remember: Forgiveness is for YOU.