Hanging with Hays

#30 Parenting with Faith, Partnering with Respect

Guest Info: Haley Rochelle Find all things Haley Here [https://beacons.ai/haleyrochelle] Accountability A Woman's Kryptonite and Her Cure can be found at Haleyrochelle.com [https://www.haleyrochelle.com/] Summary In this engaging conversation, Haley Rochelle and Chelsea Hays reconnect after a long time apart, discussing their personal growth, social media experiences, and the challenges of parenting. They delve into the importance of raising children in faith, navigating child custody laws, and the need for accountability in relationships. The discussion also highlights the safety of women in trades, the impact of social media platforms, and the significance of love as a choice rather than a feeling. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of personal responsibility and community support. In this engaging conversation, Chelsea Hays and Haley Lawrence delve into the complexities of modern relationships, particularly focusing on women's roles and expectations in dating and marriage. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, accountability, and the need for women to engage in inner work to foster healthier relationships. The dialogue also touches on the significance of prioritizing marriage, the dynamics of submission, and the challenges of communication in relationships. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize the need for mutual respect and understanding between partners, while also addressing societal pressures and personal boundaries. Takeaways Haley's social media growth has been significant since their last podcast. Raising children in faith is a daily learning experience for Haley. Child custody laws are a billion-dollar industry that often doesn't prioritize the child's best interest. Accountability in parenting is crucial, and women often need to take responsibility for their choices. Women in trades face unique challenges and need support from their male counterparts. Using social media platforms for good can raise awareness and support for important causes. Love is a choice that requires commitment and alignment in values. Women should be taught to be good wives and mothers, not just independent. Personal growth often involves unlearning negative behaviors from childhood. Community support is essential for navigating life's challenges. Women often have unrealistic expectations of men. Self-reflection and inner work are crucial for personal growth. Marriage requires prioritization and intimacy. Healthy relationships are influenced by parental examples. Personal boundaries are important in discussions about family. Accountability should be mutual in relationships. Women often give more to their jobs than to their partners. Submission in marriage is misunderstood and misrepresented. Communication should be constructive, not confrontational. Healing from past relationships can lead to better future ones. Keywords social media, parenting, child custody, accountability, women in trades, workplace safety, faith, relationships, personal growth, community support, relationships, women empowerment, marriage, intimacy, communication, accountability, gender dynamics, personal growth, expectations, submission

#29 Faith, Growth, and the Road Ahead

Guest Info: Aydan Hernandez aydan.hernandez [https://www.tiktok.com/@aydan.hernandez?_r=1&_d=secCgYIASAHKAESPgo8ZxnS%2FexEIdxl9oZNG3Fj8CzxuZ11Cp3DLyhI8MdM5IwrQ7S2Z3pbyMZyMElI1uqG%2B1A%2BVUb4PcVVhiTqGgA%3D&_svg=3&checksum=399fc88cbf51e0443f0dc71591c88517e74bfd6eacceb1bd286cafd224f28b07&item_author_type=2&sec_uid=MS4wLjABAAAAhuu1xLjERt3hu22xOCEh8587YMp-KJ3lTUbfl9x0vrk0SGwavFsBGap7k4OrIRlm&sec_user_id=MS4wLjABAAAAcj2Ky9B9137lozlAHoYUCLPCJ3odDtwQUcmtRtzzq7SAPy2_IlkzucG3uWUsd03y&share_app_id=1233&share_author_id=6585184477966073862&share_link_id=A0E5E42F-4749-421F-8EAB-BC05F7811B2C&share_region=US&share_scene=1&sharer_language=en&social_share_type=5&source=h5_m×tamp=1763161950&tt_from=copy&u_code=da2m83f0ife210&ug_btm=b6880%2Cb5836&user_id=6774450647603659781&utm_campaign=client_share&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=copy] a.ydan.8 [https://www.instagram.com/a.ydan.8/] Summary In this engaging conversation, Aydan Hernandez shares his journey from posting heartfelt TikTok videos with his grandmother to pursuing a career as a diesel mechanic. He discusses the importance of creating memories, the challenges of modern dating, and the significance of character in relationships. Both speakers reflect on overcoming trauma and finding joy in life, emphasizing the need for strong work ethics and the value of building a life together with a partner. In this conversation, Aydan Hernandez and Chelsea Hays explore the complexities of relationships, the impact of social media, and the importance of self-reflection and authenticity. They discuss the dangers of comparison, the significance of setting standards in relationships, and the role of faith in personal growth. The dialogue emphasizes the need for effective communication, the challenges of navigating toxic relationships, and the importance of being true to oneself in a world filled with distractions and superficiality. Aydan shares his aspirations for the future, highlighting the importance of being a provider and the value of genuine connections. Takeaways Aydan started posting on TikTok to share memories with his grandma. His videos gained popularity for their wholesome content. He emphasizes the importance of creating memories over seeking clout. Aydan is graduating as a diesel mechanic at 19 years old. He is exploring job opportunities that align with his values. The conversation touches on the challenges of modern dating. Aydan expresses the need for strong work ethics in relationships. Both speakers discuss overcoming trauma and finding joy in life. They highlight the importance of character over superficial qualities in partners. The discussion concludes with insights on building a life together. Comparison leads to dissatisfaction in relationships. Setting high standards is essential for personal happiness. Authenticity in social media is crucial for genuine connections. Effective communication is key in any relationship. Recognizing toxic behaviors can prevent emotional harm. Discipline in parenting shapes future generations. Faith plays a significant role in personal growth and relationships. Self-reflection is necessary for personal development. Navigating controversial topics requires courage and conviction. Encouragement and support are vital for future aspirations. Keywords TikTok, diesel mechanic, relationships, trauma, dating, social media, personal growth, joy, career, life lessons, relationships, self-improvement, authenticity, communication, faith, parenting, expectations, social media, standards, personal growth

#28 Marriage doesn't fix things

Summary In this engaging conversation, Chelsea Hays interviews her husband Zac about the complexities of marriage, exploring themes such as the relevance of marriage, expectations versus reality, loyalty versus commitment, and the emotional dynamics within relationships. They discuss the importance of vulnerability, the impact of financial dynamics, and the balance between sexual and emotional compatibility. The conversation culminates in reflections on love, personal growth, and the lessons learned through their journey together. Takeaways Marriage is both a legal contract and a romantic commitment. Expectations about marriage can often be unrealistic. Choosing each other daily is essential in a relationship. Loyalty and commitment, while related, have distinct meanings. Men are often not taught how to express emotions in relationships. Vulnerability can be seen as both a strength and a weakness. Financial dynamics can influence power in relationships. Emotional connection is crucial for sexual compatibility. Love is multifaceted and requires support and understanding. Starting over can be a valuable reflection on growth. Keywords marriage, relationships, emotional labor, vulnerability, loyalty, commitment, masculinity, love, expectations, life goals

#27 Locked Into the Vision-The Blue Collar Poet

Guest Info:  Dustin Crosby thebluecollarpoet633 [https://www.tiktok.com/@thebluecollarpoet633] FaceBook [https://www.facebook.com/The.Bluecollar.Poet633?mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=2TMLJEBdNqmRP8KA&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F19ZaK89s5N%2F%3Fmibextid%3DwwXIfr#] Summary In this engaging conversation, Chelsea Hays and Dustin Crosby explore the world of blue collar poetry, discussing Dustin's journey from a typical blue collar worker to a poet on TikTok. They delve into the influence of family, the struggles of creative expression, and the importance of emotional vulnerability in men. The conversation also touches on the challenges of defining blue collar identity, the impact of social media, and the unexpected nature of viral content. Throughout, Dustin shares his aspirations for writing a book that resonates with blue collar workers and encourages pride in their work. In this engaging conversation, Dustin Crosby and Chelsea Hays explore the profound themes of writing as a personal escape, the evolution of strength and mental health, the respect earned in blue collar work, and the emotional journey of a father navigating life away from his children. They discuss the importance of authenticity, the struggles of being a blue collar worker, and the vision for a future that inspires others. Through poetry and personal anecdotes, they highlight the significance of connection and the power of sharing one's voice. Keywords blue collar, poetry, TikTok, personal growth, emotional expression, relationships, community, identity, creative struggles, social media, writing, mental health, blue collar, strength, emotional journey, respect, fatherhood, poetry, TikTok, inspiration

#26 Unsideline Her: The Rise of Lady Bellator

Guest Info: Eileen Noyes www.theunsidelinedlife.com [https://theunsidelinedlife.com/Home] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@the.unsidelined.life] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/theunsidelinedlife/] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@TheUnsidelinedLife] Summary In this engaging conversation, Eileen Noyes shares her ongoing journey of transformation, navigating through a challenging marriage, cult involvement, and ultimately reclaiming her identity. She discusses the importance of mutual submission in marriage, the birth of her initiative Lady Bellator, and her podcast 'Unsideline Life', which aims to empower women to embrace their true selves. Eileen emphasizes the significance of effective communication in relationships and the need to uplift and support one another, especially in the context of marriage and family dynamics. Takeaways Eileen describes her journey as 'ongoing', reflecting continuous growth and transformation. Her experience with a controlling marriage led to an identity crisis, prompting her to reclaim her sense of self. Eileen emphasizes the importance of mutual submission in marriage, moving away from traditional views of submission. Lady Bellator represents a strong, empowered woman who fights for her family and community. Eileen's podcast aims to empower women, especially those in the limelight, to reclaim their identities. Communication is key in relationships; changing delivery can lead to better understanding between partners. Eileen's journey through cult involvement shaped her understanding of faith and personal worth. The importance of self-care and not sidelining oneself in relationships is a recurring theme. Eileen's coaching and mentoring stem from her desire to help women navigate their own challenges. The podcast serves as a platform to share stories and encourage women to pursue their passions. Keywords Eileen Noyes, Lady Bellator, Unsideline Life, marriage, identity, cult involvement, transformation, motherhood, entrepreneurship, faith