Let's Re-member

S1 E6: Part 1 - You Are Hope Envisioned

Activation Warning: Sensitive topics discussed. Please take care of your body. PART 1: In this 2-part episode, Eileen explores the concepts of passive hope and active self-responsibility, emphasizing the importance of taking proactive steps in personal growth and healing. She shares personal anecdotes, particularly focusing on the impact of trauma and life disruptions on one's ability to engage actively in their own life. The discussion highlights the significance of self-efficacy and the journey of reclaiming one's agency after experiencing trauma. Eileen encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and take ownership of their healing process, while also acknowledging the challenges that come with it. Takeaways * Passive hope is wishing without action. * Active self-responsibility involves acknowledging your role in shaping your life. * Hope can be beneficial in uncontrollable situations. * Active self-responsibility is about owning your journey. * Trauma can impact our ability to take action. * Self-efficacy is crucial for motivation and goal achievement. * It's important to extend grace to ourselves during healing. * Letting go of expectations is part of the healing process. * Life disruptions can change our relationship with ourselves. * Embracing active self-responsibility leads to empowerment. This is a Kaia Evolutions Podcast. Learn More: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/ [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/] Follow: @ekielty [https://www.instagram.com/ekielty/] / @kaia.evolutions [https://www.instagram.com/kaia.evolutions/] Stay Updated: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact] Reminder: If you or anyone you know needs support, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline [https://988lifeline.org/]. You are not alone. I love you. Please...stay.

S1 E6: Part 2 - You Are Hope Envisioned

Activation Warning: Sensitive topics discussed. Please take care of your body. PART 2: In this 2-part episode, Eileen discusses the importance of active self-responsibility and practical applications for integrating it into daily life. She emphasizes the significance of pausing before reacting, owning one's energy and boundaries, conducting daily check-ins, communicating needs clearly, and following through on micro commitments. Additionally, she explores somatic approaches to enhance self-awareness and the role of hope as a feeling of trust in personal growth. Takeaways * Pause before reacting to shift from reactivity to intentional choice. * Own your energy and boundaries to recognize where you overextend. * Daily check-ins help in recognizing patterns and taking responsibility. * Communicate your needs clearly to advocate for yourself. * Follow through on micro commitments to build self-trust. * Micro commitments can lead to significant changes over time. * Somatic practices can enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation. * Hope is defined as a feeling of trust, not just passive wishing. * Active hope involves taking actionable steps towards improvement. * Recognizing and honoring small achievements builds self-esteem. 5 Daily Practices for Building Active Self-Responsibility: 1. Pause Before Reacting -> Regulate through the body 2. Own Your Energy + Boundaries -> Track your body's yes/no/maybe 3. Daily Check-In -> Body scan for self-accountability 4. Communicate Needs Clearly -> Anchor in your body before words 5. Follow Through on Micro-Commitments -> Embodied ritual of completion Reminder: Somatic is defined as "relating to or affecting the body". The "somatic lens" is making the body the focus when referring to these practices above (vs the general lens). This is a Kaia Evolutions Podcast. Learn More: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/ [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/] Follow: @ekielty [https://www.instagram.com/ekielty/] / @kaia.evolutions [https://www.instagram.com/kaia.evolutions/] Stay Updated: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact] Reminder: If you or anyone you know needs support, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline [https://988lifeline.org/]. You are not alone. I love you. Please...stay.

S1 E5: The Bridge Between Us

Activation Warning: Sensitive topics discussed. Please take care of your body. In this week's episode, Eileen explores the concept of boundaries, sharing her personal experiences and insights on their importance in maintaining healthy relationships. She distinguishes between boundaries, ultimatums, expectations, and demands, emphasizing the need for clear communication and self-awareness. Eileen also discusses the role of anger in recognizing and asserting boundaries, encouraging listeners to embrace their emotions as tools for self-protection and growth. Takeaways * Boundaries are essential for emotional wellbeing and healthy relationships. * Ultimatums are often confused with boundaries but serve different purposes. * Expectations can lead to disappointment if not communicated clearly. * Anger can signal that a boundary has been crossed and should be acknowledged. * Healthy boundaries allow for self-care and respect in relationships. * Understanding the difference between demands and expectations is crucial for effective communication. * Implicit expectations can lead to misunderstandings and resentment. * Recognizing one's own needs is vital for establishing boundaries. * Family dynamics can significantly influence one's ability to set boundaries. * Learning to communicate boundaries can lead to healthier relationships. Mentions * Prentis Hemphill [https://prentishemphill.com/] This is a Kaia Evolutions Podcast. Learn More: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/ [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/] Follow: @ekielty [https://www.instagram.com/ekielty/] / @kaia.evolutions [https://www.instagram.com/kaia.evolutions/] Stay Updated: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact] Reminder: If you or anyone you know needs support, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline [https://988lifeline.org/]. You are not alone. I love you. Please...stay.

S1 E4: In This With You

Activation Warning: Sensitive topics discussed. Please take care of your body. In this deeply personal episode, Eileen reflects on her experiences of grief and loss, particularly surrounding her sister's birthday and the impact of compounding and collective grief. She explores the emotional toll of multiple losses, the shared experience of mourning within communities, and the importance of self-care and support in navigating these complex feelings. Eileen also shares a poignant poem by Andrea Gibson that encapsulates the connection between love, loss, and the enduring presence of those still with us...inches away. Takeaways * Grief can manifest in various forms, including numbness and rage. * Compounding grief refers to experiencing multiple losses in a short time. * Collective grief affects communities and can lead to shared mourning. * Self-care practices are essential in managing grief. * Professional help can provide guidance in navigating complex grief. * Emotional and physical symptoms of grief can be overwhelming. * The impact of trauma can be both personal and collective. * Connection to oneself and others is crucial during grief. * Poetry can serve as a powerful tool for processing emotions. * It's important to acknowledge and validate feelings of grief. Mentions * Andrea Gibson [https://andreagibson.org/] * Watch Andrea read their poem to their wife, Megan [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DMG8pV7RrZS/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==] * Read Andrea's Poem: Love Letter from the Afterlife [https://andreagibson.substack.com/p/love-letter-from-the-afterlife] * Depersonalization Info [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pu07CYoe4fYD-gHVqFdc_4u5E5bAppVe/view?usp=sharing] This is a Kaia Evolutions Podcast. Learn More: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/ [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/] Follow: @ekielty [https://www.instagram.com/ekielty/] / @kaia.evolutions [https://www.instagram.com/kaia.evolutions/] Stay Updated: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact] Reminder: If you or anyone you know needs support, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline [https://988lifeline.org/]. You are not alone. I love you. Please...stay.

S1 E3: When Sensation Becomes Story

Activation Warning: Sensitive topics discussed. Please take care of your body. This week, Eileen explores the intricate relationship between emotions and feelings, emphasizing the physiological nature of emotions and the cognitive interpretation of feelings. Through personal anecdotes and client examples, she illustrates how fear, perfectionism, and childhood experiences shape our emotional responses. The discussion highlights the importance of self-awareness and the need to dismantle harmful patterns surrounding emotions to foster a healthier relationship with our bodies and feelings. Takeaways * Emotions are physiological and automatic responses to stimuli. * Feelings are conscious interpretations of those emotions. * Understanding the difference between emotions and feelings is crucial for self-awareness. * Fear can often be linked to perfectionism and the fear of failure. * Chronic pain can manifest from unresolved emotions like anger and grief. * Childhood experiences significantly impact our emotional regulation. * Dismantling harmful beliefs about emotions can lead to personal growth. * Self-regulation and co-regulation are essential for emotional health. * Building awareness of bodily sensations can help in processing emotions. * Emotions are natural, authentic, and human, deserving of care and attention. Mentions: * Psychology Today Article: "The Important Difference Between Emotions and Feelings" by Rachel Allyn, PhD. [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-pleasure-is-all-yours/202202/the-important-difference-between-emotions-and-feelings] * "Wheel of Emotions" by Psychologist Robert Plutchik [https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-wheel/#:~:text=Through%20years%20of%20studying%20emotions,Watkins%2C%202014)]  This is a Kaia Evolutions Podcast. Learn More: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/ [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/] Follow: @ekielty [https://www.instagram.com/ekielty/] / @kaia.evolutions [https://www.instagram.com/kaia.evolutions/] Stay Updated: https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact [https://www.kaiaevolutions.com/contact] Reminder: If you or anyone you know needs support, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline [https://988lifeline.org/]. You are not alone. I love you. Please...stay.