Mom Chat with Mamistad on Pregnancy and New Motherhood

Ep.51 NICU Mental Health for Parents with Micro Preemie Mom and Therapist, Tayyibah Chase

Becoming a parent can be exciting and daunting all at once.  For parents who know a NICU stay is coming, preparation makes all the difference. For those caught off guard, knowing where to turn for support is key. Our guest is TayyibahChase, a Mamistad Village Provider, a Perinatal Mental Health Certified, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of Muna Wellness. Tayyibah's sweet baby was born at 27 weeks and, as a micro preemie, spent two months in the NICU.   Drawing on her training as a therapist, Tayyibah was able to recognize the mental health struggles tied to her traumatic birth and NICU experience before they overwhelmed her.  Now, she creates space for mothers to work through the emotional toll of the NICU journey, and offers therapy for NICU families navigating anxiety, fear, depression and the overall stress related to this experience.From guilt and shame, to adjusting to an intense hospital environment, to the pressure of tracking every detail and learning unfamiliar medical terms, to simple, raw fear — the NICU experience can also place real strain on a marriage.   In this episode, we talk through ways to cope with these challenges, and the silver lining: that real support for NICU families can completely change what would otherwise be a heavier burden carried far longer than it needs to be, throughout the rest of your life as a parent.   Important timestamps: 04:05 Her 27 Week Birth Story 06:21 Micro Preemie and NICU Reality 08:51 Trauma Triggers After Discharge 15:25 Common NICU Mental Health Themes 20:00 Practical Support NeoWell Shoutout 22:47 Coping Tools and EMDR Therapy 27:28 Dads and NICU Stress 31:56 Couples Communication Tools 37:21 Advocacy and Letting Go 40:32 Building Your Village Where to find Tayyibah:  Her website: https://www.munawellnesstherapy.com/ [https://www.munawellnesstherapy.com/] On Instagram: @muna_wellness [https://www.instagram.com/muna_wellness/] MAMISTAD VILLAGE MEMBERS THAT OFFER SUPPORT FOR NICU FAMILIES: NEOwell [https://www.neowellpartners.com/] -  NICU, Newborn & Pregnancy Support - provide comprehensive support for families at every stage of their journey, from high-risk pregnancy and newborn care to life after the NICU. Wherever you are in your journey, NEOwell is here to help: https://www.neowellpartners.com/ [https://www.neowellpartners.com/] See our list of Mental Health Providers here:  https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalmentalhealth [https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalmentalhealth]. Those certified in EMDR: S [https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalmentalhealth/sarah-hagen]arah Hagan, LCSW, PMH-C [https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalmentalhealth/sarah-hagen]  Jennifer Byrnes, LPC, PMH-C [https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalmentalhealth/jennifer-byrnes]  Megan MacCutcheon, LPC, PMH-C [https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalmentalhealth/megan-maccutcheon] is also an EMDR practitioner. More about EMDR: https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/ [https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/] Visit us at ⁠Mamistad.com [http://mamistad.com/]⁠ for more info about Mamistad and to learn more about Mamistad groups! As always, if you're a new mom, even if it's not with Mamistad, please find your MAMA TRIBE. Visit ⁠MOM CHAT WITH MAMISTAD [https://www.mamistad.com/mamistadpodcastmomchat]⁠ for a full list of all episodes. Thank you - YOU are appreciated! Take care of each other. Mamistad, Cynthia ~Women are incredible, Moms are limitless, and a Sisterhood of Moms is a force of nature. Information on this podcast is for general information purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for medical care, to diagnose medical conditions, or to prescribe treatment for any specific health condition. We encourage anyone to seek help from a qualified medical professional where issues deem it necessary. No liability is assumed.

Ep. 50 The Myth of the Perfect Mom with Author, Erin Schlozman

Erin Schlozman is an author, therapist, speaker, mom and maternal health specialist. Our chat today is an intro to her and a tip of the iceburg discussion of her amazing new book that she describes this way... "My debut book, The Myth of the Perfect Mom, was born from the conversations mothers have behind closed doors — the ones about anxiety, identity transitions, falling in love over and over again, loneliness, and that quiet feeling that everyone else is handling motherhood better than you are. Written as a therapist, maternal mental health advocate, and mom of two — and just featured in a conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy — this book challenges the impossible standards modern mothers continue to carry. Through personal stories, cultural insight, and honest conversations about matrescence, I dismantle the myths keeping moms stuck in shame and self-doubt, and replace them with something far more powerful: truth. This isn't a parenting manual. It's the book that will set you free to mother in the way that's most authentic to you." Some Highlights... 09:23 Medication And Learning To Mom 18:44 Myths Around Birth And Feeding 21:01 Reclaiming Your Birth Story 25:39 Myth Of Self Sufficiency 30:26 Identity Beyond Motherhood Find info on Erin and her book The Myth of the Perfect Mother. here: https://www.erinschlozman.com/ [https://www.erinschlozman.com/] On Instagram, she's @4th.trimester.wellness [http://4th.trimester.wellness/] Visit us at ⁠Mamistad.com [http://mamistad.com/]⁠ for more info about Mamistad and to learn more about Mamistad groups! As always, if you're a new mom, even if it's not with Mamistad, connect with your fellow moms! Visit ⁠MOM CHAT WITH MAMISTAD [https://www.mamistad.com/mamistadpodcastmomchat]⁠ for a full list of all episodes. Thank you - YOU are appreciated! Take care of each other.  Mamistad, Cynthia ~Women are incredible, Moms are limitless, and a Sisterhood of Moms is a force of nature. Information on this podcast is for general information purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for medical care, to diagnose medical conditions, or to prescribe treatment for any specific health condition. We encourage anyone to seek help from a qualified medical professional where issues deem it necessary. No liability is assumed.

Ep. 49 The Benefits of Pregnancy and Postpartum Fitness with Kelly Reid, Owner, FIT4MOM DC

Have you ever spotted a group of pregnant women and moms pushing strollers in the park? What might look like a casual outing is actually a masterfullly designed fitness program — one born from the vision of none other than, - you guessed it, a brilliant mom who identified a need and filled it herself! Lisa Druxman founded FIT4MOM® in 2001 after discovering that other new moms were just as drawn to the exercise routine she'd created for herself. What started as a personal solution quickly grew into the nation's leading prenatal and postnatal fitness program., FIT4MOM®  Now serves tens of thousands of moms across the country with fitness classes and a community of support for every stage of motherhood. From pregnancy through postpartum and beyond, their programs are built to strengthen moms in body, mind, and spirit. We're excited to welcome today's guest, Kelly Reid, owner of the DC FIT4MOM® Franchise. Kelly is also an amazing provider featured in The Mamistad Village. From the moment Kelly walked into her first FIT4BABY® pregnancy class, she was hooked — and joining the FIT4MOM® team turned out to be, in her own words, one of the best decisions she's ever made. She's passionate about maternal fitness and she knows the topic inside and out! Find Kelly at: https://dc.fit4mom.com/ [https://dc.fit4mom.com/] On IG at: @ [https://www.instagram.com/fit4mom_dc/]fit4mom_dc [https://www.instagram.com/fit4mom_dc/] In the Mamistad Village:  https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalhealthnutrition [https://www.mamistad.com/tmvmaternalhealthnutrition] Visit us at ⁠Mamistad.com [http://mamistad.com/]⁠ for more info about Mamistad and to learn more about Mamistad groups! As always, if you're a new mom, even if it's not with Mamistad, please find your MAMA TRIBE. Visit ⁠MOM CHAT WITH MAMISTAD [https://www.mamistad.com/mamistadpodcastmomchat]⁠ for a full list of all episodes. Thank you - YOU are appreciated! Take care of each other.  Mamistad, Cynthia ~Women are incredible, Moms are limitless, and a Sisterhood of Moms is a force of nature. Information on this podcast is for general information purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for medical care, to diagnose medical conditions, or to prescribe treatment for any specific health condition. We encourage anyone to seek help from a qualified medical professional where issues deem it necessary. No liability is assumed.

Ep. 48 The First-time Pregnant Mom and the New Mom Village

The mom village looks different these days. Families are now scattered across cities and countries, and those built-in networks of moms and aunties are harder to secure. The current world has made it harder to find the kind of support and security that other generations may have taken for granted, especially during this uniquely vulnerable experience of becoming a mother for the first time. As a first time mom today, it's nearly impossible to really prepare yourself for what lies ahead.Most of us are familiar with the first pregnancy path we've grown up hearing about . We stock up on baby gear,  build a registry, set up the nursery, coordinate support for those first few days, choose a pediatrician, figure out daycare. All of these things matter. But they can absorb our attention and sometimes prevent us from seeing the bigger picture.We are stepping into a profound transformation, one that will shape the rest of our lives. It sounds daunting, but here's the empowering part: We have a voice in how that transformation unfolds. The way we direct our focus during our first pregnancy can profoundly influence our experience as mothers.  M y purpose today is to first, share some of what I've observed over the 20 years of working with first time pregnant and new moms - mainly the things that lead many of them to say, "no one told me it would be like this ."  Secondly, I wan t offer alternative ways to approach the new motherhood journey so new moms don't feel this way. Finally, I wan t to introduce m y concept of the mom village , The Mamistad Village [https://www.mamistad.com/themamistadvillage], with the hope that you will join us or seek out one for yourself - because no app or registry can replace 1) the value of sharing this journey with moms walking the same road o r 2) the wisdom of women who have been down this road before , were inspired to learn more and are now back to guide us through . A few timestamps: 03:33 Why Moms Feel Blindsided 16:49 Introducing The Mamistad Village 20:06 Mental Health and Doulas 21:36 Health Nutrition and Lactation 25:23 Infant Health and Community Visit us at ⁠Mamistad.com [http://mamistad.com/]⁠ for more info about Mamistad and to learn more about Mamistad groups! As always, if you're a new mom, even if it's not with Mamistad, please find your MAMA TRIBE. Visit ⁠MOM CHAT WITH MAMISTAD [https://www.mamistad.com/mamistadpodcastmomchat]⁠ for a full list of all episodes including all of those I mentioned today - and those I forgot to mention! Thank you - YOU are appreciated! Take care of each other.  Mamistad, Cynthia ~Women are incredible, Moms are limitless, and a Sisterhood of Moms is a force of nature. Information on this podcast is for general information purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for medical care, to diagnose medical conditions, or to prescribe treatment for any specific health condition. We encourage anyone to seek help from a qualified medical professional where issues deem it necessary. No liability is assumed.

Ep.47 Mom Chat with Heidi Allsop, Raising Boys, Building Men Host and Master Certified Life Coach

As New Moms, we face a world of uncertainty. Each day brings new adventures and we can't help but wonder what our littles will be like as toddlers, then big kids, then teenagers and beyond! Having solid parenting advice in advance can be a game changer - especially when it's from a master certified life and parenting coach and proud mom of 5 boys ranging in age from 17 - 31 years old.  Today, we're joined by Heidi Allsop, proud mom of 5 boys, master certified life and parenting coach and host of the top 2.5% globally ranked podcast, Raising Boys, Building Men.  With a background in social work, advanced life coach training, and over three decades of experience raising sons, Heidi knows first-hand how discouraging it can feel to try to “fix” a son’s behavior, only to end up feeling even more disconnected. Heidi enlightens us on some of the specific challenges our boys are facing and how we can better connect with and advocate for them. She also shares 5 AMAZING tips on how to better connect with our sons AND daughters! Her tools can not only help us have a better relationship with our kiddos, they can lead to a better understanding of ourselves as mothers. Some time stamps: 03:41 Heidi’s Five Boys Story 07:04 Cancer Perspective Shift 09:02 A Mother Calms the Nervous System 12:48 FACTS VS. STORIES 18:02 Community and the Village 21:07 What's Different about Boys 25:11 Tip 1 - See The Good 28:57 Tip 2 - Praise Publicly - Correct In Private 31:10 Be Their Believer 31:36 Tip 3 - Boundaries 38:12 Tip 4 - Comparison Steals Joy 40:49 Tip 5 - Stop Micromanaging 44:19 Self Validation As MomWebsite: Heidi Allsop Coaching 48:35 Ask How They Feel Loved (https://www.heidiallsopcoaching.com/ [https://www.heidiallsopcoaching.com/]) Instagram: Heidi Allsop - Certified Life Coach (@heidiallsopcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/heidiallsopcoaching/]) Facebook: Heidi Allsop Coaching Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heidi-allsop/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/heidi-allsop/] Visit us at ⁠Mamistad.com [http://mamistad.com/]⁠ for more info about Mamistad and to learn more about Mamistad groups! As always, if you're a new mom, even if it's not with Mamistad, please find your MAMA TRIBE. Visit ⁠MOM CHAT WITH MAMISTAD [https://www.mamistad.com/mamistadpodcastmomchat]⁠ for a full list of all episodes. Thank you - YOU are appreciated! Take care of each other.  Mamistad, Cynthia ~Women are incredible, Moms are limitless, and a Sisterhood of Moms is a force of nature. Information on this podcast is for general information purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for medical care, to diagnose medical conditions, or to prescribe treatment for any specific health condition. We encourage anyone to seek help from a qualified medical professional where issues deem it necessary. No liability is assumed.