Real Men Hug

Ep. 26 || Final Episode: Farewell from Jim & Ben

In this bittersweet finale of Real Men Hug, Jim and Ben reflect on the transformative journey of their podcasting adventure. Over the past year, they’ve shared laughs, deep dives into mental health, stories of personal growth, and vulnerable moments of connection—all while modeling authentic friendship and challenging societal norms around masculinity. This episode is packed with heartfelt reflections and hilarious behind-the-scenes anecdotes, from Ben’s ADHD-fueled doorbell chaos to Jim’s lessons in climbing out of the metaphorical well. They reminisce about highlights like hosting inspiring guests (shoutout to Dr. Matt Zakreski and Jamie and Mahlon from Round Table Mindset!), tackling tough conversations about identity and bitterness, and hearing how the show has made a real impact on listeners’ lives. While Real Men Hug may be ending, Jim and Ben are both stepping boldly into new seasons of life. Jim shares his plans to build his next business venture, dabble in ASL, and even pen a fantasy story for his kids. Meanwhile, Ben looks forward to deepening his spiritual direction practice, writing creatively, and continuing his health journey. And don’t miss the surprises after the ending...! Thank you, listeners, for being part of this journey. Real Men Hug may be signing off, but the love, connection, and authenticity live on. Send us fan mail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2276615/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug]

Ep. 25 || Cornerstone Concerns: Navigating Christian Nationalism, Inclusivity, and Faith in Politics

In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim discuss the controversies surrounding their alma mater, Cornerstone University in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Under the leadership of President Gerson Moreno-Riaño, the university has faced significant challenges, including a faculty vote of no confidence on October 21, 2021, just before his inauguration.* Allegations of resistance to diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts have caused widespread unrest among alumni and students, sparking protests and online calls for reform.** The decision to cut entire departments, like the humanities, and enact mass layoffs has further raised questions about the institution’s direction and commitment to providing a balanced, faith-based education.*** Beyond the campus controversy, Ben and Jim also tackle the broader intersections of politics, faith, and the role of the church in modern society. They reflect on how these institutions can either perpetuate division or act as conduits for unity and justice. Drawing from personal anecdotes and current events, they discuss the challenges of navigating these tensions with authenticity and grace. The conversation delves into the church's responsibility to engage with social and political issues without losing sight of its spiritual mission, as well as how Christians can advocate for inclusivity and truth in polarized times. This episode challenges listeners to reflect on their personal and collective roles in fostering connection, inclusivity, and positive change, both within their communities and in the broader social and political landscape. Sources: *Religion News: Cornerstone University to hold vote of no confidence on incoming president [https://religionnews.com/2021/10/22/cornerstone-university-to-hold-vote-of-no-confidence-on-incoming-president/] **The Roys Report: Cornerstone University student protests racial issues under new president [https://julieroys.com/cornerstone-university-student-protest-moreno-riano-racial-issues/] ***Current: Cornerstone University fires tenured professors and terminates all humanities programs [https://currentpub.com/2024/06/16/cornerstone-university-fires-tenured-professors-and-terminates-all-humanities-and-arts-programs/] Send us fan mail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2276615/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug]

Ep. 24 || The Gift of Choice: Crafting Your Own Holiday Rhythm

This week, Ben and Jim dive into the nuances of holiday traditions, exploring how we can reclaim joy and reduce stress by celebrating on our own terms. Whether it’s debating the supremacy of cheesy potatoes over green bean casserole or reflecting on the idea of “picking a different day” to celebrate, they bring both humor and heart to the conversation. Through personal stories and heartfelt reflections, they discuss the tension of navigating family dynamics while staying true to what matters most. Holidays can feel like a time where the expectations never let you down, but Ben and Jim remind us that crafting new traditions is an act of love—for yourself and those you care about. Whether you’re embracing change or holding on to time-honored rituals, this episode is about finding joy in connection and creating moments that will always stay with you. Send us fan mail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2276615/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug]

Ep. 23 || Who Do You Think You Are?: When Self-Perception and Reality Collide

In today’s episode, Ben and Jim dive into the topic of self-perception and how it can sometimes stray far from reality. Whether it’s the inner critic that says we’re not enough or that old friend called self-doubt, they unpack how self-perception can skew our understanding of who we truly are. Topics covered: * Ben and Jim’s College Days: Reflecting on perceptions of confidence and the hidden inner doubts. * Family and Self-Worth: Jim opens up about the struggle of feeling like he’s not “providing enough” and how that affects his view of himself as a husband and father. * Facing Inner Lies: Discussing how easy it is to believe negative thoughts about ourselves, even when they’re far from the truth. * Insights from Amy Morin’s Book: Jim shares takeaways from 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do and how it’s helping him reframe self-perception. * Encouragement for Listeners: The importance of listening to the positive affirmations from friends and family, instead of believing the lies our minds can tell us. Tune in as Ben and Jim explore how to break free from self-limiting beliefs and embrace the love and encouragement of those around us. As always, remember: Real Men Hug, and sometimes they just need to hear they’re doing better than they think. Send us fan mail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2276615/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug]

Ep. 22 || Balancing Pills, People, and Purpose: Walking the Path to Better Health Together

In this episode, Ben and Jim explore the balance between medication, meaningful connections, and long-term health. They discuss how pills can be a temporary bridge toward healthier habits but shouldn’t replace physical activity and relationships. Ben shares personal stories about his own weight loss journey, the mental and physical connection, and the power of forgiveness in healing. Whether you’re starting your journey or seeking sustainability, this episode reminds us that we’re all walking the path to better health together.  Takeaways: * Medication can be part of the process, but it’s important to include physical activity and community in your wellness journey. * Forgiveness and letting go of resentment can lead to significant improvements in physical health. * You don’t have to go at it alone—lean on friends, family, and even online communities to stay motivated. Send us fan mail! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2276615/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buymeacoffee.com/realmenhug]