Part 2: It is OKAY not to share
A little note before we start:
This episode was recorded about two months ago, and as a mom of two little ones, I definitely overestimated my ability to produce regular podcast episodes while in the thick of motherhood. The sound quality and editing in this one aren’t perfect, but I’ve been learning, upgrading my tools, and improving the editing process. Future episodes will sound much better. Thank you for your patience and for being here on this journey with me.
Welcome back to Rewild the Village, a space for rethinking parenting, reclaiming connection, and rebuilding the village we all long for.
In this episode, we continue exploring Heather Shumaker’s book It’s Okay Not to Share with two more powerful rules from Section 2, Wild Emotions:
• Rule #3: Kids Need Conflict
• Rule #4: All Feelings Are Okay. All Behaviour Isn’t.
We dive into why conflict is not something to avoid but something to support, and how allowing our children (and ourselves) to feel emotions fully, while setting clear boundaries, can nurture real peace, resilience, and emotional intelligence.
You’ll also hear personal stories of my own missteps, the surprising ways I’ve had to defend space for emotions, and how this parenting work often becomes a process of re-parenting ourselves.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
• 00:00, Opening Song (English)
• 02:21, Welcome and quick recap of last episode
• 04:19, Personal story, My first misstep with conflict
• 05:35, Rule #3, Why kids need conflict to learn peace
• 08:35, The 10 Steps to Mediating Conflict
• 17:20, Rule #4, All feelings are okay, all behavior isn’t
• 20:30, Help kids feel their feelings safely
• 23:52, Personal reflection on re-parenting and emotional expression
• 25:11,, Surprise shout-out to…
• 27:38, Closing message
• 28:04, Closing Song (mixed Russian-English)
“Peace isn’t the absence of conflict. Peace is the respectful resolution of conflict.”
Tag @diana.sewsanker with your reflections.
Resources & Links:
• Book, It's Okay Not to Share: And Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids by Heather Shumaker [https://heathershumaker.com/book/its-ok-not-to-share/]
• Free printable, 10 Steps to Mediating Conflict, available on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/posts/episode-2-guide-130410862?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link]
• Bonus guided meditation, The Voice Within [https://www.patreon.com/Rewildthevillage/shop/voice-within-healing-your-right-to-feel-1772255?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=productshare_creator&utm_content=join_link]
• Website, sewsanker.co.uk [https://sewsanker.co.uk/]
• Instagram, @diana.sewsanker [https://www.instagram.com/diana.sewsanker/]
Credits:
• Podcast cover photo by @stephanievdwiel [https://www.instagram.com/stephanievdwiel?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=OHo1NHE3NTRmaGdk]
• Music by Dinaram, http://Dinaram.pro [http://Dinaram.pro] @dinaram108 [https://www.instagram.com/dinaram108/]
• Shout-out this week to: my light, a coach, a friend [https://www.instagram.com/ozi_svetlana?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MWxvOXVweDVhZzR0dQ==]
Transcript & Extras:
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