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We open with a somewhat disturbing call from a woman whose white boyfriend visits "wack shacks" when he travels. He hires Asian sex workers to submit to race play and degradation. She approves of him indulging his various kinks outside of their relationship, but this?  It's the classic conundrum: the caller has a big wiener and his boyfriend has a small one. A dildo is not quite a penis. What can they do? Our guest is the fiery, foul-mouthed, anti-cheating avenger Tracy Schorn a.k.a Chump Lady. The hideous experience with her ex-husband set her on a crusade against deceit. She and Dan spar over cheating, and divorce. A rival neologist, she calls Dan's word "tolyamory" "Orwellian dipshitery." Dan has finally met his match, and the polite but spirited debate calls for a big ole bowl of popcorn. A little on the Micro, the whole thing on the Magnum. See you there.  And, a woman mulls over the rancorous end of her previous relationship, when she asked her girlfriend's family to quiet down during a noisy 3am party. Her girlfriend's brother lit into her, and an all-family brawl ended the relationship. Now, years alter, the ex wants to apologize and reconnect. Was the caller wrong to speak up at that fateful holiday gathering?  Christmas is going to be SO wack this year.  Q@SAVAGE.LOVE           206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Liberator: makers of pillows, shapes and furniture for new exciting sex. Just for Black Friday, they’re offering an additional 10% off site-wide; exclusively for our listeners! Stack that on top of their incredible Black Friday deals for the best savings of the year. Go to Liberator.com [http://www.Liberator.com], and use promo code ‘SAVAGE.’ This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 25% off all mattress orders + 2 FREE Dream Pillows! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage [http://www.HelixSleep.com/Savage]. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage [http://www.ForiaWellness.com/Savage]

First off, we hear from a neglected third in a poorly executed threeway hook-up. He failed to advocate for himself, and the other two guys weren't asking if he was ok, sitting on the couch, looking at his phone. How could this have gone better? And how can he get over the waves of insecurity he feels when he connects with these same guys again?  A woman in an open relationship with a nine year-old daughter wonders how to explain daddy's frequent absences.  Our guest this week is the soothing, clever and cussing Jeff Guenther a.k.a Therapy Jeff. Somehow Dan convinced him to come on the show and give him (and all of us really,) some free therapy around the grief we are all feeling. Self care? Sign us up! And of course Jeff sticks around to answer sex questions too. A little is on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum.  And, listen in as a woman goes over the details of why her friendship is coming to an end.  It really must end.  Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064  This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage [http://www.Hims.com/Savage]. This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage [http://www.dipseastories.com/savage].  This episode is brought to you by True Nutrition. Protein powders and supplements to match your fitness goals. Get 15% OFF your order at TrueNutrition.com [http://www.TrueNutrition.com] with the promo code Savage.

We're giving you a break from whatever stressful stuff is going on this week to bring you some of the more...interesting calls we've collected.  A man's girlfriend wants to try saline injections on her breasts for a "24 hour boob job." The question is, can he safely do the injecting?  A woman's cat is grieving the loss of her longtime companion, a small dog. Now the kinky feline is demanding unspeakable rough treatment and her "owner" is neither G, G, nor G and does NOT consent.  Happy Soft Cock Week to all who celebrate! Our guest is "professional cuddler" Michelle Renee who is helping to launch a worldwide celebration of the penis in repose. She offers a kind and loving perspective on a topic that really needn't cause so much anxiety.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Paul Rosenberg- founder and manager of Rain City Jacks, a private, non-profit jack-off club in Seattle. As we speak, men are gathering to masturbate together. Dan and Paul talk about the 20 year history of the club, how a whopping 10% of the patrons are straight, and how communal masturbation brings people together in the best way. Also, what happens to all the jiz?  And, in the darker corners of Salt Lake City, there are kinky parties going on with bizarre contraptions meant to deliver a world of forbidden pleasure. Unfortunately, it just made the caller puke her guts out.  You ok SLC? Q@SAVAGE.LOVE       206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 25% off all mattress orders + 2 FREE Dream Pillows! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage [http://www.helixsleep.com/SAVAGE]. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $80 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com/Savage,  [http://www.talkspace.com/savage]and use the offer code Space80. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage [http://www.squarespace.com/savage] and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.

A poly guy lives in a rural area with his fiancé. He is building his own house, and hires laborers to come live with him while they build. One of the laborers started hooking up with the caller’s girlfriend without consulting the caller or gaining his consent. Now what? This guy is living in his own damn house, having sex with his own damn lady??? True or False: Gay men who were bullied as kids often hook up with their former bullies. On the Magnum, the worlds collide when Dan Savage, notorious sex proponent chats with asexuality educator Cody Daigle-Orians. They do a deep dive on ace issues. Are ace folks queer? Are micro labels helpful? At what point in a relationships should ace people come out? Daigle-Orians, creator of “Ace Dad Advice” explains asexuality with clarity and patience to the sex-crazed Savage. Their new book The Ace And Aro Relationship Guide [https://www.elliottbaybook.com/item/PedfmgPjUI6J_tBoqpSEjg] is out now. And, a gay tourist was snapping pics of some hot men, when a family saw what was going on, and took umbrage. Outrage ensued. Is it so wrong to take pictures of people out in public? This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage [%20http://www.HelixSleep.com/Savage]. With Helix, better sleep starts now

A woman has been dating a man from Ghana for 4 months. She just learned that he has a wife and kid back home, that he married out of familial/cultural obligation. Should the caller hold out to see if he chooses her over his overseas family?  A married woman has a one year-old kid. She and her husband are monogamous, but she's getting into performing burlesque at local bars and it's making her want to try...other things. How far will she go? How much will her husband allow?  Our guest is Irish comedian Des Bishop. He and Dan get into some straight guy topics: like straight guys into butt sex, straight guys into dicks, and how to surprise your straight guy with an awesome sex move. The (very gay) Dan Savage and the (very straight) Des Bishop got along like a house on fire. Some of this conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum.  And, we can't phrase this delicately: She smells. A woman's girlfriend is so very beloved to her. But lately, she's been letting her hygiene slip and it's getting dire. How can the caller tell her sweetheart that she kind of stinks?  Q@Savage.Love 206-302-2064 Des Bishop's special Of All People, is out now, here [https://800pgr.lnk.to/ofallpeople]. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 25% off all mattress orders! Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage [http://www.HelixSleep.com/Savage]. With Helix, better sleep starts now.