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When Illness Changes Everything: Palliative Care, Grief & Emotional Support for Seniors & Caregivers | Annie Brashem, LCSW

Every family will face the intersection of illness, aging, and grief — but almost no one prepares for the emotional weight that comes with it. In this episode of Spotlight, Athena Quinones sits down with Annie Brashem, LCSW, a board-certified palliative care social worker and private practice therapist who has spent over a decade walking alongside patients and families through some of life's most difficult seasons. WHAT WE COVER: → Palliative care demystified: what it means to be board-certified and how it differs from regular therapy → Ambiguous loss: the specific grief experienced by dementia caregivers when a loved one is physically present but emotionally absent → Real vs. faux self-care: why bubble baths aren't enough and what caregivers actually need → The Sandwich Generation: navigating the emotional strain of simultaneously caring for children and aging parents → Old family dynamics and unresolved wounds that resurface as parents age → Dignity therapy: a structured approach to capturing a senior's legacy through recorded conversations → Therapy stigma in older adults and practical ways to address cost and access (including Medicare coverage) → How trauma-informed care transforms how professionals support seniors and their families Whether you're a caregiver carrying more than you should, a senior facing a new diagnosis, or a professional who works with aging adults — this episode is your reminder that the emotional journey of aging is just as critical as the physical one. ABOUT ANNIE BRASHEM, LCSW Annie Brashem is a licensed clinical social worker with national board certification in palliative care. She has worked in hospitals, outpatient clinics, home health, and skilled nursing facilities. She now provides psychotherapy exclusively to individuals and families impacted by illness, medical trauma, and grief. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annie-brashem-lcsw-aphsw-c-2338b392/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/annie-brashem-lcsw-aphsw-c-2338b392/] ABOUT SPOTLIGHT Spotlight is a podcast for families, seniors, and professionals navigating the aging journey. Hosted by Athena Quinones — Business Development Director and Senior Ambassador — each episode brings expert voices, real stories, and practical strategies to light the path

Dementia Care & Burnout Prevention

Who is caring for the person holding it all together? When a loved one receives a dementia diagnosis, the focus immediately shifts to their medical needs. But what about the emotional toll on the spouse, the child, or the sibling? In this episode, Athena Quinones sits down with Alexandra Kaplan, Lead Caregiver Coach at the Institute on Aging (IOA), to discuss the "hidden" side of Dementia Care. From navigating anticipatory grief to accessing respite care resources, we explore how to support the caregiver so they can continue to provide care without losing themselves in the process. Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's or dementia is a marathon, not a sprint. Alexandra Kaplan joins the Spotlight Podcast to provide a roadmap for caregiver burnout prevention. We dive deep into the emotional realities of the aging journey, including the complex feelings of anticipatory grief—grieving a person while they are still physically present. Whether you are looking for caregiver self-care tips, wondering how to access respite care grants, or seeking a memory care transition strategy, this conversation offers practical tools and holistic support. Alex also highlights the vital services provided by the Institute on Aging, including the 24/7 Friendship Line and their virtual caregiver coaching programs. Timestamps for Easy Navigation: 00:00 – Intro: Supporting the Caregiver in Dementia Care 01:58 – What is the Institute on Aging (IOA)? 03:40 – The Friendship Line: Solving Senior Isolation 09:00 – Emotional Impact: Relief vs. Shock after an Early Diagnosis of Dementia 14:20 – What is Anticipatory Grief? Grieving before the loss 17:50 – Identifying the Warning Signs of Caregiver Burnout 23:45 – Practical Caregiver Self-Care Tips: Refilling your cup in small ways 27:30 – The "Support List" Exercise: Mapping your village 29:15 – How Alzheimer's Support Groups transform the journey 32:30 – Navigating Respite Care Resources & Grants 36:30 – Why Early Evaluation is a "Gift" for Memory Care Transition 41:00 – Advice for Professionals: How to take tasks off a caregiver's plate Key Resources Mentioned: Institute on Aging (IOA): ioaging.org The Friendship Line (24/7 Support): 1-800-971-0016 Alzheimer's Association: alz.org Family Caregiver Alliance: caregiver.org Hilarity for Charity (Respite Grants): wearehfc.org About Alexandra Kaplan Alexandra Kaplan is the Lead Caregiver Coach at the Institute on Aging. She specializes in providing emotional support, dementia education, and burnout prevention resources to families navigating the complexities of Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia. Her work focuses on the holistic well-being of the family unit, ensuring that caregivers are seen, heard, and supported. About Athena Quinones Athena Quinones is a Business Development Director, Senior Ambassador, and the founder of PROSERVE. As the host of Spotlight, she connects families with the "invisible ecosystem" of senior care professionals to ensure every transition is handled with compassion and expertise. YouTube: www.youtube.com/@Spotlightbyathenaquinones Apple Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spotlight-by-athena-quinones/id1818136225 Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/0E1iDvJaLXTicCYKwX6lbv?si=khbUIgFDTIi40nl7z_7G4g Website: www.spotlightbyathenaquinones.com/podcast

Why "Tidying Up" is actually making you more disorganized

Are you facing the daunting task of downsizing a lifetime of memories, or is paperwork management causing a silent crisis in your home? In this episode, we reveal why organizing is less about "HGTV aesthetics" and more about protecting your family's mental health and safety during a senior living transition. In this episode of Spotlight, host Athena Quinones sits down with Jennise Mendoza, founder of Rescue Me Organizing, to unpack the emotional and logistical weight of life transitions. From the "Barbie doll" battles of family dynamics to the critical necessity of an "Emergency Password Vault," Jennise explains how a professional organizer acts as the ultimate bridge between chaos and peace. Whether you are an adult child helping a parent move or a senior looking to simplify, this conversation provides a roadmap for decluttering with dignity. We explore how to manage "organized chaos," the health and safety risks of clutter, and why emotional support is the most important tool in any organizer's kit. Key Takeaways & Timestamps * 01:55 – The HGTV Myth: Why your organizing system should fit your personality, not a magazine cover. * 03:10 – The "Treasure Box" Strategy: A clever way to handle sentimental items without cluttering the whole house. * 07:15 – The Psychology of "Stuff": How a lifetime of collecting "success" markers can impact mental health during a move. * 10:13 – Family Dynamics & Role Reversal: Navigating the power struggle between parents and adult children during downsizing. * 12:15 – The 1-Hour Rule: Why working in small "piecemeal" bits is more effective than a 5-hour marathon. * 19:57 – Health and Safety: How decluttering prevents falls and meets fire safety codes in senior living communities. * 23:23 – Signals for Help: When is it time to hire a professional organizer? (Hospitalization, stroke recovery, or mail overwhelm). * 29:53 – The Emergency Checklist: The vital paperwork management every adult needs to have in place before a crisis. About Jennise Mendoza Jennise Mendoza is the founder of Rescue Me Organizing. Transitioning from a high-stress corporate insurance background to professional organizing, she specializes in helping seniors and individuals with disabilities create systems that work for their unique needs. Jennise is known for her non-judgmental approach and her ability to "rescue" families from the overwhelm of life transitions. Website: https://www.rescuemeorganizer.com/ [https://www.rescuemeorganizer.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennise-mendoza-22a5435/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennise-mendoza-22a5435/] About Athena Quinones Athena Quinones is a Business Development Director, Senior Ambassador, and the founder of PROSERVE. As the host of Spotlight, she connects families with the "invisible ecosystem" of senior care professionals to ensure every transition is handled with compassion and expertise. YouTube: www.youtube.com/@Spotlightbyathenaquinones [https://www.youtube.com/@Spotlightbyathenaquinones] Apple Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spotlight-by-athena-quinones/id1818136225 [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spotlight-by-athena-quinones/id1818136225] Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/0E1iDvJaLXTicCYKwX6lbv?si=khbUIgFDTIi40nl7z_7G4g [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0E1iDvJaLXTicCYKwX6lbv?si=khbUIgFDTIi40nl7z_7G4g] Website: www.spotlightbyathenaquinones.com/podcast [http://www.spotlightbyathenaquinones.com/podcast]

Is CBD just another health fad, or a medical game-changer?

In this episode of Spotlight, host Athena Quinones is joined by Cheri Sacks, a certified cannabis nurse and founder of Chronic Health Wisdom. With her background in neuroscience and diabetes education, Cheri explains why CBD health benefits the aging body in ways traditional pharmaceuticals often can't. We dive deep into the endocannabinoid system, the difference between hemp and marijuana, and why seniors are the fastest-growing demographic of cannabis users. If you've been curious about using CBD for pain management, as a sleep aid, or for neuroprotection against Alzheimer's, this nurse-led conversation provides the "do's and don'ts" for safe, effective use. Key Topics Covered ✅ The Science of Balance: Understanding the endocannabinoid system—the body's internal feedback loop. ✅ Cannabis vs. Hemp: Clearing up the confusion between THC and CBD. ✅ The Chain Reaction: How reducing inflammation leads to better mobility, exercise, and restorative sleep. ✅ Methods of Consumption: Choosing between fast-acting tinctures, topical lotions, and long-lasting gummies. ✅ Safety First: Critical medication interactions (blood thinners and heart meds) and how to "start low and go slow." ✅ Quality Control: How to avoid "gas station CBD" and find reputable products using QR codes and lab reports. Episode Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction: Meet Cheri Sacks of Chronic Health Wisdom 2:00 - From Candy Striper to Cannabis Nurse: Cheri's Background 4:47 - What is the Endocannabinoid System? 6:14 - Marijuana vs. Hemp: The THC and CBD Distinction 8:00 - Full Spectrum vs. Broad Spectrum: What Seniors Should Know 9:30 - Why Seniors Use CBD: Pain Management, Sleep Aid, and Brain Health 11:46 - The Holistic Health Chain Reaction: Moving from Pain to Mobility 14:07 - Tinctures, Gummies, or Lotions: Which is Best for You? 18:42 - Dosing and Safety: Interactions with Heart Meds and Blood Thinners 23:11 - When to Avoid CBD: Heart Attacks and Immunotherapy 25:05 - The History and Stigma of Cannabis: Why It Was Removed from Medicine Cabinets 32:18 - How to Spot Quality: Avoiding Synthetic and Unregulated Products 34:24 - Trusted Resources: Where to Learn More About Cheri Sacks Cheri Sacks is a certified cannabis nurse with decades of experience in neuroscience and chronic disease management. Through her company, Chronic Health Wisdom, she provides education and coaching to help seniors and their families navigate the therapeutic use of cannabis for a better quality of life. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chronichealthwisdom [https://www.facebook.com/chronichealthwisdom] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chronic_health_wisdom [https://www.instagram.com/chronic_health_wisdom] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherisacks/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherisacks/] About Spotlight Spotlight, hosted by Athena Quinones, is a dedicated space for exploring the most vital issues in senior care. From healthcare innovations to financial planning, Athena brings on experts to empower adult children and seniors with the wisdom they need to thrive. YouTube: www.youtube.com/@Spotlightbyathenaquinones [https://www.youtube.com/@Spotlightbyathenaquinones] Apple Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spotlight-by-athena-quinones/id1818136225 [https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spotlight-by-athena-quinones/id1818136225] Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/0E1iDvJaLXTicCYKwX6lbv?si=khbUIgFDTIi40nl7z_7G4g [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0E1iDvJaLXTicCYKwX6lbv?si=khbUIgFDTIi40nl7z_7G4g] Website: www.spotlightbyathenaquinones.com/podcast [https://www.spotlightbyathenaquinones.com/podcast]

Beyond the Dollar: Managing the Emotional Burden and Family Dynamics of Senior Care

In this episode of the Spotlight podcast about Senior Care, host Athena Quinones sits down with Francesca Vogel, partner at Hillendale Home Care. They move beyond "dollars and cents" to explore the holistic realities of the financial cost of aging parents. From the "invisible" cost of lost career opportunities to the physical risks of falls at home, Francesca explains how family dynamics and mental health are affected by the caregiving journey. Whether you are navigating home care or considering senior living, this conversation provides the resources and roadmap you need to move from crisis mode to proactive planning. What You'll Learn in This Episode: - The Reality of Lost Wages: How the average 55-year-old daughter loses significant income while acting as an unpaid caregiver. - Hidden Home Expenses: Why aging in place often requires expensive home modifications and safety upgrades to prevent falls. - The Emotional Toll: Navigating the emotional burden of caregiving and protecting your own mental health. - Estate Planning Essentials: Why a Power of Attorney (POA), a living trust, and a fiduciary are non-negotiable for aging parents. - Financial Lifelines: How to access VA Aid and Attendance, long-term care insurance, and palliative care resources. 🕒 Timestamps & Chapters: 0:00 – Intro: The holistic cost of senior care. 3:14 – The $100K Trap: Lost wages and the financial reality for adult children. 5:41 – The "Nest Egg" Dilemma: Why parents resist spending on their own care. 7:42 – The Conversation: Why you must plan while parents are still healthy. 9:30 – Hidden Costs: Home modifications, walkers, and emergency response systems. 11:59 – Aging in Place vs. Senior Living: Which is actually safer? 16:53 – The Continuum of Care: Combining home care with community living. 20:46 – Mental Health for Caregivers: Dealing with burnout and grief. 24:32 – The Risks of Hiring Private Caregivers vs. Professional Agencies. 29:04 – Family Dynamics: Managing sibling conflict and the importance of a POA. 36:17 – Unlocking Benefits: VA Aid and Attendance & Long-Term Care Insurance. 40:35 – Local East Bay Resources: Palliative care and support groups. Key Resources Mentioned: - Estate & Financial Planning: Power of Attorney (POA), Fiduciaries (e.g., Marina Ware), and Living Trusts. - Professional Support: Geriatric Care Managers and Advisors on Aging. Safety Systems: Vitalink Home Emergency Response. - Medical Resources: John Muir Palliative Care, Kaiser Memory Clinic, and CEI (Center for Elders' Independence). - Support Groups: ALS Association, Parkinson's Association, and Stroke Support Groups. ABOUT FRANCESCA VOGEL OF HILLENDALE: Francesca Vogel: francesca@hillendale.net Website: https://hillendalehomecare.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hillendalehomecare Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hillendalecare LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/hillendalehomecare/ ABOUT SPOTLIGHT PODCAST: Spotlight brings you expert conversations on senior health, wellness, and quality of life. We connect you with healthcare professionals who are making a difference in senior living communities. YouTube: www.youtube.com/@Spotlightbyathenaquinones Apple Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spotlight-by-athena-quinones/id1818136225 Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/0E1iDvJaLXTicCYKwX6lbv?si=khbUIgFDTIi40nl7z_7G4g Website: www.spotlightbyathenaquinones.com/podcast #SpotlightPodcast #SeniorCare #AgingParents #FinancialCost #HomeCare #SeniorLiving #Caregiving #EstatePlanning #MentalHealth #PlanningAhead #EastBayResources