Become Your Own Dream Girl

#41: From Situationship to Soul-Aligned: Adele's Union Journey

Kelsey sits down with Adele Marchant — former corporate finance attorney turned TikTok creator and UNION alumni — for a raw, real conversation about what it actually looks like when the work works. Adele came into UNION fresh off a situationship, convinced she'd already done the deep work. What she found instead was a foundation she didn't even know was missing. In this episode, she shares how Union shifted her understanding of anxious attachment, polarity, and why performing for love was keeping her stuck — and how doing the real work gave her a thriving relationship, a growing platform, and a career finally aligned with who she is. This one is for the girl who's read all the books, consumed all the content, and still feels like something isn't clicking.

#40: Why You Reject Yourself Before He Can

That anxious spiral the moment you start liking someone? It's not just in your head, it's biological. But here's what nobody tells you: the fear of rejection doesn't just make you nervous, it makes you act in ways that create the very outcome you're dreading most. In this episode, we're getting into why your nervous system goes into overdrive when attraction hits, how self-sabotage disguises itself as self-protection, and what it actually looks like to break the cycle, without abandoning who you are to win someone's approval. Because you were never meant to shrink yourself to be chosen. You were made to be loved as you are.

#39: The Devil Used My Husband: Identity, Purpose & Decentering Men with Richelle Eckerd

Richelle is an Identity Coach and helps women decenter men and recenter God, and this conversation is equal parts convicting and freeing. We get into why so many women lose their identity in their relationships, how to recognize when the enemy is operating through someone you love, and what it actually looks like to step back into your purpose and your becoming. If you've ever felt like your relationship has somehow made you smaller instead of fuller — this episode is going to hit home. Instagram @live.richlee

#38: I did the thing I teach women not to do

In this episode, I'm getting honest about what happened when my page went viral—and how I slowly abandoned myself in the process. I started performing for the algorithm, softening my message, and chasing outcomes instead of trusting who I am. And then I realized: I was doing the exact thing I teach women not to do in relationships. This episode is about the pattern of self-abandonment and chasing, how it shows up everywhere (not just in love), and what it takes to come back to yourself.

#37: Desire Without Devotion Is a Trap | Bridgerton Season 4 Breakdown

In this episode of Become Your Own Dream Girl, I break down a pivotal moment from Bridgerton and what it reveals about fantasy, standards, and feminine initiation. It’s easy to romanticize longing. It’s easy to collapse into chemistry. It’s easy to accept proximity instead of commitment. But when a woman gives access before she is chosen — emotionally, physically, energetically — she abandons the position that would call a man higher. In this episode of Become Your Own Dream Girl, we explore: • Why longing can cloud your discernment • The feminine mistake of giving before commitment • How “almost” relationships erode your power • Why standards initiate masculine leadership • The difference between being desired and being devoted to If you’ve ever romanticized potential… If you’ve ever accepted less because it felt intoxicating… If you’ve ever confused intensity with devotion… This episode will make everything click Find me on Instagram and Dm me "union" to come and do the deep work that actually works with me