76: From "Not Enough" to More Than Enough: Dr. B on Identity, Purpose, and Living On Purpose
Some of my favorite episodes of this podcast are when we talk about business, real estate, and building wealth — but none of it really matters if you don't have purpose. For me, purpose comes from Jesus, and I believe my mission is to bring the Kingdom of Heaven to earth through everything I do — business, real estate, parenting, marriage, and relationships. Today's conversation with Dr. B was a powerful reminder of that.
Dr. Brian E. Arnold — Dr. B — is the host of two podcasts, Living On Purpose and Journey to Freedom, and the author of three books. He's a legend, and I'm grateful he came on the show.
Dr. B's story is wild. He was diagnosed with dyslexia in third grade back in the early '70s and grew up believing he wasn't enough. He didn't plan on going to college — he wanted to be a Hollywood stunt man — but an athletic scholarship and his mom's belief in education put him on a different path. From there, his life became a series of God-orchestrated moments and mentors: a principal named John Buckner who paid for his ticket back to California when Colorado wouldn't let him teach, a master's in educational technology that became "the equalizer" for his dyslexia, a stint teaching teachers at the university level, and eventually a doctorate in educational leadership.
He's also built a mortgage and financial services business, survived the 2008 crash, run nonprofits serving people experiencing homelessness, and launched Journey to Freedom — a podcast where he set out to interview 100 successful Black men in a single year and ended up with over 250 episodes.
What hit me hardest in this conversation was Dr. B's framework: being, then doing, then having — not the other way around. We can't accumulate possessions and then figure out who we are. We have to know our identity first. He talks about affirmations, vision, and becoming outward-focused, and he drops this line that I can't stop thinking about: you are the answer to someone else's prayer. You just have to be present enough to notice.
If you've ever felt like you weren't enough, like your past disqualifies you, or like you're still searching for purpose in your work — this one's for you.
My challenge: write down three things from this episode you want to put into practice this week. DM me on Instagram and tell me what landed. And go give Dr. B a follow on his podcasts and grab one of his books.
Let's get into it.