The Old Umma Club

Season 2, Ep 5: How Then Do We Discipline? (Part II)

In Part II of our discipline series, we move from theory into real life: How then do we discipline our kids? What actually happens in the moment—when your child is melting down in a grocery store, when you’re overstimulated and drained, or when your own fears and assumptions take over? In this episode, we wrestle with: * The two major “camps” in parenting (sin-focused vs. connection-focused) * How we read our children's behavior impacts our discipline methods * How fear and anxiety shape the way we discipline  * The difference between willful disobedience and a tired, dysregulated child  * Discouragement in discipline methods that seem to see little fruit * The challenge of staying calm and consistent This is a conversation about the real, messy moments: public meltdowns, overreactions, repair, and the slow process of learning to parent rather than to react. We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:  Instagram: @theoldummaclub Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com Music credits: "Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Season 2, Ep 4: Disciplining Our Kids...What Does That Mean? (Part I)

Discipline is one of the hardest parts of parenting. But first, what does the word "discipline" even mean? Because when we first discussed this topic, each of us had a different interpretation of it.  In this episode, we share how our own childhood experiences of discipline have shaped our philosophy about "discipline" and the way we respond to our kids today. We talk about fear-based obedience, the oft-quoted "spare the rod, hate the child" verse in Proverbs 13:24, the generational chains we’re trying to break—and the ones we still fall into.  This is a candid, personal conversation about unlearning, relearning, and trying to discipline differently than we were disciplined. We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:  Instagram: @theoldummaclub Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com Music credits: "Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Season 2, Ep 3: The Evolution of Our Needs and Desires

Have your needs actually decreased in motherhood—or have they just changed? Or perhaps it's how you've changed? In this episode, we discuss how our needs and desires have shifted over time with each additional kid, touching on: *  What's the difference between a "need" and a "desire"? *  The tension between caring for ourselves and pouring out for others  *  How our expectations of rest, productivity, and fulfillment have evolved  *  How even what we need from our husbands have changed *  How the changes triggered an identity loss, self doubt, loneliness This is a conversation about identity, growth, loss, and the surprising ways our hearts change in different seasons. Perhaps with  a little identity crisis sprinkled in here and there. We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:  Instagram: @theoldummaclub Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com Music credits: "Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Season 2, Ep 2: Which Transition Is the Hardest?

We've all wondered: Which transition is actually the hardest—going from 0 to 1, 1 to 2, or 2 to 3? News Flash: Each stage comes with its special spice!  In this episode, we compare notes from our own experiences and get honest about what each stage really feels like. From the identity shock of becoming a mom for the first time, to the emotional and logistical chaos of adding more kids, we break down the unique challenges of each transition. *  Why 0→1 can feel like a complete shock to the system *  How 1→2 shifts your expectations (and your priorities)  *  Why 2→3 might be the most chaotic… but also the most confident If you're pregnant right now, or considering adding another child, or looking for fellow mothers to relate to, this episode is for you. We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:  Instagram: @theoldummaclub Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com Music credits: "Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Season 2, Ep 1: What God is Working in Us (Mom Rage, Dysregulation, and Breaking Generational Chains)

Season 2 begins with an extremely vulnerable conversation on what God is working on in us right now-- primarily, mom rage. This isn’t a polished “we’ve figured it all out” conversation. It’s a raw, vulnerable and honest one about sanctification in real time—messy, humbling, and ultimately hopeful. In this episode, we talk about identifying our triggers, learning how to regulate our emotions, dealing with the shame and guilt when we fail-- and what it looks like to wrestle through all this mess with God.  If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing in motherhood, or thought you're the only one dealing with mom rage, and wondered if God is enough, this episode is for you. We want to get to know our Ummas! You can find Sophia and Joyce:  Instagram: @theoldummaclub Email: theoldummaclub@gmail.com Music credits: "Life of Riley" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/