The Rediscovery of Me: Life Stories Podcast

015: Pete Wallroth: How to Find Clarity in the Face of Tragedy

Pete Wallroth founded the charity Mummy’s Star in memory of his wife Mair who tragically died of breast cancer following the birth of her second child. Pete shares his story, of how he coped in the face of such tragedy, how he found clarity and the critical work done by Mummy’s Star.

014: Beckie Ramsay BEM: Making Sense of Grief and Loss

IN THIS PODCAST YOU WILL LEARN ABOUT: * Beckie’ story of grief and loss and how she has sought to make sense of Dylan’s death by educating others * What happened on the day of Dylan’s accident * Beckie’s water safety campaign – Doing it for Dylan * The dangers associated with open water and cold-water shock and how 400 – 600 people die in the UK every year in water related incidents * Beckie’s education campaign and how she seeks to educate people across the UK * What Beckie has achieved as a result of her work * Open water swimming and how to do this safely * The awards Beckie has received and how they are “bittersweet” * Beckie’s selfless determination to change the lives of others * Beckie’s experiences of grief and loss and how she has coped as a parent * How to talk to people who have experienced grief and loss * How not to take life for granted and why we sometimes need to let things slide. CONNECT Beckie Ramsay BEM can be contacted using the following links: Twitter [https://twitter.com/missmybabyboy?lang=en] Facebook Page – Doing it for Dylan [https://www.facebook.com/DoingItForDylan/?__tn__=%2Cd%2CP-R&eid=ARC6cN44gLTnLCqZ0G_dBqyq9AGlJhN6yNMXCAbpqxaCi7NA7Iiec4rY9yC11WXEadcZdTSuFaTdUdfi]

013: Bonnie Haughton: Eating Disorders and How to Support Them

IN THIS PODCAST YOU WILL LEARN ABOUT: * What eating disorders are and the different eating disorders that people suffer with * How eating disorders can start in adult life, they are not just a condition of young people * How eating disorders affect both males and females * ‘Fussy’ eating in young children, what to look out for and how we need to normalise fussy eating * How we don’t have to finish everything on our plates – how eating a sufficient amount is important * The kinds of behaviours that adolescents might exhibit when struggling with their eating * The importance of seeking medical advice if you are worried about your child * How not eating enough affects the brain and behaviours can change * The importance of a supportive approach which does not focus on blame * The prevalence of guilt amongst parents and why parents should not feel guilty * How control is a common factor in eating disorders * The role of blame and shame in eating disorders and the wider family * How other mental health conditions can exist alongside eating disorders * The different professionals who will commonly be involved when a child is diagnosed with an eating disorder * The role of the family in supporting recovery * How parents/careers can support their child not to blame themselves * How families have to open the door to professionals. CONNECT Bonnie Haughton can be contacted using the following links: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/olubunmi-bonnie-haughton-b1709a74?lipi=urn%3Ali%3Apage%3Ad_flagship3_profile_view_base_contact_details%3BS1sku93jTaC4mjgBBih%2BXQ%3D%3D] Website [https://bhtherapeuticsystems.co.uk/] RESOURCES Samaritans 08457 90 90 90 Childline 0800 11 11 www.b-eat.co.uk [http://www.b-eat.co.uk/] Beat: UK charity for young people/families www.mengetedstoo.co.uk [http://www.mengetedstoo.co.uk/]  Men get EDs too www.anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk [http://www.anorexiabulimiacare.org.uk/]  Anorexia and Bulimia Care www.oagb.org.uk [http://www.oagb.org.uk/] Overeaters Anonymous www.nhs.uk [http://www.nhs.uk/] NHS choices on eating disorders and treatments available www.eating-disorder.org.uk [http://www.eating-disorder.org.uk/]  The National Centre for Eating Disorders www.slam.nhs.uk [http://www.slam.nhs.uk/]  Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust ABOUT BONNIE Bonnie is an experienced Art Therapist and Systemic Practitioner with many years’ experience in working with young people and families, with CAMHS and Education settings. She has recently completed her MSc in Systemic Psychotherapy at the University of Derby. DISCLAIMER The Content on Our Site does not constitute advice on which you should rely. It is provided for general information purposes only. Professional or specialist advice should always be sought before taking any action relating to your mental or physical health. We make no representation, warranty, or guarantee that Our Site will meet your requirements, that it will not infringe the rights of third parties, that it will be compatible with all software and hardware, or that it will be secure. We make reasonable efforts to ensure that the Content on Our Site is complete, accurate, and up-to-date. We do not, however, make any representations, warranties or guarantees (whether express or implied) that the Content is complete, accurate, or up-to-date.

012: Pete Buecker: Healing Childhood Trauma

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN ABOUT: * What childhood trauma is and how no-one escapes childhood completely unscathed * How childhood trauma can make us feel isolated and different, and how it shapes us as we grow older * How the effects of issues from our childhood can be present in our lives for years * How trauma is characterised by the presence of shame and shame-based thoughts * The symptoms of early-life trauma and family dysfunction * How your inner voice is a strong indicator of early-life trauma and how self-talk can reflect shame-based thoughts * How many of us feel inadequate and intrinsically flawed deep within ourselves, but how we conversely believe that everyone else is adequate and absolutely fine * How understanding childhood trauma can shape us as parents so that we that we can help our kids feel comfortable in their own skin * How shame is present in many aspects of our lives * How we all deserve to be happy and how this can sometimes require facing our past experiences so that we can process them in order to be comfortable in our own skin * How being exposed to childhood trauma doesn’t make our families bad people * The importance of talking about childhood trauma * How trauma can be inherited * How to let go of the legacy of childhood trauma. CONNECT Pete Buecker can be contacted using the following links: Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/peter.j.buecker] Facebook Page [https://www.facebook.com/groups/WeAretheUnbroken/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/pete_is_unbroken/] Website [http://wearetheunbroken.com/] RESOURCES The following books are mentioned in the Podcast: * Bradshaw, J. (1990). Home coming. [London]: Piatkus * Harris, T. (1973). I’M OK – YOU’R OK. LONDON: PAN Books DISCLAIMER * The Content on Our Site does not constitute advice on which you should rely. It is provided for general information purposes only. Professional or specialist advice should always be sought before taking any action relating to your mental or physical health. * We make no representation, warranty, or guarantee that Our Site will meet your requirements, that it will not infringe the rights of third parties, that it will be compatible with all software and hardware, or that it will be secure. * We make reasonable efforts to ensure that the Content on Our Site is complete, accurate, and up-to-date. We do not, however, make any representations, warranties or guarantees (whether express or implied) that the Content is complete, accurate, or up-to-date.

011: Stewart Roberts & Jackie McColl: Helping Others to Help Ourselves - Haircuts 4 Homeless

Five years ago, hairdresser Stewart Roberts was visiting a centre for people with drug and alcohol problems, noticing a homeless man, and inspired by someone he’d seen giving makeovers on the street, the following week he decided to take the tools of his trade – his scissors. Word quickly spread and he was asked to take his scissors into shelters in Romford and other areas. Haircuts for the Homeless was born. On this episode he shares his incredible story of how a national charity was born. He is joined by Jackie McColl founder of multiple projects around the Manchester area.  IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN ABOUT: * How working with those less fortunate than us can be a real antidote to feeling bad * How homelessness affects a much wider range of people than we might at first realise * How Haircuts 4 Homeless is about so much more than just cutting hair – it breaks barriers and allows people to connect * How many homeless people are often not spoken for days at a time * How working at the homeless centre is often a great place to help those most in need * How the charity has grown over the last five years * How volunteering is all about action – and the power of being a nuisance! * How volunteers also need to be protected so that they are able to do their role effectively * The importance of communication and how Haircuts 4 Homeless transcends barriers * How Lena Headey, from Game of Thrones, is now an ambassador for Haircuts 4 Homeless * The importance of boundaries – even in the charity sector * The importance of teamwork and different skills that are needed to run a large charity * How helping others can make you happier and overcome our own personal struggles * How we shouldn’t attach our happiness to money. CONNECT Haircuts 4 Homeless can be contacted via the following links: Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/Haircuts4HomelessUK/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/haircuts4homelessuk/] Twitter [https://twitter.com/Hair4HomelessUK]