The Relationship Algorithm

In this episode I talk about by no good, very bad, rotten day and why the ups and downs of life are different from the type of positive transformation I want to embody in my relationship. In depth discussion about awareness, choice, and the steps to take to practice these critical elements of transformation in your life.

Terry Real is an author and psychotherapist. And his book, “I Don’t Want To Talk About It”, is a compelling exploration of the invisible, yet nearly universally shared experience, of men struggling with depression across generations. I read this book cover to cover recently and it felt like I was reading someone writing about my childhood specifically. Today on the podcast I want to share my experience grappling with my own issues and why I think it's so important to my marriage.

One of the biggest and best changes I have made in my relationship is coming to terms with the fact that I have feelings. Feelings that have valuable information. And if I take a moment to pay attention to, I can know what they are and use that to my advantage. Today I challenge everyone to do better than "fine".

I recently attended a weeklong wellness retreat plus digital detox in California known as The Hoffman Process. The institution that runs the program has been around for over 50 years. Since everything is still fresh in my mind I wanted to share about my personal experience, what it meant to me, how I feel different, and the impact it is having on my relationship.

In your relationship the ability to have those difficult conversations is critical to the long term strength of your connection. But sometimes those tough conversations are easier avoided than addressing. Today's episode talks about why and how to practice your emotional pull-ups!