The Solo Playbook

Are They Talking About Me and My Divorce?

Have you ever felt like everyone is whispering about you after a divorce? In this episode of The Solo Playbook, Allen Kennemur takes a deep dive into the mental side of post-divorce paranoia—the myths, the truths, and the noise we create in our own heads. From social media echo chambers to the small-town gossip you think you hear, Allen unpacks why our minds convince us we’re under a spotlight and how to take back control of the story we tell ourselves. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “What are they saying about me?”—this conversation will help you reframe the question and find peace in your own truth.

Dating After Divorce

In this episode of The Solo Playbook, Allen unpacks the emotional reality of dating after divorce. Is it too early to date again? How do raw emotions, children, fairness to your partner, and even sex play into the decision? Allen shares candid insights on navigating this stage with honesty, vulnerability, and balance—so you can move forward without losing yourself or hurting those you care about.

Taming Our Thoughts

In this episode of The Solo Playbook, we go deep into the battlefield of the mind and talk about what it means to wrestle with—and ultimately tame—the thoughts that can consume us. We break down the heavy hitters: anger, frustration, desperation, intrusive thoughts, paralyzing thoughts, and even the dark pull of suicidal thinking. These aren’t just abstract concepts; they’re real struggles that can derail our lives if left unchecked. The conversation explores: * How anger often masks deeper wounds, and how to redirect it into something constructive. * The hidden cost of living in constant frustration and the small shifts that restore balance. * Desperation as both a danger and a wake-up call to seek connection and clarity. * Intrusive and paralyzing thoughts—what they look like, why they strike at the worst times, and practical ways to break free. * A raw acknowledgment of suicidal thoughts, the importance of naming them out loud, and where to turn for help. At the heart of the episode is the idea that while we can’t always control the thoughts that enter our minds, we can decide how much power they get to hold. Taming your thoughts doesn’t mean silencing them—it means learning to guide them, challenge them, and use them as a catalyst for growth instead of destruction. This is a candid, unfiltered conversation designed to remind you that you’re not alone, and that strength is found not in suppressing your thoughts, but in taking authority over them.

Explore & Rebuild Identity

In this episode, we dive into one of the most challenging but also most liberating parts of life after divorce—rediscovering who you are and rebuilding your identity. Divorce can leave you questioning your roles, your values, and even your sense of purpose. But it can also create space to explore the parts of yourself that may have been buried, overlooked, or silenced during your marriage. We’ll talk about: * Letting go of labels – How to separate your true self from the roles of “spouse,” “partner,” or “half of a couple.” * Exploration as healing – Practical ways to experiment with new interests, friendships, and routines that reflect your authentic self. * Reframing the narrative – Why identity isn’t something lost in divorce but something evolving and how to own your story with confidence. * Balancing stability and discovery – How to maintain consistency for yourself and your children while still leaning into personal growth. * Building a future self – Exercises and reflections for aligning your actions today with the identity you want to step into tomorrow. This episode is about reclaiming your voice, reshaping your vision for life, and giving yourself permission to be more than who you were in your marriage. Rebuilding identity after divorce isn’t about starting over—it’s about building forward.

Months 3-4 Post Divorce: Secure the Foundations

In this episode of The Solo Playbook, we enter Months 3–4 of the post-divorce journey—a critical season where the dust begins to settle, and it’s time to strengthen the foundation for what comes next. After the initial whirlwind of emotions and adjustments, these months are about steadying yourself: securing your routines, stabilizing finances, and creating a sense of consistency for both you and your family. We’ll dive into: * Emotional stability – learning to recognize patterns, practicing self-discipline in thought and response, and grounding yourself so that sadness doesn’t dictate your path. * Financial footing – practical steps to get organized, reduce stress around money, and start shaping a long-term strategy for security. * Parenting rhythms – how to lean into co-parenting with consistency, while giving your kids the stability they need in a time of change. * Personal growth and identity – shifting from survival mode to a rebuilding mindset, beginning to re-discover what makes you feel whole again. Think of this stage as pouring the concrete that your new life will be built upon. Without a strong foundation, everything else risks crumbling—but with it, you’ll create a solid platform for growth, resilience, and a future filled with possibility.