The Spiritual Virgins

Judgment: Self-Awareness, Compassion & Healing Old Programming

What happens when Spirit calls you out on being judgmental—especially when you thought you weren't? Debra shares her meditation revelation about judgment and how it's showing up everywhere once she became aware of it. In this episode: * The difference between healthy discernment and harmful judgment * How judgment keeps us safe but can also hold us back * Self-judgment and the stories we tell ourselves (I'm not smart, I can't spell, I'm not good enough) * Deborah's NLP work to reprogram dyslexia beliefs and improve spelling * Finding the anchor moments where limiting beliefs first formed * Why judging others is really about our own insecurities and programming * Body image, weight, and toxic family messaging around appearance * Society's ever-changing beauty standards and learning self-acceptance * How judgment activates a threat response and increases cortisol * Using judgment as a mirror: what does this reveal about me? * The problem with trying to separate ourselves from what we judge * Re-parenting your inner child who learned to judge herself * Bringing compassion to judgment instead of stacking more judgment on top * Why processing emotions fully prevents them from getting stuck * Becoming more honest with yourself as true spiritual development Whether you're working through self-criticism or noticing judgment toward others, this episode offers a compassionate framework for using awareness as a healing tool. Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryant Connect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

Thoughts & Feelings: Nervous System Regulation, Emotional Processing & Creating New Set Points

Do your thoughts control your feelings, or do your feelings drive your actions? Debra and Shirley explore both the top-down and bottom-up approaches to understanding how we process emotions and make decisions. In this episode: * Top-down vs. bottom-up theory: thoughts to feelings vs. nervous system first * How your nervous system constantly scans for threats and triggers reactions * Anniversary reactions: when your body remembers before your mind does * Why the same text message triggers different reactions in different people * The power of the subconscious mind and stored emotional patterns * Moving from emotionally reactive to regulated and zen * Pattern interrupts: breaking routines to shift your state * Why processing emotions in the moment prevents them from getting stuck * Creating space between stimulus and response — finding the pause * Byron Katie's "The Work" for examining thoughts from every angle * Re-parenting yourself and tracing feelings back to their source * Questioning old beliefs: is this really mine or inherited programming? * How meditation and hypnotherapy create new emotional set points * The difference between suppressing emotions and choosing your response * Why feelings, not logic, often drive behavior and decisions Whether you're working on emotional regulation or curious about why you react the way you do, this episode offers practical insights into the mind-body connection. Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryant Connect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

The Pull: How to Hear, Feel & Trust Your Intuition | Intuition 101

The Pull: How to Hear, Feel & Trust Your IntuitionIntuition 101 — that quiet knowing you can't quite explain? Deborah and Shirley are finally giving it a full episode. In this episode: * The mysterious pull to Snohomish — and how following it led Shirley to the perfect office space (and dreaming the floor plan before ever stepping inside) * Leaving a high-paying job with zero fear — Deborah on what calm, steady knowing actually feels like * The many forms intuition takes: gut feelings, visions, sounds, physical sensations, impressions, and even smell * Why you can't access intuition when your nervous system is dysregulated — and simple ways to get back into reception mode * Intuition vs. anxiety: how to tell the difference * The role of spirit guides in nudging us in the right direction * Why receiving intuitive guidance requires slowing down and embracing the feminine, receptive state * Sonia Choquette's Trust Your Vibes — fun, practical exercises to start building trust with your intuition * Following your joy as one of the clearest intuitive signals you have * Why the path rarely ends where you think it will — and why that's the whole point Whether you're just starting to tune in or deepening a practice you already have, this episode is your reminder that the quiet knowing has always been there — you just have to get still enough to feel it. Connect with Debra: debraleighbryant.com | Instagram @debraleighbryant Connect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

Beyond Death: Near-Death Experiences, Past Lives & Soul Connections

Beyond Death: Near-Death Experiences, Past Lives & Soul Connections What really happens when we die? Debra and Shirley dive deep into near-death experiences, past life memories, and the profound connections that transcend this lifetime. In this episode: * John Davis's transformative 7-minute NDE and the central message: there is no death * The common thread across all NDEs — it's only about love * Life reviews without judgment: learning from our experiences with compassion * Why we choose to come to Earth and select our soul groups before birth * Meeting your soul tribe when you live authentically as yourself * Dr. Mary Neal's 30-minute underwater NDE and receiving information about her son's future death * Navigating grief while holding belief in the afterlife * The indescribable vibrancy, color, and love experienced on the other side * Brian Weiss's "Many Lives, Many Masters" — uncovering past life trauma through hypnotherapy * Children's verifiable past life memories and ongoing research * "Heaven Is for Real" and a 4-year-old's detailed account of meeting Jesus * Why some people experience depression after returning from NDEs * Finding peace and freedom in understanding death as going home * The physical and emotional experiences unique to being in a body Whether you're seeking comfort around death, curious about past lives, or wanting to understand our soul's journey, this episode offers hope, connection, and perspective on what lies beyond. Connect with Deborah: deborahleebryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryant Connect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger

How to Break Patterns: Childhood Wounds, Core Beliefs & Somatic Healing

Shirley shares the transformative framework from her ICM coaching program—the 3 A's: Awareness, Acceptance, and Aligned Action—and how it creates lasting change. In this episode: * The crucial role of awareness in identifying patterns and behaviors * Why acceptance (not judgment) is essential for healing * How aligned action reveals deeper layers of wounds * Breaking the pattern of "never feeling like enough" * Connecting childhood experiences to current relationship dynamics * Using somatic work to access subconscious beliefs * Re-parenting your inner child and giving them what they needed * Why weeding the garden is essential for growth * The onion metaphor: understanding layers of healing * Practical meditation techniques for quieting intrusive thoughts * How brain development from ages 0-7 shapes our core beliefs Whether you're working through childhood wounds or looking to understand why patterns keep repeating, this episode offers a roadmap for deep, sustainable transformation. Connect with Debra: deborahleebryant.com | Instagram @deborahleebryant Connect with Shirley: shirleyhollinger.com | Instagram @theshirleyhollinger