The Unexpected Us Podcast (with The Flirty Pineapples)

E7 - Real Talk:The Bi Double Standard with United_Bi_Swinging

In this episode, we sit down with Ashley and Rob from United By Swing, a fully bisexual married couple creating community for bi men and mixed-orientation relationships in the lifestyle. We talk about the stigma bi men still face in sex-positive spaces, why many feel pressure to hide, and how fear, shame, and outdated masculinity myths can impact connection. Ashley shares compassionate advice for partners who feel surprised when their husband opens up, including how to process your own emotions without turning his vulnerability into a crisis. We also explore the difference between fantasy and action, how to start these conversations safely, and why honesty often deepens intimacy instead of threatening the relationship. Rob and Ashley share some wonderful resources for bi-guys that you're gonna wanna check out! You can find Rob and Ashley on Instagram at http://instagram.com/united_bi_swinging [http://instagram.com/united_bi_swinging] - follow them and give ‘em some love! Come say 'hi' on our favorite ENM dating app - this link pops you straight into our group, so you won't have to hunt around for us!https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882 [https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882] Check out our absolute favorite STI testing company, STD Hero, with a nice juicy 15% off discount! https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633 [https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633] Stay flirty...stay fun...and HOPEFULLY we'll see ya soon! xoxo, bella & prescott

E6 - Getting Your ENM Profile On Everyone's Radar

Want more ENM matches on dating apps?  You've come to the right place! In this episode, we start with a real message from a solo guy who found himself in a deeply confusing and stressful situation with a couple who kept using their “code word” to signal discomfort, while continuing play anyway. What unfolded highlights a dynamic that doesn’t get talked about enough in the lifestyle: couples privilege, and how it can unintentionally impact solo partners in real-time experiences. From there, we move into how to raise your visibility and get more matches on ENM dating apps. We talk about what actually makes profiles stand out, how people assess safety and alignment while scrolling, and why communication and emotional awareness matter just as much as photos. If you want more matches and smoother, more aligned connections, this episode offers practical takeaways you can use on ENM dating platforms. For daily ENM tips, tricks & inspo, follow us on Instagram at: instagram.com/theflirtypineapples [instagram.com/theflirtypineapples] Check out our favorite ENM dating app: https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882 [https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882](this link pops you directly into my group over there ;) Get 15% off our favorite STDTesting Company: https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633 [https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633]

E5 - DEAR BELLA (navigating clingy couples)

In this episode, the hosts discuss the importance of confidence and approachability in lifestyle events, sharing personal experiences and practical tips for navigating social interactions. They emphasize the significance of setting boundaries, especially when dealing with clingy couples, and provide strategies for polite disengagement. The conversation also highlights the unique dynamics of socializing in lifestyle clubs, including the often-overlooked connections made in restrooms. The episode concludes with a challenge for listeners to engage with new people at their next event. FREE TRIAL of our favorite dating app: https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882 [https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882]15% OFF our favorite at-home STI test kits: https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633 [https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633]

E4 - Navigating Ghosting In The ENM Lifestyle

In this episode of the Unexpected Us podcast, the hosts delve into the challenges of flirting and navigating ghosting in the lifestyle, offering practical advice and scripts for handling rejection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, emotional intelligence, and maintaining a positive perspective in the face of rejection. The hosts also encourage listeners to create their own one-liners file to enhance their flirting skills. FREE TRIAL of our favorite dating app: https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882 [https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882]15% OFF our favorite at-home STI test kits: https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633 [https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633]

E3 - Bella's Jealousy Journey

In this conversation, Bella shares her personal journey with jealousy, contrasting her experiences with those of her partner, Prescott. They discuss the emotional complexities of jealousy, the impact of past relationships, and the importance of communication and trust in navigating their open relationship. Bella reflects on her insecurities and the work she has done to overcome them, emphasizing the need for self-reflection and personal growth. The conversation highlights the challenges and triumphs they have faced together as they explore the lifestyle and learn to manage jealousy effectively. Struggling with jealousy?  Check out Bella’s Master Jealousy Course where she has compiled all of the skills and strategies she used as a therapist to work through her own jealousy and thrive in the lifestyle:  https://bella-s-site-bfa4.thinkific.com/courses/bellasjealousybustingmasterclass [https://bella-s-site-bfa4.thinkific.com/courses/bellasjealousybustingmasterclass]FREE TRIAL of our favorite dating app: https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882 [https://www.sdc.com/signup.php?ref=37882]15% OFF our favorite at-home STI test kits: https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633 [https://mybls.com/?sca_ref=8588633.tc3n4k94oPK&utm_source=affiliate&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=8588633]