Drop the BS w/ Dr. Kirleen

110: How to Decide If It’s Time to Move On

When It’s Time to Move On: Embracing Change Letting go is one of the hardest things we face in life. Whether it’s walking away from a job, a relationship, a role we’ve outgrown, or even a dream that no longer aligns with who we are—it’s a process filled with emotional weight. Transitions stir up feelings of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty, and the unknown can make even necessary decisions feel paralyzing.At the same time, holding on for too long can keep us stuck. We risk sacrificing growth, peace, and opportunities for something better because we’re clinging to the comfort of what we already know. In this episode, I’ll guide you through: * Recognizing when it’s time to let go. * Overcoming the fears that make us hold on. * Embracing change as an opportunity for reflection and growth. As this year—and this version of the podcast—comes to an end, it feels like the perfect time to discuss what it really means to let go and move forward. I’ll also take a moment to reflect on the journey of this podcast and share what’s next. Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show Neely Counseling Center neelycounseling.com [https://neelycounseling.com] Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us]Instagram Rate, Review, & Follow-on Apple Podcasts: Please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people, just like improving their mental health and living a better story Today. Scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast.

109: When Stress Becomes Something More Serious

In this episode, I'll be sharing insights from both my personal experiences with burnout and my clinical expertise. Burnout is more than just feeling tired—it's a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion that can become overwhelming if not addressed. I'll talk about how to identify when your exhaustion has crossed the line into burnout and offer strategies to recover before reaching the point of no return. This episode is perfect for anyone feeling drained by work, family, or life in general and unsure whether they're simply tired or experiencing full-blown burnout. Tune in for a blend of personal reflections and clinical advice on recognizing the signs and taking action.   Key Takeaways: •  1. Recognizing the Signs: Take a Burnout Self-Assessment – Spend a few minutes to evaluate yourself honestly. Are you feeling persistently exhausted, detached, or cynical? Regular check-ins can help you catch burnout early by distinguishing these signs from everyday stress. 2. Prioritizing Self-Care: Build a Deep Rest Routine – Schedule specific time each week for deeper forms of rest, such as nature walks, meditation, or mindful breathing. These practices can be more restorative than traditional self-care when burnout is at play. 3. Work-Life Balance: Set Non-Negotiable Boundaries – Identify a couple of work boundaries, like not answering emails after 7 p.m. or committing one day of your weekend to recovery activities. Enforce these boundaries to reclaim balance and guard against burnout. 4. Seeking Help: Reach Out for Support – Whether it’s a trusted friend, mentor, or mental health professional, talking through your experience can offer relief and insight. If burnout feels overwhelming, consider scheduling a therapy session to get personalized support. 5. Different Domains of Burnout: Address Burnout Holistically – Try an activity that addresses each domain of burnout: emotionally, spend time journaling; physically, incorporate regular exercise or gentle stretching; occupationally, reassess your workload or ask for support on specific tasks to relieve pressure. Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show Neely Counseling Center neelycounseling.com [https://neelycounseling.com] Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us]Instagram Rate, Review, & Follow-on Apple Podcasts: Please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people, just like improving their mental health and living a better story Today. Scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast.

108: Six Parenting Mistakes to Avoid

Parenting can often feel overwhelming, with many parents questioning their judgment and wondering if they're getting it right. A study by Psychology Today found that nearly 70% of parents frequently worry about whether they're making the right decisions. While there is no definitive parenting handbook, there are best practices that can help navigate the journey of raising children.  In this episode of the podcast, drawing from my 25 years of experience working with thousands of couples, we dive into six common parenting mistakes that you should avoid. This isn't an exhaustive list but rather a guide to help you avoid some of the pitfalls that can complicate your relationship with your children.Whether you're a parent, an aunt, a grandparent, or someone who supports parents, these insights are designed to be practical and impactful.   Key Takeaways: * Building Trust Over Authority: Avoid using power over your children. Build trust so they confide in you, giving you the chance to guide them effectively. * Avoiding Comparisons: Stop comparing your kids to their siblings or cousins. It breeds unhealthy competition and resentment. * Preparing for Reality: Shielding children from life's hardships doesn't prepare them for the real world. Show them how to navigate challenges without burdening them. * Balanced Parenting: Swinging to the opposite extreme of your own upbringing can create new issues. Aim for a balanced approach. * Listening First: Children need to feel heard. Instead of jumping to solutions, listen and validate their feelings first. * Supporting Growth: Avoid overreacting to current behaviors. Kids evolve and support their growth without fixating on the present. Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show Neely Counseling Center neelycounseling.com [https://neelycounseling.com] Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us]Instagram Rate, Review, & Follow-on Apple Podcasts: Please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people, just like improving their mental health and living a better story Today. Scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast.

107: Like Who Likes You - Stop Chasing Dead-End Relationships

In today's episode, we dive into the heart of building healthier relationships by exploring the concept of "like who likes you." Many of us find ourselves chasing after unreciprocated affection or approval, often investing time and energy in relationships that don't truly value us. It's time to shift our focus to those who genuinely appreciate us and bring positivity into our lives.  We'll break down the signs of a healthy relationship, such as mutual respect, shared decision-making, and the ability to be yourself without fear of judgment. Recognizing these signs can help you reassess your current connections and determine which ones are worth nurturing.We'll discuss practical strategies for letting go of relationships that don't uplift you and creating space for those that do. If you're ready to stop chasing dead-end situations and start embracing connections that enhance your well-being, this episode offers the insights and steps you need. Learn how to transform your relationship dynamics and build a support network that truly values you.  Key Takeaways * In a healthy relationship, you are accepted for who they are, fostering greater satisfaction and stability.  * A supportive relationship helps you grow and improve, encouraging self-development and new experiences. * Healthy relationships involve shared decision-making and influence, creating a balanced and fair dynamic. * Fundamental traits like reliability, kindness, and trustworthiness are essential for good relationships. Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show Master Class Sign Up https://neelycounseling.com/bsb-masterclass/ [https://neelycounseling.com/bsb-masterclass/] Neely Counseling Center neelycounseling.com [https://neelycounseling.com] Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us]Instagram Rate, Review, & Follow-on Apple Podcasts: Please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people, just like improving their mental health and living a better story Today. Scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast.

106: Mindset Makeover: Take Control of Your Thoughts

In today's episode we are diving into the heart of mindset – a topic that touches every aspect of our lives. What exactly does mindset entail, and why does it matter so much for our mental well-being? Join us as we explore real-life stories and practical insights that shed light on the power of our thoughts and beliefs.Get ready to connect with the journey of a woman who experienced a profound shift in mindset.Through her story, we'll see firsthand how a negative mindset can hold us back and how a simple change in perspective can open doors to new possibilities.But this isn't just about theory – we're breaking down the science behind mindset in relatable terms. Discover how our brain chemistry influences our outlook on life, and learn practical strategies to rewire your thinking for the better. So, if you're feeling stuck or looking to improve your mental outlook, this episode is for you. Tune in for insights, inspiration, and actionable steps to take control of your thoughts and embrace a mindset that empowers you to thrive.  Key Takeaways: 1. Thought Choice and Belief Alignment: Your thoughts are powerful creators of your reality. Rather than passively accepting whatever thoughts come to mind, actively choose beliefs that align with your aspirations and values. Remember, you don't always get what you want, but rather what you deeply believe. This emphasizes the importance of consciously shaping your beliefs to manifest your desired outcomes. 2. The Power of Neutrality: While positivity is often celebrated, maintaining a neutral perspective can be equally impactful. Striking a balance between optimism and realism, neutrality allows for clear-headed assessment and effective decision-making. By avoiding the extremes of overly optimistic or pessimistic thinking, you cultivate resilience and adaptability in navigating life's challenges. 3. Mindset's Deep Impact on Brain Chemistry: The connection between mindset and brain chemistry runs deep, influencing your mental and emotional well-being in profound ways. Shifting your mindset can lead to tangible changes in neurotransmitter activity, such as increased serotonin and dopamine levels associated with feelings of happiness and motivation. By understanding this link, you unlock the potential for a cascade of positive benefits, from improved mood to enhanced cognitive function and overall psychological resilience. Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show Master Class Sign Up https://neelycounseling.com/bsb-masterclass/ [https://neelycounseling.com/bsb-masterclass/] Neely Counseling Center neelycounseling.com [https://neelycounseling.com] Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us]Instagram Rate, Review, & Follow-on Apple Podcasts: Please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people, just like improving their mental health and living a better story Today. Scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast.