Crimes of the Heart: a love and dating podcast

Why Dating Got Easier When I Stopped Trying to Be Chosen - Tara Schuster

What actually changes when you heal? The way you date. The way you choose. The way you feel in your own life. In this episode, Rory sits down with bestselling author Tara Schuster to talk about what quietly shifted when she stopped trying to be chosen — and started building real emotional stability. They unpack the inner changes that made dating feel easier instead of heavier, including: * why compatibility matters more than chemistry or checklists * how journaling builds self-trust and emotional regulation * what healthy relationships actually feel like in the body * and why scarcity thinking keeps people stuck in the same patterns. * This conversation moves beyond dating tactics into the emotional skills modern women were never taught: from re-parenting yourself, to letting go of timeline panic, to choosing from self-respect instead of fear. If you’re tired of repeating patterns, overthinking connections, or feeling behind in love or life, this episode will meet you where you are. Don't forget to check out Tara's Books [https://amzn.to/49zslGm] or her latest Journal [https://amzn.to/49zskCi]and if you want to sign up for her free journaling course click here: https://journal.taraschuster.com/ [https://journal.taraschuster.com/] ------------------------------- Get Rory's book / audiobook here! [https://amzn.to/3LF5PUq] Follow Rory's substack here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/ [https://theladiesroom.substack.com/] For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder  [https://www.instagram.com/icouldbeblonder/]or TIKTOK: @roryuphold  [https://www.tiktok.com/@roryuphold?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Opening Jingle credit: Harry Foster [https://www.instagram.com/fostermakesmusic/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

3 Dating Habits to Leave in 2025 & 3 Dating Habits to Lean Into for 2026

"A Final Girl's Guide To The Horrors Of Dating" has been called both "hilarious" and a "must read for anyone dating". Get your copy at Amazon [https://amzn.to/4o8oCF3] or from me directly [https://roryupholdshop.com/products/a-final-girls-guide-to-the-horrors-of-dating-paperback]. The audiobook comes out Feb 9th, 2026 but it's available for pre-order NOW!! Y'all, it's been a WILD year. And I feel like I've got a lot to say. For my last episode of the 2025 I decided to freestyle it. I was on Good Day DC talking about the three dating trends to let go of in 2025 and the three dating habits we need to lean into in 2026 and I thought, ya know what, I'm gonna do a solo episode on this because it's actually important and worth sharing. So, strap in because today is you n me babe, raw and unfiltered, voice memo style. Thanks for being here and here's to a softer, brighter and more joyful 2026. xx, Rory ------------------------------- Follow my substack here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/ [https://theladiesroom.substack.com/] For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder  [https://www.instagram.com/icouldbeblonder/]or TIKTOK: @roryuphold  [https://www.tiktok.com/@roryuphold?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/ [https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/] Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTok Opening Jingle credit: Harry Foster [https://www.instagram.com/fostermakesmusic/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Why You Should Stay Single feat. Sarah Hester Ross

Before you do anything Please grab a copy of my book. It's been called both "hilarious" and a "must read for anyone dating". Get your copy at Amazon [https://amzn.to/4o8oCF3] or from me directly [https://roryupholdshop.com/products/a-final-girls-guide-to-the-horrors-of-dating-paperback]. The audiobook (2/2026) is available for pre-orders NOW!! Today's episode features the insanely talented and very viral comedian and singer Sarah Hester Ross. We end up having the kind of conversation I could have never prepared for and I am so grateful that we did. We cover alllllllll of the taboo topics. From leaving the church she was deeply a part of to leaving her marriage of seven years, Sarah has a masters degress in growing and changing and rebuilding life according to her own compass. It's a not-to-miss episode. Don't miss seeing Sarah live: https://www.sarahhesterross.com/ [https://www.sarahhesterross.com/] and follow her on IG to keep up [https://www.instagram.com/sarahhesterross/]with her lastest songs. ------------------------------- Follow my substack here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/ [https://theladiesroom.substack.com/] For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder  [https://www.instagram.com/icouldbeblonder/]or TIKTOK: @roryuphold  [https://www.tiktok.com/@roryuphold?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/ [https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/] Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTok Opening Jingle credit: Harry Foster [https://www.instagram.com/fostermakesmusic/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Do men even like women? Feat. Billy Procida (Manwhore Podcast)

Before you do anything Please grab a copy of my book. It's been called both "hilarious" and a "must read for anyone dating". Get your copy at Amazon [https://amzn.to/4o8oCF3] or from me directly [https://roryupholdshop.com/products/a-final-girls-guide-to-the-horrors-of-dating-paperback]. The audiobook (2/2026) is available for pre-orders NOW!! Today's episode features a veteran podcaster in the love/dating/sex space. He's polly and freaky and he hosts the Naked Comedy show (which is coming to LA in January). I'm talking about Billy Procida. Today we cover everthing from his frist gang bang to the fear of being unlovable and what he's learned from hosting well over 500 episodes of a dating podcast that started with him interviewing all of his exs. If you want more of Billy you can listen to his show HERE [https://www.manwhorepod.com] or you can get tickets to the Naked Comedy show in LA in January HERE [https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1918561572309 ]. ------------------------------- Follow my substack here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/ [https://theladiesroom.substack.com/] For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder  [https://www.instagram.com/icouldbeblonder/]or TIKTOK: @roryuphold  [https://www.tiktok.com/@roryuphold?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/ [https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/] Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTok Opening Jingle credit: Harry Foster [https://www.instagram.com/fostermakesmusic/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

How & Where To Meet Your Person feat. Anthony Recenello

My best selling dating book has been called both "hilarious" and a "must read for anyone dating" so what are you waiting for? Get your copy at Amazon [https://amzn.to/4o8oCF3] or from me directly [https://roryupholdshop.com/products/a-final-girls-guide-to-the-horrors-of-dating-paperback]. The audiobook (2/2026) is available for pre-orders NOW!! Today's episode features a dating coach that's unlike most. He's all about doing the inner work in order to get the outward results and he has a TON of practical advice from how to meet people who are compatible to how to disarm them and foster vulnerable conversations. Anthony Recenello has been a dating coach for over TWENTY years!! To learn more about him or watch how he works follow him on IG HERE [https://www.instagram.com/anthonyrecenello/?hl=en] or check out his website HERE [https://detachmentdating.com]. Follow my substack here: https://theladiesroom.substack.com/ [https://theladiesroom.substack.com/] For video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder  [https://www.instagram.com/icouldbeblonder/]or TIKTOK: @roryuphold  [https://www.tiktok.com/@roryuphold?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] To send a story or leave a voice message for Rory click here: https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/ [https://www.crimesoftheheartpod.com/] Got a Question? Wanna submit a topic? We would LOVE to hear from you! Email us at rory@crimesoftheheartpod.com or DM on Instagram & TikTok Opening Jingle credit: Harry Foster [https://www.instagram.com/fostermakesmusic/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].