Low Libido Isn't a Relationship Problem. Christian Women Need to Hear This.
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You love your husband. But when he reaches for you, nothing is there. You have prayed about it, gone to counseling, and tried harder. And every day you carry the guilt of knowing what a faithful wife is supposed to want.
The guilt is real. But the cause is not what you think.
In this episode, I'm going to show you why counseling falls short for this specific problem, what is actually happening in your body when desire disappears, and the exact test to request at your next provider appointment.
⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
0:00 When you love your husband but desire has completely disappeared
1:09 Why your counselor, pastor, and doctor all pointed you in the wrong direction
2:29 The hormone that actually drives desire in women (and what happens when it runs out)
3:02 How testosterone levels drop through perimenopause and why it happens so fast
3:54 3 questions to tell if this is actually your problem
4:29 What it looks like when a body is running on empty (not a failing marriage)
5:31 Why low libido in women over 40 is almost always a testosterone deficiency
6:03 Why standard lab panels never test for it
6:55 What consistently happens when hormone levels get optimized
7:51 The exact test to bring to your next provider appointment
❓ QUESTIONS ANSWERED
Why do women lose sexual desire in their 40s?
Testosterone, the hormone that drives sexual desire in women, begins declining around age 30 and drops sharply through perimenopause. By the mid-40s, levels can be a fraction of what they were a decade earlier, which can cause desire to disappear entirely rather than simply decrease.
Can low libido in a marriage be a hormonal problem rather than a relationship problem?
Yes, especially for women in perimenopause. When testosterone and estrogen drop simultaneously, desire goes offline for a biochemical reason that has nothing to do with attraction, love, or the health of the relationship.
What test should I ask for if I have low or absent libido?
Ask your provider specifically for a free and total testosterone test, plus a full hormone panel including estrogen and progesterone. Standard lab panels for women do not include testosterone, so you must request it by name.
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ABOUT SHARON LEMOINE, ARNP
Sharon Lemoine is a board-certified Advanced Registered Nurse Practitioner (ARNP, FNP-C) with 28 years in medicine and over 100,000 patients treated. She is the founder of Gig Harbor Medical Spa and Concierge Medicine in Washington State, specializing in hormone optimization, perimenopause and menopause care, functional medicine, weight loss, and peptide therapy.
As a Type 1 diabetic, thyroid cancer survivor, and woman navigating surgical menopause herself, Sharon brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to every video. She believes your body is a gift worth honoring, and that you are in control of your health.
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