How to Make Friends as an Adult

How to Make Friends as an Adult

Loneliness doesn’t come from being surrounded by too few people, it comes from believing you have to wait for connection to find you. In this episode, Jay shares five powerful mindset shifts to help you build meaningful friendships as an adult by overcoming the fear of rejection, letting go of imagined judgment, and embracing the courage to make the first move. Through practical insights and research-backed wisdom, you'll discover that lasting friendships aren't built through perfect chemistry, but through consistent presence, intentional effort, and the willingness to create the community you've been searching for. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Introduction 00:02:33 5 Mindset Shifts to Make Friends 00:03:51 Why Making Friends Feels Harder Now 00:06:25 The Fear Keeping You Lonely 00:09:55 People Like You More Than You Think 00:14:35 Why Repetition Builds Real Friendships 00:21:01 Stop Waiting, Start Building Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Jim Curtis: The Secret to Stop Self-Sabotage

Jay sits down with transformational coach Jim Curtis, author of The Book of Possibility, to unpack how our subconscious beliefs, many formed before age seven, quietly shape our careers, relationships, and sense of what we think we deserve. Jim breaks down his Release, Align, Become framework, walks through the four core childhood wounds behind our biggest triggers, and shares practical tools for anxiety and self-doubt, ultimately revealing who you actually are beneath the programming. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:00 What Are We Getting Wrong About Manifestation? 01:40 Where Our Core Assumptions Come From 04:01 Awareness, Releasing, and Challenging Assumptions 06:57 Deconstructing “I Don’t Know What I Want” 11:45 The Release-Align-Become Framework 17:00 Jay’s Identity Shift: Employee to Entrepreneur 18:16 The Buddha’s Raft Story 20:56 Crafting Affirmations & Laddering Up 24:26 Jim’s Personal Resistance 26:58 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Releasing Shame 29:18 Jim’s Wake-Up Call: Shamans and Kung Fu 31:45 Jim’s Spinal Lesion and the Blackout Walk 34:40 Pain and Suffering as Doorways to Growth 35:20 Demystifying Hypnosis & The Power of Suggestion 44:17 Healing a Lifelong Phobia 46:07 Tools for Anxious and Ruminating Thoughts 48:30 Pre-Patterning for Repetitive Triggers 52:00 The Four Core Childhood Wounds 57:01 The Biggest Mistake in Seeking Love 01:01:46 Rejection Is Protection 01:05:19 Vulnerability: Masks, Mirrors, and Feeling Seen 01:07:23 Breaking Free from “Buckets” 01:09:39 Rebuilding Identity After a Breakup 01:11:55 Connection to Universal Consciousness 01:14:48 Jim Curtis On Final Five Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

TRAVIS BARKER: "My Biggest Fear Actually Happened"

In this episode, Jay sits down with legendary drummer Travis Barker to talk about the discipline that built his career, the tragedy that almost ended it, and the slow, hard-won path back to peace. Travis opens up about losing his mother as a teenager, his struggles with addiction, the 2008 plane crash that changed his life, and how love, friendship, and sheer determination brought him back to himself. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:43 Childhood Memories & Drum Practice 03:08 Skateboarding 03:48 Drum Kit & Musical Genres 05:45 Getting Good & Learning Jazz Charts 07:49 Natural Talent Vs. Hard Work 09:56 Grieving The Loss Of His Mother 11:54 Mom’s Final Advice & Marching Band Tryouts 13:40 Garage Rehearsals & Dad’s Hard Ultimatums 15:58 The Grind of Being In An Independent Band 17:42 Counselors Laughing At The Dream 19:13 How Blink-182 Came Into His Life 22:17 What Practicing Looks Like Today 23:26 Early Financial Success & His Dad’s Advice 26:55 Introduction To Drugs And Self-Medicating 30:48 Inside Blink-182’s First Breakup 32:32 Collaborating With DJ AM 35:01 High-Functioning Addiction & DJ AM’s Intervention 37:01 The South Carolina Show & His Daughter’s Premonition 41:47 The Plane Crash 45:17 Processing Loss And Amputation Fears 48:49 Survivor’s Guilt & 20 Years Without Flying 50:18 How Kourtney Got Him Flying Again 51:36 Skin Grafts And Hospital Suicidal Thoughts 54:44 Grieving the Death of DJ AM 59:20 Feeling The Presence of Passed Loved Ones 01:00:20 Surprises of Life Today 01:01:07 His Relationship with Kourtney Kardashian 01:02:41 Navigating A Miscarriage 01:03:51 Rocky’s Birth And Emergency Fetal Surgery 01:05:25 The Decision To Go Sober 01:07:32 First Flight In 20 Years 01:10:00 Blink-182 Reunion 01:11:53 Overcoming Fear & Running Toward Challenges 01:14:19 What His Mother Would Be Most Proud Of 01:14:45 Favorite Collaborations & Grammy Moment 01:16:10 Travis Barker On Final Five Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Ready to Find Love? Start with These 5 Shifts

The greatest barrier to finding love isn't a lack of chemistry, it's a lack of opportunity. Jay explores why modern dating feels so exhausting and reveals the psychology behind attraction, offering practical ways to build a life that naturally invites love in. If you're feeling burned out by the search for "the one," this conversation is an invitation to release rigidity, handle rejection as data, and find hope for moving forward. Probability doesn't promise that your soulmate is waiting around the corner, but it does promise that tomorrow is not predetermined by yesterday. Trust that every new community and conversation makes space for the right connection, and that a life rich with curiosity will always lead you forward. With Love and Gratitude,Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com [http://altrarunning.com]/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe] Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:34 Love as Probability: Creating Opportunities 01:43 Are You Isolating Yourself?  03:31 The First Psychological Concept That Will Reframe Dating  03:55 Debunking The Biggest Myth About Love 04:28 The Mere Exposure Effect Explained  06:09 Building Regular Spaces for Repeated Encounters Is Everything 08:22 The Second Shift For Meeting Your Soulmate 09:20 The Strength of Weak Ties  11:49 Your Preferences are The Problem, Not Your Standards  16:24 How to Harness First-Date Pressure 18:30 Redefining First Dates: Enjoyable Exploration 20:15 Start Separating Worth from Outcomes 22:57 High Standards and the Dating Puzzle Analogy 24:30 Zooming Out and Staying Open to Love 24:42 Curiosity, Community, and the Philosophy of Choice 25:42 To The People Losing Hope… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]

Can’t Turn Your Mind Off At Night? Close Your Eyes & Listen to This

What if the heaviest thing you’re carrying tonight is something you haven’t even admitted you’re holding? In this episode, Jay meets you in the dark, in the moment you’re lying awake calculating how many hours of sleep you have left. Through a guided visualization and gentle reminders about how healing actually works, he shows you that peace isn’t something you force by thinking harder, it’s something you find by carrying less. One breath at a time. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Late-Night Welcome 01:00 The Noise of a Quiet Mind 02:00 Understanding Your Mind’s Defenses 04:00 Guided Breathing & Reminding Your Body of Safety 05:00 Identifying Your Internal Weight 06:15 Admitting the Heavy Things 06:45 The Story of the Mountain and the Stone 09:45 Pushing Through Doubt and Unseen Progress 12:45 The Breakthrough & Hidden Gemstones 13:30 The True Power of Every Strike 14:30 Seeing Gradual Growth in Your Own Life 15:45 Not Mistaking Your Season for Your Destination 16:15 Reflecting on Your Past Surprises 17:30 The World Spinning Outside Your Room 18:30 Walking Toward Your Future 19:30 Visualizing a Hopeful Tomorrow 20:30 A Morning That Doesn’t Demand Certainty 22:15 Unimagined Good Is Coming 23:45 A Gentler Question to Ask Yourself 24:15 Where Peace Actually Lives 25:30 Carry Only Tonight’s Breath 26:30 Trusting Life’s Natural Flow 27:30 Befriend Your Overactive Mind 28:30 Life, One Page at a Time Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices [https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices]