Arrows and Acres

No Phones, No Tablets, No Problem (Ep 10)

Ninety-five percent of teenagers carry a smartphone. Many are online almost every waking hour, and children eight to eighteen now average more than seven hours a day on a screen. In that same window, teen depression and anxiety doubled. That is not a coincidence. It is a correlation no honest parent can ignore. In Episode 10, Daniel and Allison Hartman make the case that handing a child a phone is not a neutral act. It is opening the lid on the septic tank and inviting your children to climb in. Pornography, predators, dopamine loops engineered by the people who keep their own children off these devices, and the attention span of a goldfish are not rare accidents. They are the default setting. This is not a guilt trip. It is a battle plan. Daniel and Allison walk through how they guard the eye gate in their own home, why boredom is the birthplace of creativity, why full access and accountability protect a marriage and a household, and why raising children who can change a tire, run equipment, and build a house matters more than raising children who can scroll. Every generation gets a test. Screens are the test of this one. Decide today what you will do with it. "I will set nothing wicked before my eyes." Psalm 101:3, NKJV Subscribe to Arrows & Acres on your favorite platform and find us at ArrowsAndAcres.com [http://ArrowsAndAcres.com].

The Enemies of a Strong Family (Ep 9)

Less than ten percent of Americans hold a biblical worldview. Among Gen Z, it is one percent. And the mental health numbers are climbing right alongside that collapse. This is not a coincidence. It is a warning. In this episode, Daniel and Allison Hartman sit down with Randy Schrum to name the forces actively working against your family, the enemies most parents never see coming until the damage is done. This is the survey. Each enemy gets its own deep-dive episode, but here is the full battlefield laid out in one place. Inside this episode: The collapse of the biblical worldview across four generations, and why anxiety and depression rose right behind it. The entertainment economy. Children ages eight to eighteen averaging seven and a half hours of screen time a day, and the eighty-one percent of children under thirteen who already own their own device. Financial bondage. Over eighteen trillion dollars in household debt, and how the borrower becomes slave to the lender. The spiritual passivity of men. Why most fathers are not destroyed by scandal but by slow surrender. Age segregation. How church and school pull families apart, the real history of the Sunday school movement, and the eighty-five percent of youth group students who fall away within three years. The purity crisis. Premarital sex normalized inside the walls of the church, and the explicit content epidemic in the home. The failure to build family buy-in, and the family mission statement that turns a household into a team. The trauma culture and the no contact movement, and the multigenerational blessing it is quietly destroying. The closing conviction is simple. If something fragments your family, stop doing it. If it draws your family closer, keep going. "Lo, children are a heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth." Psalm 127:3-4 Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and why this episode matters 01:00 Enemy 1: The collapse of the biblical worldview 07:43 Enemy 2: The entertainment economy and the screen-time crisis 12:12 Enemy 3: Financial bondage and the debt trap 16:00 Enemy 4: The spiritual passivity of men 23:19 Enemy 5: Age segregation in church and school 32:01 Enemy 6: The purity crisis 38:30 Enemy 7: Building family buy-in and a family mission 45:49 The trauma culture and the no contact movement New episodes every Wednesday at 5 AM EST. Listen, subscribe, and share with a family that needs it. Gulf Coast Family Camp is free and meets three times a year in Panama City Beach, Florida. Learn more at GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com [http://GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com] More at ArrowsAndAcres.com [http://ArrowsAndAcres.com]

Purity and The Digital Battlefield Part 2 (Ep 8)

Purity and the Digital Battlefield, Part 2 The conversation most families keep avoiding does not get easier by ignoring it. In Part 2, Daniel and Allison Hartman finish what they started and go straight at the heart of the matter. Image-based lust is not a problem that lives only out there in the culture. It is in conservative homes, in youth groups, in homeschool families. The studies say 93 percent of men admit to it. This is not a someday talk. It is a today talk. In this episode, Daniel and Allison get specific and practical. Why modesty starts with the parents and not the children. How Daniel handled the hard conversations with his sons-in-law before marriage. The safeguards they have actually built in their home, including why a screen never goes in a bedroom and why every screen faces the room. The red flags to watch for, like a child who suddenly wants to slip away and be alone. And why no app, block, or filter will ever reach what only the heart can settle. This was never about legalism. It is about families who want to please God more than they want to please people, and who are willing to stand alone to keep their children's hearts. "For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor." 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 NKJV If you feel worn out, you are not alone. But there is no season of raising children where we get to coast. Be on your game. Finish the race strong. New episodes release Wednesday at 5 AM EST. Learn more and join us at family camp at ArrowsAndAcres.com [http://ArrowsAndAcres.com].

Purity and the Digital Battlefield Part 1 (Ep 7)

This is the conversation every family keeps avoiding, and it cannot wait any longer. Daniel and Allison Hartman go straight at the digital battlefield being waged for the hearts and minds of our children. The average age of first exposure is now 12. By 18, the overwhelming majority of boys and a majority of girls have already seen it. Most did not go looking. The algorithms went looking for them, on phones, on social apps, even on school-issued devices. This is not a teen issue. It is a heart issue, a marriage issue, and a parenting issue, and the data is a true emergency. Daniel and Allison walk through what this does to a child's brain, how it rewires reward and impulse control into addiction, how it sears the conscience, and how it quietly destroys marriages. They trace how it starts. A school tablet handed over with pure intentions. A fishing video that escalates one innocent click at a time. A shopping site one tap away from the gutter. Then they turn to what God says. The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit. The marriage bed is undefiled. We are bought with a price. "But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:28, NKJV) And they get practical. The safeguards that actually hold. Why parents must own the devices. Why there are no devices in bedrooms and the doors stay open. The free phone lock most parents have never heard of. Why the answer to "when do I give my child a phone" may simply be never. For anyone already caught in it, hear this clearly: you are not damaged goods. This is about a 180, a turning, and a run toward freedom in Christ. IN THIS EPISODE * The 2024 statistics every parent needs to hear, from the Institute for Family Studies and the American College of Pediatricians * How accidental exposure actually happens, and why school devices are a wide-open door * What it does to the brain, the conscience, and the marriage * The biblical case for purity, drawn straight from the Word * Safeguards that work in a real home with real children * The modesty conversation: what are you selling, and who are you defrauding * Freedom for the one already trapped, and how to lead a child back * Why your children's friendships either guard their hearts or undo everything This is Arrows & Acres. We are not building an audience. We are building a movement. New episodes every Wednesday at 5 AM EST. ArrowsAndAcres.com [http://ArrowsAndAcres.com] Gulf Coast Family Camp: GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com [http://GulfCoastFamilyCamp.com]

The Woman Who Builds: Proverbs 31 Is a Blueprint, Not a Guilt Trip (Ep 6)

For two generations women have been told Proverbs 31 is impossible, oppressive, or worse, a quiet shaming wrapped in poetry. Daniel and Allison Hartman walk verse by verse through the most misunderstood chapter in the Bible and show what culture buried. She is not a doormat. She is a builder. She is not silent. She is the loudest voice in the gates. She is not waiting until 30 to start her life. She is already running her household, her businesses, and her ministry. In this episode: * The real cost of the career-first script and the children women never have Why "I birthed all my employees" is a Proverbs 31 economic strategy * How Allison turned one son selling moringa trees into two markets with over a thousand vendors * The trust contract between husband and wife the modern home has lost * Why meekness is controlled strength, not weakness * The power of the tongue over your children, illustrated with one three year old and a poorly made bed * And the closing line that defines the whole chapter: she did not apologize for her life Scripture: Proverbs 31, Psalm 127:3, John 8:36 Subscribe so you never miss a podcast drop. Then send this to someone in your life who needs to hear it. wsfpm6im