Behavioral Grooves Podcast

Managing up isn’t about sucking up—it’s about taking control of your career. This week, executive coach and author Melody Wilding joins us to break down the ten essential workplace conversations that help you set boundaries, advocate for yourself, and navigate office dynamics with confidence. From understanding communication styles to negotiating your worth, Melody shares practical scripts and psychological insights that can help you work smarter—not just harder.  ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Topics [00:00] Introduction to Melody Wilding [01:15] Redefining Managing Up: What It Really Means [02:52] The 10 Conversations That Matter Most at Work [04:47] How You Teach People How to Treat You [10:32] Communication Styles: The Key to Navigating Workplace Dynamics [22:25] The Money Conversation: How to Ask for a Raise the Right Way [28:15] How to Push Back Diplomatically on Low-Value Tasks [33:50] The Role of Visibility and Navigating Office Politics [41:58] The "Me Manual": Understanding & Asserting Your Own Style [50:16] Finding Your Groove: Melody's Career Journey [57:35] Grooving Session: Managing Up ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links Melody Wilding's Website [https://melodywilding.com] Managing Up (Book) [https://www.amazon.com/Managing-Up-Navigating-Workplace-Relationships/dp/1400223463] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@behavioralgrooves] Musical Links Arcade Fire - Reflektor [https://youtu.be/7E0fVfectDo?si=NWAmOcfsP1UnS5d1] Death Cab For Cutie - Soul Meets Body [https://youtu.be/uizQVriWp8M?si=-4bM2EOXvvjIfF4a]

Oliver Burkeman joins us to explore the power of imperfectionism and why waiting for the “perfect moment” is a trap. We discuss how perfectionism, productivity myths, and self-improvement frameworks can hold us back—and why embracing uncertainty is the key to doing meaningful work. Whether you’re looking to improve daily habits or rethink your approach to time and purpose, this conversation will inspire you to take action despite life’s inevitable messiness. ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Topics [00:00] Introduction & Why We Wait for the Perfect Moment [4:15] Meet Oliver Burkeman: Author of Meditations for Mortals [9:40] The Illusion of Control & The Productivity Trap [15:30] What “Imperfectionism” Really Means [22:45] Why Life Isn’t a Problem to Be Solved [30:10] How Small Actions Create Big Meaning [38:00] The Power of Letting Go & Taking the First Step [45:50] Oliver’s Music Picks & The Importance of Everyday Moments [1:00:00] Grooving Session: Final Takeaways & How to Apply This Philosophy Today ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links Oliver Burkeman [https://www.oliverburkeman.com/] Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts [https://www.amazon.com/dp/0374611998] Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals [https://www.amazon.com/Four-Thousand-Weeks-Management-Mortals/dp/0374159122] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@behavioralgrooves] Musical Links The Divine Comedy - To The Rescue [https://youtu.be/FyH6bnt56mU?si=jHPBK0xsQVNj-3Mx]  Fountains of Wayne - Someone To Love [https://youtu.be/ZKUp2oOEFP8?si=MvFyq8432fapQ0XY]  Lin Manuel Miranda - Surface Pressure [https://youtu.be/ErY3eeRFTFg?si=dx_uV0OCrnTO77b9]

If you could remove one vice from your life, what would it be? In this month's Groove Jams, Tim and Kurt are joined by friend of the show Brad Shuck to explore the vices that hold us back. From overworking to doomscrolling, the trio unpacks what they struggle with giving up. Except for Tim, who somehow avoids the question.  From tacos to self-doubt, tune in for an eye-opening look at the fine line between indulgence and discipline.  ©2025 Behavioral Grooves

Dr. Adam Dorsay joins us to explore what it truly means to connect in a digital age. From the four key types of connection—self, others, the world, and something greater—to rekindling friendships and embracing technology for deeper bonds, this episode is packed with insights on building a more fulfilling life. Plus, we (of course) discuss the power of music, social comparison, and why sometimes, all it takes to make someone's day is a simple phone call. ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Topics [0:00] Introduction to Dr. Adam Dorsay [5:41] Speed Round: Instruments, Languages, and Coffee [22:36] The Four Types of Connection [37:12] The Psychology of Savoring and Gratitude [45:24] Why Are Modern Friendships So Hard? [1:00:25] - The Driveway Test for Relationships [1:03:45] - The Power of Music and Live Experiences [1:12:00] - Key Takeaways on Connection and Joy [1:30:02] - Closing Thoughts  ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links Learn more about Dr. Adam Dorsay [https://dradamdorsay.com/] Super Psyched by Adam Dorsay [https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/super-psyched-adam-dorsay/1146008306?ean=9798891381421] Super Psyched Podcast [https://dradamdorsay.com/superpsyched-dr-dorsays-podcast/] Join the Behavioral Grooves community [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1025501742354651] Subscribe to Behavioral Grooves on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@behavioralgrooves] Musical Links George Michael - Faith [https://youtu.be/6Cs3Pvmmv0E?si=qt7Df8J6GbJh4Icr] Sigur Rós - Sæglópur [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qiFgfPiJHyA]  Mumford & Sons - Lover of the Light [https://youtu.be/nMJUbZrNnA8?si=0ADbFNdS3Q3_XpdU]

How accurate are rom-coms when it comes to love? Relationship scientists Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel, co-hosts of Love Factually, put movie romance under a scientific lens, separating fact from fiction and revealing how Hollywood shapes our real-life expectations about love. Topics [0:00] Intro & Welcome to Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel [2:00] Coffee, Unicycles, and Speed Round Fun [6:40] Introducing Love Factually: A Relationship Science Podcast [10:05] Do Movies Teach Us About Love or Just Reflect Culture? [15:35] The Rom-Com Myths That Hollywood Keeps Selling [22:50] What Movies Get Surprisingly Right About Relationships [30:10] The Power of Micro-Cultures in Romantic Relationships [35:40] Relationship Science & The Challenges of Studying Love [41:00] Personal Insights & Favorite Movies from Paul & Eli [47:45] Music Preferences: The Soundtrack to Love & Life [49:57] Closing Thoughts & Where to Find Love Factually ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links Listen to Love Factually [https://www.lovefactuallypod.com/] Follow Paul Eastwick [https://pauleastwick.com/pauleastwick] Follow Eli Finkel [https://elifinkel.com/]  The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel [https://www.amazon.com/All-Nothing-Marriage-Best-Marriages/dp/052595516X/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1507144510&sr=8-1] Musical Links Peter Gabriel - In Your Eyes [https://youtu.be/kU8OJAOMbPg?si=onGqEQ5bVkO81l7O]  Pearl Jam - Daughter [https://youtu.be/zgUwd2Gkb-E?si=hNkF-G6M-2HCDeb4]  Nirvana - Smells Like Teen Spirit [https://youtu.be/hTWKbfoikeg?si=j5E9ZbWsaE6_Mu6Y]