DEEP&DIRTY with Lisa Opel

(DE) mit Mia Edelrot: Was Escort wirklich bedeutet (und was nicht).

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Mia Edelrot über was Escort wirklich bedeutet (und was nicht).. In dieser Folge sprechen wir über Escort ohne Klischee: Nähe, Freiheit und das Doppelleben. ALLE LINKS ZU MIA:Website: www.sprecherin-mia.de [http://www.sprecherin-mia.de] // Escortagentur: www.edelrot-escort.de [http://www.edelrot-escort.de] // Ihr Buch: Escorts bleiben nicht zum Frühstück (überall erhältlich) // Instagram: @sprecherin_mia ÜBER DIESE FOLGE: Mia gibt ehrliche Einblicke in ihre Zeit als High-Class-Escort und erzählt, wie sich diese Welt wirklich anfühlt: zwischen Nähe und klaren Grenzen, zwischen Freiheit und gesellschaftlichen Erwartungen. Wir sprechen darüber, was viele Menschen komplett falsch verstehen, warum Escort nichts mit einem „abgearbeiteten Skript“ zu tun hat und wie viel es eigentlich mit Präsenz, Chemie und echter Verbindung zu tun hat. Es geht um Begegnungen, die unter die Haut gehen, um ein Doppelleben, das sich irgendwann nicht mehr trennen lässt, und um die Frage, wie wir als Gesellschaft auf weibliche Lust, Selbstbestimmung und Geld im Kontext von Intimität schauen. Außerdem erzählt Mia, warum sie heute ihre eigene Escortagentur gegründet hat, was sie anders machen möchte und warum Vielfalt, Sicherheit und Transparenz für sie im Mittelpunkt stehen. Eine Folge über Intimität, Vorurteile und den Mut, den eigenen Weg zu gehen. Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(ENG) SHORT STORY: A sex doll + perimenopause.

(ENG): SHORT STORY: A Sex Doll, Some Lube, and a Lot of Questions. ✨ Want to watch the video? Watch it here: https://joy.club/lisayoutube [https://joy.club/lisayoutube] ✨ Want to read my full experience? Read it here (Sign-Up in JOYclub required): https://www.joyclub.com/en/magazin/male_sex_doll_test.html [https://www.joyclub.com/en/magazin/male_sex_doll_test.html] When JOYclub and Housedoll asked if I’d like to test a male sex doll, I was already in a place of questions. About sex. About visibility. About what midlife is supposed to feel like when you still want things. When you want to explore, want to connect, want to be left alone and deeply seen all at once. I said yes. Not as a stunt. Not for shock value. But because the idea of reclaiming pleasure without performance felt quietly radical. I wrote this story afterwards called Me, Myself and Apollo. It's fiction, but it came straight from the experience. A woman, alone, mid-hot flush, climbing on top of a silicone man with a detachable cock and no opinions. It was awkward. It was revealing. And in its own strange way, it was liberating. The doll didn’t talk. He didn’t rush me. He didn’t need anything from me. That stillness, that absence of needing to manage someone else’s experience, created space for mine. In that space, I noticed how much I’d been carrying. How much of my sexuality had been shaped around other people’s expectations. And how good it felt to stop asking for permission. The Vanishing Woman Isn’t Vanishing At All: Perimenopause, performance fatigue, and how sextech is changing the story There’s a narrative about women in midlife. That we disappear. That our desirability drops off. That we’re either settled down, or out of the game entirely. It’s rubbish, obviously. But it’s also powerful. You start to internalise it. Especially during perimenopause, when your body shifts gears and nothing feels reliable; not your sleep, not your moods, not your vagina. Your sense of self gets foggy. You ache more. You want different things. Sometimes you want nothing at all. And that, too, can feel like failure. But here’s the thing. Midlife isn’t a vanishing act. It’s a refocusing. A soft revolution. Women over 40 are reclaiming their time, their pleasure, and their right to want without it needing to be for someone else. That’s where sextech becomes more than novelty. It becomes a tool for agency. It’s not about replacing partners. It’s about creating space. For exploration. For awkwardness. For self-led pleasure without the pressure to be good at it. Or good for anyone else. And it’s happening. Quietly, steadily. In bedrooms and bathrooms and private tabs. A growing number of women are using sex toys not just to get off, but to get in. Into their bodies, their fantasies, their own unapologetic skin. I didn’t expect a sex doll to make me reflect on power, presence and perimenopause. But that’s what happened. So here’s an invitation.To listen. To watch. To read. To want what you want. Even if it’s just a bit of peace, a vibrator on the right setting, and a mirror that shows you back to yourself. Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples: https://bit.ly/sex-workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook: https://pleasepinchmehard.com/book-audio-give-it-to-me-lisa-opel/ [https://pleasepinchmehard.com/book-audio-give-it-to-me-lisa-opel/] My book SAVED IN NOTES... [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback): https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] JOYclub GRATIS Online Kurs "Langzeitbeziehungen" [https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/]:https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/ [https://pleasepinchmehard.com/joyclub-kurs-langzeitbeziehung/] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(DE) :: QUICKIE: Hello from the other side.

(DE): QUICKIE: Hello from the other side... oder eher: aus meinem kleinen Chaos aus Gedanken, Tabs und halbfertigen Ideen. So ein kleines „Ich lebe noch“ mit ein bisschen mehr Fleisch dran. Hier kommt eine Quickie-Folge. Es war hier ruhiger in letzter Zeit, ich weiß. Und nein, nicht weil nichts passiert ist. Eher, weil Dinge gerade nicht laut passieren. Mehr so im Hintergrund. Am Wachsen. Am Sortieren. Ich geb euch ein kleines Update. Woran ich arbeite. Was mich gerade beschäftigt. Was sich verschiebt. Ein paar Stichworte, damit ihr ein Gefühl bekommt: - Sprache & Lust: ein ziemlich großes, kollaboratives Projekt - mein Kurs „Find your sexual voice“ - viel Ausprobieren, viel Verwerfen, viel neu Denken - und irgendwo dazwischen… ein Roman, der mich liebevoll herausfordert Und dann diese Themen, die sich nicht so einfach in To-Dos packen lassen: - langsamer werden, obwohl alles voll ist - Nervensystem runterfahren, obwohl der Kopf gern schneller wäre - Vertrauen statt ständig kontrollieren - mehr Leben, weniger „wann ist endlich alles ruhig“ Vielleicht wird dieser Podcast auch genau dafür mehr Raum bekommen. Für das Unfertige, das Dazwischen, das, was ich auf Instagram noch nicht so richtig greifen kann. Mal schauen, wohin sich das entwickelt. Für jetzt ist es einfach ein kleines Lebenszeichen. Ein ehrliches Update. Ohne großen Plan. Wenn Du mit mir darüber reden magst: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] and never sent: horny, grieving and more poems. Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(ENG) FEMALE RAGE and sexual desire.

You cannot silence a woman’s anger without silencing her desire. (A little rant by Lisa!) There is nothing more threatening to a power structure than a woman who is no longer trying to be liked. Female anger is not new. It is just newly visible. For centuries, male anger has been normalized as leadership, ambition, drive, dominance. It is written into politics, business, religion, warfare, law. It is baked into the architecture of society. Men erupt and the world rearranges itself around them. Women erupt and the world tries to correct them. Why? Because anger is a boundary. And boundaries interrupt entitlement. When a woman is angry, she is no longer managing the room. She is no longer cushioning her no. She is no longer performing softness to make others comfortable. She is no longer absorbing what was never hers to carry. That is destabilizing. Patriarchal systems depend on female accommodation. On unpaid emotional labor. On sexual availability that feels consensual enough not to question. On women metabolizing discomfort quietly so that structures can continue uninterrupted. Anger disrupts that. And here is the part no one wants to say out loud: when women suppress anger, they also suppress desire. You cannot mute your no and expect your yes to be electric. Sexuality requires aliveness. Aliveness includes anger. Both arise from the same nervous system activation. Both are signals of selfhood. Both say, “I exist. I want. I refuse.” When women are punished for anger, they learn to disconnect from that entire current. What remains is compliance. Compliance in relationships. Compliance in sex. Compliance in professional spaces. Compliance is often mistaken for kindness. It is often praised as maturity. It is often eroticized as femininity. It is none of those things. It is survival. But survival is not sovereignty. Angry women are not unstable. They are often the most stable people in the room because they are no longer distorting reality to keep it comfortable. The cultural fear of female rage is not about volume. It is about control. An angry woman is harder to manipulate. Harder to gaslight. Harder to coerce. Harder to shame. She is also harder to seduce into sex she does not want. And that is where this becomes inconvenient. Because a woman who trusts her anger trusts her body. And a woman who trusts her body cannot be easily convinced that discomfort is desire, that obligation is intimacy, that endurance is love. The narrative that women are too angry distracts from a more uncomfortable truth. Many women are not angry enough. Not angry enough about unequal labor. Not angry enough about sexual double standards. Not angry enough about being talked over, paid less, touched without consent, expected to nurture without rest. When anger is metabolized instead of suppressed, it becomes clarity. It becomes precision. It becomes self respect. Rage is not the opposite of femininity. It is the immune system of dignity. And when women stop apologizing for it, the entire emotional economy shifts. If that feels confronting, it should. There’s a little more about being angry in my Substack article (link [https://open.substack.com/pub/lisaopel/p/women-arent-allowed-to-be-angry?r=2odsir&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true]). Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook My book SAVED IN NOTES... [https://amzn.eu/d/gGXCR8b] on Amazon (E-Book, Softback & Hardback) Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

(DE) mit Sarah Blume: Polyamorie ehrlich: Zwischen Herzfülle und Verlustangst.

DEEP&DIRTY (DE): Paar- und Sexualtherapeutin Sarah Blume von Beziehungsweise Unverblümt spricht über Verlustangst, Tempo, Selbstreflexion – und warum Kommunikation allein nicht reicht.. In dieser Folge sprechen wir über alternative Beziehungsmodelle jenseits von Klischees und Instagram-Romantisierung. ALLE LINKS ZU SANDRA: IG: @beziehungsweise_unverbluemt - https://www.instagram.com/beziehungsweise_unverbluemt/ [https://www.instagram.com/beziehungsweise_unverbluemt/] 🌐 https://paarberatunghamburg.de [https://paarberatunghamburg.de] Podcast Beziehungsweise Unverblümt: https://open.spotify.com/show/0CD1LhHCi2tnB06gI9Jg52?si=sJsP6YIqTK6Y0N1k_zkALg [https://open.spotify.com/show/0CD1LhHCi2tnB06gI9Jg52?si=sJsP6YIqTK6Y0N1k_zkALg] Mit Paar- und Sexualtherapeutin Sandra Kappesser-Siegmund aka Sarah Blume tauche ich ein in die größten Mythen rund um Polyamorie und offene Beziehungen. Wir sprechen über Verlustangst, Eifersucht und Tempo-Unterschiede – darüber, wie schnell man über eigene Grenzen gehen kann und wie wichtig ehrliche Selbstreflexion ist. Es geht um Wachstum, um Kapazitäten für Liebe, um Scham und warum sich viele Paare viel zu spät Unterstützung holen. Und wir teasern ein Thema an, das wir unbedingt vertiefen müssen: patriarchale Strukturen auch in vermeintlich progressiven, queeren oder offenen Beziehungen. Eine ehrliche, warme und stellenweise unbequeme Folge über Liebe, Mut und die Frage: Wann wachse ich und wann verliere ich mich? Diese Folge findet ihr auch als Video auf YouTube: https://youtu.be/LGvTYn13KiY [https://youtu.be/LGvTYn13KiY] Prefer the transcript? Find it here [https://lisaopel.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile]. I'm your host, Lisa Opel and I'm here to take you on a liberating ride through the world of sex shops, clubs, toys, play and more! Feel free to send me your questions and wishes anytime on Instagram or under yes@pleasepinchmehard.com [yes@pleasepinchmehard.com] More of me on Instagram (@pleasepinchmehard [https://www.instagram.com/pleasepinchmehard/]) and my webpage (www.pleasepinchmehard.com [http://www.pleasepinchmehard.com]) My book SEX SEX SEX - Your Workbook [https://bit.ly/sex-workbook] for Singles & Couples My book GIVE IT TO ME! [https://amzn.to/3wn6P3T] on Amazon (E-Book & Print) and Spotify as an Audiobook Need a one-on-one session with a Confidante? I've got you: www.mrs-opel.com [http://www.mrs-opel.com] Get full access to Mrs Lisa O | pleasepinchmehard at lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe [https://lisaopel.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]