Dr Thomas Smithyman Podcast

You're Probably Better At First Dates Than You Realize

In this episode, I look at a dataset of 880 Guardian Blind Dates to explore what really happens when two strangers sit down for a first date. Rory Flint’s Blind Dates dataset: https://blinddates.rory.codes/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUwtLS03SlFFNDJCa0ttYnJTdnpveEpiaGFOQXxBQ3Jtc0tta1hCYVFURHcwaC0zTVBkSE91R21tN05NZnNHcWctTHFEX05SdUVCODVBSTk2Sk84Y3hlcVI0WUVKdFVnTlNFRHlBNHlFai1BbjMteElxX1dDQ3BENGpBdTNSWTczdnMyYl9XVFRUTVJrNVJ6Nlc0aw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fblinddates.rory.codes%2F&v=BauKaB8Nd3I] The Guardian Blind Date series: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/blind-date To work more on your social and psychological health, join the newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbFhzU2E4eHhwRmV1enZjSDF2bm1qUm90ZWhVUXxBQ3Jtc0tsamEzU1hoS3lVbTE4aUx5LVA1SWN4MlpudEM5LWstTWQ4NFNFMHR2dmNIRzZKYl9NY1FkUTVnelFzTlNSY05rQ05EcU9MVGpVbk1uUGl6QjBjRk1hRHNicEpJR01reVJfM0swNGdOenk5bVVsNjQ2MA&q=https%3A%2F%2Flearn.thomassmithyman.com%2Femail&v=BauKaB8Nd3I] If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjZONFFlVjZERENrSWtKSEhIM1JpTWhKbGptQXxBQ3Jtc0ttZGxyODhmZkpfMWNDT1FiZWxVMTVZWVo2YVdmWnF1bjhJcktQdXMtaVJqQWFuUE1HVEp1a3hrLTNjUHVFZTRDZXdfcExtU18zcUFfUFhjdDhRSWt3RHV3bkRvNUNxaUc4Nzg3VlFRelBERWNISXp4dw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fgeni.us%2FDatingWithoutFear&v=BauKaB8Nd3I]

Why You Can't Stop Overthinking (When You Like Someone)

In this episode, I explain what triggers overthinking when you like someone, what your mind is trying to do, and why it gets stuck — along with a better way to approach it.   Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbk0zR05vQWxMd3F2aFBVeFlLY0hnUGV6Z01YQXxBQ3Jtc0trOF9RY0c0WnRvTDRRaDhXbVJkTU9VaS1CMS1TanotVUxUVEx2MEN3b0luX3pCRXRDMkl3czlnVG1QMzU2Z0VRV1hFZjktWG85Y2ZpUlhjWXJIUjBSeWtmcU16LXJMZ2lVQkNZS0RSMUJ4ZjI4YWFtWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flearn.thomassmithyman.com%2Femail&v=rBjGarODP6I] If you want to work on dating and connecting, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkxNbTc1UmF6SGl5M3VYTERDc24wMjNtUjV5d3xBQ3Jtc0trSTdHbVctTUFxUDBfdmpnZmdmMWI1TFNDU1E2aldVTk9TNDJfNi1OVVY0V3I5Y1J3dEI1bHRhWThKNUo2RVdYLUQwR0NTLUxuWjdMandKeHVjVmJWZ2xkc1VFUFUzSlp6Nl9DOWFyOVpjMmhSRWJmcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fgeni.us%2FDatingWithoutFear&v=xisfM-Ep060]

Why Jumping Ahead Is Holding You Back In Life

Do you spend a lot of time thinking about possible issues in the future? I've seen this cause a lot of problems for people lately. This video game analogy seems to help. You can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa3RHU0JINjJPNnIwUEdUczhsdHpvYzdKLXAwUXxBQ3Jtc0tuejdxT3k0ZmdmVUZ2Zkdxd05rcmlCcjhWQzltNXFnOVdvamQtLUJZaE9sZHdST3d0LWc3UEc2UjktY3o0TVF6Q3dCRmpqM0twdGNaTGJxeURyNno1clZWem1NNlEzQ0d4akxPZ08wdU54RUVSOHVZYw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fgeni.us%2FDatingWithoutFear&v=C965MaOqGsU] Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbk0zR05vQWxMd3F2aFBVeFlLY0hnUGV6Z01YQXxBQ3Jtc0trOF9RY0c0WnRvTDRRaDhXbVJkTU9VaS1CMS1TanotVUxUVEx2MEN3b0luX3pCRXRDMkl3czlnVG1QMzU2Z0VRV1hFZjktWG85Y2ZpUlhjWXJIUjBSeWtmcU16LXJMZ2lVQkNZS0RSMUJ4ZjI4YWFtWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Flearn.thomassmithyman.com%2Femail&v=rBjGarODP6I]

The Day I Overcame Social Anxiety

I share my journey overcoming social anxiety, which led me to write my book. Through personal stories and strategies backed by clinical experience, I explore how to move from fear and avoidance into what I call the "Warm Social World," where meaningful connections feel natural. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa3NXOFhJY0tOQ2VvQjdTaU5HOTdaZlA1OTdBd3xBQ3Jtc0ttSlRJdnVmRFhPbk8yZHFaNnM1Tm10ejVIUkM2SDRRSkVtLVZUYXdMOVhDNmttWldValh4MFNsaWJJdFBUY2tnN1BlOXdkWlplZXJ0b3pEWTc5eW5aSV9IbFhFcjJ5LUNsYUgzTWJKQW82NmMyMG5qcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fgeni.us%2FDatingWithoutFear&v=bokdL9XIWVs] Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email [https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email]

The Real Secret to Self-Confidence (You’ve Been Doing It Wrong)

Becoming self-confident is easier than it seems (if you understand it). In this episode, I discuss the insight that changed everything for me. Backed by psychological research and personal insights, I reveal the real meaning of self-confidence and how it can transform your life. For more on psychology and personal growth, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa3NXOFhJY0tOQ2VvQjdTaU5HOTdaZlA1OTdBd3xBQ3Jtc0ttSlRJdnVmRFhPbk8yZHFaNnM1Tm10ejVIUkM2SDRRSkVtLVZUYXdMOVhDNmttWldValh4MFNsaWJJdFBUY2tnN1BlOXdkWlplZXJ0b3pEWTc5eW5aSV9IbFhFcjJ5LUNsYUgzTWJKQW82NmMyMG5qcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fgeni.us%2FDatingWithoutFear&v=bokdL9XIWVs] I’m creating a workshop to help you date and connect with confidence — tell me what you want me to cover: https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA [https://forms.gle/MUBu4MqMGcPsqNMDA] Optimize your social and psychological health with my newsletter: https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email [https://learn.thomassmithyman.com/email]