Fem MD

The Athlete-to-Surgeon Pipeline: Women Surgeons, Stress & the Athlete Mentality

On this episode of FEM, MD, Dr. Lauren Umstattd sits down with double board-certified facial plastic surgeon Dr. Natalie Krane for a candid conversation about the surprising overlap between elite athletics and surgical training. From Division I soccer and career-ending injuries to residency culture, burnout, performance psychology, and personal wellness, they unpack the coping mechanisms that make high-achieving women successful — and the ways those same traits can quietly erode long-term wellbeing. The two surgeons discuss restorative breathing in the operating room, microbreaks during surgery, the psychology of performance under pressure, protecting life outside the hospital, and why “even baddies get saddies.” They also reflect on ambition, retirement, identity outside medicine, and the realization that women are allowed to “take up more space” — in medicine and in life. This episode is for every woman in medicine who has ever pushed through exhaustion, ignored her body’s signals, or wondered what it means to build a sustainable life alongside a meaningful career. Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md Guest: Dr. Natalie Krane Connect with Natalie @drnataliekrane https://drnataliekrane.com/ Produced by: The Hippocratic Collective See more shows and content at hippocratic-collective.com

Married, Then a Throuple: Rethinking Love, Commitment, and Monogamy with Dr. Rachel Meir

What happens when a long-term marriage evolves beyond monogamy? In this episode of FEM, MD, Dr. Lauren Umstattd sits down with clinical psychologist and relationship coach Dr. Rachel Meir to explore what it actually looks like to open a relationship—and why more people are questioning traditional models of love. Dr. Meir shares her personal story of being married for over 20 years before coming out as bisexual, opening her marriage, and ultimately building a committed triad relationship. Together, they unpack the emotional, logistical, and cultural realities of non-monogamy—from communication and jealousy to family reactions and societal expectations. This conversation isn’t just about polyamory. It’s about identity, honesty, and what it means to build a relationship that actually fits your life. In this episode, they discuss: * What polyamory actually is (and what it isn’t) * Opening a long-term marriage—how it really happens * Jealousy, insecurity, and emotional regulation * The logistics of a “throuple” relationship * Navigating family, career, and social judgment * How communication—not structure—is what makes relationships work * Why vulnerability is the foundation of any healthy relationship Whether you’re curious about non-traditional relationships or simply want a deeper understanding of connection, this episode will challenge assumptions about love, commitment, and what’s possible. Subscribe for more conversations on career, identity, and modern womanhood in medicine. Dr. Rachael Meir is a sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and kink-aware psychologist and sex/relationship coach who helps people explore ethical non-monogamy—including polyamory, open relationships, and swinging— without the fear of judgment, jealousy, or damaged relationships. As a bisexual woman in a polyamorous triad with her partners, Aaron and Kasey, she brings both personal and professional expertise. Dr. Meir is the author of 50 Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relationship, a practical and compassionate guide to help individuals and couples navigate non-monogamy with confidence and clarity. Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md Guest: Dr. Rachel Meir Connect with Rachel: @drrachaelmeircoaching https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/retreat-2026 - Thriving Throuples Retreat https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/ Produced by: The Hippocratic Collective See more shows and content at hippocratic-collective.com

From Residency to Owning a Surgical Practice (With Kids): The Truth No One Tells You

What does it actually take to build a successful surgical practice—and a life outside of it? In this episode of FEM, MD, Dr. Lauren Umstattd sits down with double board-certified facial plastic surgeon Dr. Lindsey Pennington to talk about the realities of modern surgical careers: from patient red flags and pricing decisions to working with your spouse, motherhood, and building a business that’s actually sustainable. They get candid about the “era of yes” early in your career, why learning to say no is critical, and how protecting your time can completely change your practice—and your life. Dr. Pennington also shares: * The biggest patient red flags (and why ignoring them backfires) * How she built and scaled her private practice * What it’s really like working with your husband in the OR * The tradeoffs between revenue, time, and family * Why she stopped focusing on money—and what happened instead * Leadership, burnout, and the shift from surgeon to CEO This is a conversation about ambition, boundaries, and building a career on your own terms. Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md Guest: Lindsey Pennington, MD Connect with Lindsey: @penningtonfacialplastics https://penningtonfacialplastics.com/ Produced by: The Hippocratic Collective See more shows and content at hippocratic-collective.com

The Psychology of Narcissists (and Why They Thrive in Power)

What if the most dangerous relationships don’t look dangerous at first? In this episode of FEM, MD, Dr. Lauren Umstattd sits down with psychotherapist Vanessa Reiser to unpack the reality of narcissistic abuse—how it starts, why it’s so hard to leave, and why even highly trained professionals aren’t immune. From love bombing and future faking to gaslighting and trauma bonding, this conversation breaks down the patterns that keep people stuck—and the subtle warning signs most of us miss. Vanessa also shares her own story of escaping an abusive relationship and spending years navigating a system that often fails victims. They explore: * The difference between narcissistic traits vs. narcissistic personality disorder * Why some “dark traits” can actually fuel professional success * The cycle of abuse—and why it feels addictive * Red flags in dating that are often dismissed as “personality quirks” * Why autonomy—not avoidance—is the real protection * How to support a friend without pushing them further in This is not just about relationships. It’s about power, identity, and the uncomfortable truth that not everyone is wired the same way. If you’ve ever felt confused, drained, or like you’re losing yourself in a relationship—this episode will help you name it. And once you can name it, you can start to leave it. Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md Guest: Vanessa Reiser, LCSW Connect with Vanessa: @vanessareiserlcsw https://morewithbrookemartin.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa1ZOeXZDN0JJQ2d0akNyR2FzdlNpNDZTR3VLZ3xBQ3Jtc0trazl3X3I5VGV0TjZEdzZWbmo5YjF1bHBCcGdySDNMOGJsNWZHRlBROVN0bm14eDk3VVRlbnllSEZ4Tzl4UXRPNXE1Y01ITkRuek1hZ3otblJ5VEtCYlVaZ19fTHphck1jQW0xTm1LOE9Hekd0c0FEOA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fmorewithbrookemartin.com%2F&v=Bbt9g8nUXFc] Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People: https://www.amazon.com/Narcissistic-Abuse-Therapists-Identifying-Manipulative/dp/0306833174 Presented by: ‪@HippocraticCollective‬ [https://www.youtube.com/@HippocraticCollective] Vanessa Reiser is a mother, author, entrepreneur, 2X Ironman and psychotherapist licensed in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida, specializing in narcissistic and cult abuse. She is also the founder of Tell a Therapist, LLC and is best known for her run across the state of New York (285 miles in 11 days) in a wedding dress to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse. She also subsequently ran across NJ, CT, MA & RI with plans to traverse Maryland June 5, 2026. Her insights are both personal and professional, giving her a unique lens into this insidious form of domestic abuse. She recently published "Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People," available at Hachettebookgroup.com Vanessa holds a bachelor’s degree in political science and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Southern California with a focus on community organizing. Vanessa is also a social media influencer, sharing life-changing information that is educational and validating to those impacted by narcissistic abuse. Vanessa has been interviewed by prestigious news and media outlets like People Magazine, The New York Times, Fox News, MSN, and The New York Post.

The Surgeon Becomes the Subject: Dr. Lauren Umstattd on Building It All

In this special episode of FEM MD, the tables turn. Host Dr. Lauren Umstattd steps into the hot seat as she’s interviewed by her cousin, former Emmy-winning journalist Brooke Martin. What follows is an unfiltered look at the woman behind the brand—surgeon, founder, mother, and builder of one of the most sought-after facial plastic practices in the Midwest. They cover: 1. What it actually takes to build a surgical practice from the ground up 2. The myth of a “flawless” medical career—and what failure really looked like 3. Confidence, imposter syndrome, and learning to trust yourself 4. The emotional reality of surgery (for both doctor and patient) 5. Work, motherhood, and the truth about “balance” 6. Why she believes you don’t need to rush your life This is a rare, behind-the-scenes conversation about ambition, identity, and choosing your life on your own terms. If you’ve ever wondered what it really looks like to build something from nothing—this episode is it. Host: Dr. Lauren Umstattd Connect with Lauren: @lauren_umstattd_md Guest: Brooke Martin Connect with Brooke: @brookemartin.tv https://morewithbrookemartin.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa1ZOeXZDN0JJQ2d0akNyR2FzdlNpNDZTR3VLZ3xBQ3Jtc0trazl3X3I5VGV0TjZEdzZWbmo5YjF1bHBCcGdySDNMOGJsNWZHRlBROVN0bm14eDk3VVRlbnllSEZ4Tzl4UXRPNXE1Y01ITkRuek1hZ3otblJ5VEtCYlVaZ19fTHphck1jQW0xTm1LOE9Hekd0c0FEOA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fmorewithbrookemartin.com%2F&v=Bbt9g8nUXFc] Controlled Burn: https://store.dexteritybooks.com/prod... [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa0EtcVIxZVhOOG5CeTdzZDlyUEFZWGQ2TTBEUXxBQ3Jtc0tuUG1ZSUZSajVSR2hFY2hoVk5Fa01lVVFlRXJVNWZSTkZzdE5pZG1nYmp5N1A0QUNuMGhrMzNTWXRZVjlEcXVPNGRHajkwUXlJYTFsU2dvMDhBU1hMY1Y4WlU5ekVvZEl2b1FxcjlxcTY2T0E3bE5tcw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fstore.dexteritybooks.com%2Fproducts%2Fcontrolled-burn-rising-from-the-ashes-to-forge-an-unshakable-faith&v=Bbt9g8nUXFc] Presented by: ‪@HippocraticCollective‬ [https://www.youtube.com/@HippocraticCollective]