Finally Seen

Ambitious Women: Eliminate The Excuses Keeping You Small and Start Taking Action with Mark A. Dulaney

Why do smart, capable people stay stuck even when they know exactly what to do? In this week’s episode of the Finally Seen™ podcast, join us for a bold and deeply honest conversation as we sit down with author and “Personal Drill Sergeant” Mark A. Dulaney to unpack the hidden fears, self-imposed limitations, and emotional protection mechanisms that keep people from creating the life they actually want. We’ll explore the psychology behind excuses, perfectionism, victim mentality, fear of judgment, and why so many people negotiate with themselves instead of taking aligned action. Mark shares lessons from surviving cancer, rebuilding his life at 65, and launching the Eliminating Excuses movement with virtually no money, proving that courage matters more than perfect circumstances. This episode is for ambitious women, leaders, entrepreneurs, and anyone ready to stop playing small and finally move forward with clarity, confidence, and personal responsibility. In This Episode: * What excuses really are and why they’re rooted in fear * The danger of self-imposed limitations * Why perfectionism is often disguised procrastination * How victim mentality keeps people stuck * The role parents play in modeling possibility or limitation * Why execution matters more than information * The connection between personal responsibility and freedom * How to start before you feel fully ready This episode is sponsored by: Bobelo (Use code ChrissyBernal15% at checkout to get 15% off!) Bio: Mark A. Dulaney is the author of Eliminating Excuses, creator of the Eliminating Excuses movement, and host of the Eliminating Excuses podcast. Known as “The Personal Drill Sergeant,” Mark helps people identify and eliminate the fears, self-imposed limitations, and excuses keeping them from creating the life they truly want. After overcoming cancer and rebuilding his life in his 60s, Mark now inspires audiences with his direct, practical approach to personal responsibility, discipline, mindset, and execution. LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/markdulaney [http://linkedin.com/in/markdulaney] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mark_thm_dulaney/ [https://www.instagram.com/mark_thm_dulaney/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mark.dulaney.54/ [https://www.facebook.com/mark.dulaney.54/] Skool: eliminateexcuses.com/ [http://eliminateexcuses.com/] Podcast: podcast.eliminateexcuses.com/ [http://podcast.eliminateexcuses.com/] Book: eliminatingexcuses.me/ [http://eliminatingexcuses.me/] Tags: eliminating excuses, self-sabotage, overcoming fear, perfectionism, personal growth podcast, women empowerment podcast, accountability mindset, discipline and success, personal responsibility, victim mentality, mindset shifts, confidence building, visibility mindset, entrepreneurship mindset, emotional resilience, overcoming procrastination, self-imposed limitations, leadership mindset, motivational podcast, finally seen podcast, personal development, business mindset, growth mindset beabetterbrand.com/ [https://beabetterbrand.com/]

Why Smart Women Feel Misaligned and How to Stop Shrinking with Ann Kelley

What if the problem isn’t you, but the environment you’ve been trying to succeed in? In this week’s episode of the Finally Seen™ podcast, we welcome author, speaker, and leadership expert Ann Kelley to unpack the invisible rules that shape how we show up at work, in relationships, and in our own lives.  Ann introduces the concept behind her book, Roof Rules, the idea that every space operates under its own set of expectations, and misalignment doesn’t mean you’re broken; it means you may be under the wrong roof. This conversation dives into identity, personal branding, boundaries, and the difference between adapting and erasing yourself. If you’ve ever questioned your worth, muted your voice, or felt like you had to shrink to succeed, this episode will help you see what’s really going on and how to navigate it with clarity and confidence. In This Episode: * Meet Ann Kelley and the Origin of “Roof Rules” * The Childhood Moment That Changed Everything * Invisible Rules in Work, Culture, and Identity * I’m Broken” vs. Being in the Wrong Environment * How Childhood Beliefs Shape Adult Behavior * Personal Branding, Alignment, and Core Identity * Adaptation vs. Self-Erasure * Setting Boundaries Without Burning Bridges * Leadership, Team Culture, and Creating Your Own Roof * The Power of Pause and Living in Alignment This episode is sponsored by: Bobelo (Use code ChrissyBernal15% at checkout to get 15% off!) Bio: Ann Kelley is an author, speaker, and former corporate executive with more than twenty years of leadership experience in complex organizations. She holds an MBA and professional credentials, including CPA and CFP, along with other professional certifications that have shaped her practical approach to understanding systems, leadership, and human behavior. Ann believes no one is ordinary. We are layered, capable, and original, even when life tries to sort us into neat categories. Her work explores the invisible systems that shape our lives. Family, culture, workplaces, and communities quietly influence what we reach for, what we tolerate, and what we believe we are allowed to want. Drawing on both professional experience and personal insight, Ann writes about recognizing these patterns and choosing our next step with intention. When our values align with the environment around us, decisions become clearer and forward movement feels more natural. Through her books, Ann offers readers thoughtful frameworks and practical language for navigating the forces that shape our lives while staying true to who we are. Website: https://belvitri.com/index.html [https://belvitri.com/index.html] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-kelley-greville-124bb038a/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-kelley-greville-124bb038a/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/greville.ak/ [https://www.instagram.com/greville.ak/] beabetterbrand.com/ [https://beabetterbrand.com/]

The “No Jerks” Rule: The Boundary That Changed Everything with Paige Arnof-Fenn

What if the real reason your business isn’t scaling… is because you’re doing too much? In this week’s episode of the Finally Seen™ podcast, Paige Arnof-Fenn, CEO and founder of Mavens & Moguls, shares how years of high performance, constant execution, and entrepreneurial hustle led straight to burnout and how a season of personal loss forced her to completely rethink her approach to business, leadership, and success. This conversation dives deep into the execution trap, a pattern many women entrepreneurs fall into where overworking, overdelivering, and always being “on” feels like the path to growth but actually leads to burnout, misalignment, and stalled business growth. Paige breaks down how setting clear boundaries in business, protecting her time, and shifting from quantity to quality transformed not only her marketing strategy and client relationships but also her ability to scale sustainably. If you’re a founder, creative, or service provider feeling stretched thin, stuck in constant output mode, or questioning how to grow without burning out, this episode will give you a new framework for sustainable success. In This Episode: * Meet Paige Arnof-Fenn and the origin of Mavens & Moguls * How 9/11 unexpectedly led to a new business model * The hustle phase and what it really costs you * Personal loss, perspective shifts, and redefining success * The “no jerks” policy and protecting your team culture * Why overdelivering can hurt your business * Scaling lessons: hiring, growth, and letting people go * Niche positioning and building a magnetic brand * Creating white space and setting better boundaries * What actually matters at the end of the day This episode is sponsored by: Bobelo (Use code ChrissyBernal15% at checkout to get 15% off!) Bio: Paige Arnof-Fenn is the founder and CEO of Mavens & Moguls, a global network of senior marketing experts helping brands grow through strategic storytelling and visibility. A former VP of Marketing at Zipcar and Inc.com, she has also held leadership roles at Launch Media and worked with global brands like Procter & Gamble and The Coca-Cola Company. Paige is a trusted advisor, board leader, and Harvard Business School MBA known for helping companies build brands that stand out and scale. Website: https://mavensandmoguls.com/ [https://mavensandmoguls.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paigearnoffenn/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/paigearnoffenn/] beabetterbrand.com/ [https://beabetterbrand.com/]

Who Are You After Loss? Caregiving, Grief, and Finding Yourself Again with Suzy McNamara

Who are you when the roles you’ve built your life around begin to disappear? In this week’s episode of the Finally Seen™ podcast, join us for this powerful and deeply human conversation as we sit down with author Suzy McNamara to explore what it really means to love through loss and rebuild yourself in the aftermath. After losing both her husband to early-onset Alzheimer’s and her sister within the same year, Suzy shares the unfiltered truth of caregiving, anticipatory grief, and the identity shift no one prepares you for. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, who am I now? Let this conversation inspire you to become someone new, on purpose. In this episode, we’ll explore: * The identity shift from partner to caregiver and what gets lost along the way * Why anticipatory grief hits differently and how it reshapes your reality * The emotional toll of early-onset Alzheimer’s on marriage and family * How faith can anchor you when nothing makes sense * The power of storytelling, honesty, and community in healing * What it really takes to rebuild after profound loss This episode is sponsored by: Bobelo (Use code ChrissyBernal15% at checkout to get 15% off!) Bio: Suzy McNamara is an author, poet, mother of four, fundraiser, lawyer, Secular Carmelite, and widow. In 2024, she lost her husband of 37 years, Bob McNamara, to Posterior Cortical Atrophy, an aggressive form of early-onset Alzheimer’s, after caring for him for five years in their home. Months before her husband died, her sister and best friend, Elizabeth Muslin, died from Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis. She dove into her grief and trauma to write this memoir as both a love letter to her husband and her sister, and to begin a conversation with her fellow caregivers and sisters-in-arms in the battle of loss and grief. As Suzy writes, grief is a lonely sport and building community and companionship is key to survival. Suzy writes honestly about the physical and emotional challenges of caregiving, but also celebrates the magic of love and connection with the ones she lost and the ones who walked with her during the journey of loss. Suzy shared her lifelong love of books, movies, and music with her husband and her sister and  now finds great joy in sharing those interests with her children. She fights back the loneliness of grief by immersing herself in her sustaining faith practices and by surrounding herself with those four wonderful adult children and the community of friends that she and her husband built together.  Website: suzymcnamara.com/ [https://suzymcnamara.com/] Facebook: facebook.com/suzy.mcnamara [http://facebook.com/suzymcnamara] LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/suzymcnamara [https://www.linkedin.com/in/suzymcnamara/]  Instagram: instagram.com/mcnamara.suzy [https://www.instagram.com/mcnamara.suzy/] beabetterbrand.com/ [https://beabetterbrand.com/]

When Your Body Is Fighting You: Autoimmune Illness, Advocacy, and the Power of Food with Annie Toro Lopez

What happens when your own body becomes the battleground? In this week’s episode of the Finally Seen™ podcast, we welcome author and autoimmune advocate Annie Toro Lopez for a candid conversation about resilience, healing, and learning to advocate for yourself when the medical system doesn’t always listen. Annie was diagnosed with lupus in her twenties and later faced celiac disease during a season of deep personal loss. What followed was a powerful journey of reclaiming her health, understanding the role of food as foundational medicine, and building community for women navigating autoimmune challenges. Listen in as we explore the emotional and physical realities of autoimmune illness, how women are often dismissed in healthcare, and why self-advocacy is one of the most powerful tools we have.  If you've ever felt dismissed, overwhelmed by your health, or like your body is working against you, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone and that healing often begins with reclaiming your voice. In This Episode: * Annie’s lupus diagnosis and the long road to answers * The reality of living with autoimmune illness * Why women’s health issues are often dismissed * Food as a powerful tool for healing and resilience * Building community and connection while navigating chronic illness * The mindset shift from surviving to advocating for yourself This episode is sponsored by: Bobelo (Use code ChrissyBernal15% at checkout to get 15% off!) Bio: Annie Toro Lopez is an author, chef, and transformational speaker who teaches audiences how to thrive through life's challenges. She reversed lupus through visualization, nutrition, and mind/body/gut connection. Later, while navigating profound personal loss and a celiac diagnosis while competing in a national cooking competition, she proved again how mindset and food can fundamentally transform health.  A former teacher whose students achieved top rankings, Annie authored Simply Gluten-Free: Real Ingredients for Everyday Life and founded DAWN - the Denver Area Women's Network, supporting 500+ women through life's transitions. With 20 years of documented lupus remission and a lifetime of overcoming ‘impossible’ challenges, Annie helps audiences and community members discover that healing begins with how you speak to yourself, and that self-care is not selfish. Website: https://www.annietorolopez.com/ [https://www.annietorolopez.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annie-toro-lopez-a410b330/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/annie-toro-lopez-a410b330/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annietorolopez7781 [https://www.youtube.com/@annietorolopez7781] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/annie.toro.lopez/ [https://www.facebook.com/annie.toro.lopez/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annietorolopez [https://www.tiktok.com/@annietorolopez] beabetterbrand.com/ [https://beabetterbrand.com/]